Avoid the Ruts, Choose Different with Jake Carlson
Sometimes, it takes slamming our forehead to realize we were pushing on a pull door. We can be harsh on ourselves for not noticing the "pull" sign, or we can be compassionate, perhaps be more alert for clues next time, and leave that moment behind us, right next to the embarrassment we just felt.
Today, the amazing Jake Carlson joins us to talk about inspirational leadership, the courage needed to choose differently and its benefits, self-compassion, and the importance of creating core memories with our families.
Jake is a father of three, a husband, a speaker, writer and mentor, and host of the Modern Leadership podcast. He's passionate about driving leaders right into leadership's new era. Inspired by hours of listening to Zig Zigler at the "Automobile University," where his father used to play Zigler's cassettes, Jake decided to change people's lives, just like his mentor.
In this episode, Jake shares stories of incredible value about his family life and how he purposely chose differently to pursue an ambitious outcome that ended up working out a bit later than he expected. We delve into the recently coined by ourselves term, "ROIT," Return On Invested Time, the importance of taking a step back from our crazy routines to create core memories with our children and wife, and why we shouldn't be harsh with ourselves when we fail.
Jake also talks about the different outcomes we can expect from focusing on improving our strengths and weaknesses; he shares an incredibly original top action step and much more.
Some Questions I Ask:
Please tell us a little bit more about your story. And what got you here? (3:14)
I've previously heard you teach how to "choose something different." What does that mean when you say that? (9:53)
What else is getting you excited in your business or life? What are things that are going on that just get you excited? (34:24)
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
About Jake's experiences at the "Automobile University" with his dad and Zig Zigler (6:05)
How to get out of the ruts, and why it is essential to “choosing different” (10:39)
Selling everything and getting a lifetime supply of adventures in a year (14:01)
Sometimes you have to pause what you are doing if you want to create "ROIT" (23:30)
Is improving our weaknesses as important as improving our strengths? (32:13)
What can we learn from pushing a pull door (43:01)
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