Death By Design
The Death Deck
Season 3, Ep. 21
THE DEATH DECK
The Death Deck offers up thought-provoking questions with a large dose of humor to help take the taboo out of the topic of death. Unique among card decks and conversation tools, this witty game encourages players to share their thoughts and stories and gets people talking about personal preferences on life’s ultimate decisions in a non-threatening and surprisingly fun way.
ABOUT THE CREATORS
Lori LoCicero is a freelance writer and the co-creator of The Death Deck. A creative storyteller and eternal optimist, Lori combines her personal stories of loss with her innate sense of humor to write about life and talk about death. She has written and directed independent films, documentaries, and a variety of live gala events. Her upcoming memoir offers readers an intimate look at loss and her discovery of posttraumatic growth and was the catalyst for the creation of The Death Deck: a lively and humorous card game that inspires meaningful conversations on what matters most in our lives and in our deaths.
Lisa Pahl is a Hospice Social Worker, ER Crisis Interventionist, and co-creator of The Death Deck. Lisa’s goal is to help people cope with illness, dying, and grief. With a passionate belief that peace at the end begins with meaningful conversations over time, she engages people in talking about and preparing for this difficult stage of life. Embracing a challenging but equally rewarding career as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in both the trenches of ER and within her true passion working in hospice, Lisa has witnessed hundreds of deaths which have taught her innumerable lessons about truly appreciating life.
SOCIAL MEDIA INFO
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Jeremy Burrill, Fiddlehead Casket Company
Season 3, Ep. 29
Master Craftsman Jeremy Burrill has been creating functional art for two decades, ranging from custom dining tables to electric guitars.Spurred by the need for an environmentally friendly, economical and dignified option for families to honour their loved ones, Burrill is now creating simple yet refined pine-box caskets.Hand-crafted from local New Brunswick pine, his creations are elegantly laying down those to rest who prefer the simple things in life.With ever growing costs and complications in the funeral process, Fiddlehead Casket Company seeks to reduce stress, both financially and emotionally, offering an environmentally friendly pine casket.Even the cherry dowels used for joinery are handmade, and a refined casket is born at the hands of Burrill.You can reach Jeremy any time firstname.lastname@example.org://www.fiddleheadcaskets.com
Paul King, The Death Diaries
Season 3, Ep. 29
Paul King:The day that my dad died is indelibly etched in my mindspace.I can’t unsee the staples and indenton his head left behind from a piece of removed skull to make way for the tumor that would take his life.I can’t unhear the sounds of my mom’s desperate voice when she discovered he had diedwhile she was sitting in the room.I can’t unpack how a man can be playing nine holes of golf and splitting wood one day to speaking gibberish on the next.I can’t understand how a 59yo man isn’t alive to see my or my sister’s wedding, future children, and kickass career.I can’t undo the agonizing pain of withholding the truth of my experience.My dad had died. And when he did... it blew the lid off my happy family.My life was permanently, andirreversibly changed.I have been intimate with death.<LONG PAUSE>Everyone and everything on this planet will face the same fate. Stories make it easier. These are those.This is The Death Diaries. I am your host, Paul King.On this podcast, I’m welcoming conversations about death.Together, we’ll seek the deeper meaning of Life (and her wicked-but-misunderstood stepmother, Death.)Through self exploration, soul searching, and honest talk, I hope to normalize death.This way, it won’t be sobig and so scary when it happens to you.TRANSITIONThis is “D-Squared.” The episode where we square up with death, and don’t back down.If you love this episode as much as I do, head over to iTunes, stitcher or wherever you listen and subscribe.MAINDear Diary, Why are we here? If we’re born to die….. what’s the point?From the moment of birth you are on a slow and steady march towards dying.It seems to me like we’re in denial about what it’s going to be like to get intimate with death. Big time. No one wants to talk about it. We pretend it’s not even a thing, Not yet, anyway. Not for a good long while. At least I hope, rIght?That seems like a pretty upside down way of thinking about something not a single living thing on this planet can escape.It’s almost like we think that just talking about it will bring down the hammer.Add in the feelings of isolation, shame, guilt, and denial, the stigma….. It’s really bringing us down. You know, as a people.To be ready for anything, it behooves humanity to be a lot more open to understanding death.I mean, what really does happen when you expire as a person….. or as a dog? What is the natural process, Diary? I just can’t wrap my head around it.How do we talk to the kids, what’s considered “normal” in grieving, and what the hell do I do next?I’m tired of feeling uncomfortable, that butterflies in the tummy feeling that means HIGH ANXIETY. (Yeah, yeah, THAT feeling. You know what I'm talking about.)I’m sick of the topic being so taboo. It's one humongous elephant in the room.Diary, today I am taking my life back.I’m making a commitment to stop avoiding the topic.We’re having the tough talk. AndWe’re putting it all on the table.Just listen.TRANSITIONAll I wanna know is, are you in? I double dog dare you stop ignoring the big, scary topic of death and be ready to face it like the resourceful, brave, and authentic human you are.Let’s get it out there.Are you afraid to die? Fear that someone that you love is going to die?We're going to talk about planning for death and really taking control of how you personally will die. What happens physically during the death? And what happens afterwards?The Death Diaries Podcast is going to explore different philosophies and talk to people from all walks of life, different backgrounds. What is their story?Reincarnation, heaven versus hell, and multiple philosophies around this and that. We’re going to talk about after death rituals and ceremonies, the celebrations of life, and burials.Let’s go deep on how to talk about death, with adults and kids.While we’re at it, let’s dissect the whole grieving process. There are a ton of feelings that come with it, the isolation, feeling ashamed, the lack of knowledge…..and a lot of that leads to denial.And just what does it mean to live a fruitful, fulfilled life? we're born to die so what are we doing every day to live this fulfilled life that truly makes all of us happy?We'll talk about dying in the digital age and social media. We're going to talk about all that stuff.So if you (or someone you know) has an experience or a story you'd like to share, head on over to thedeathdiariespodcast.com and let us know. We'd love to have you on the show.Again, it's thedeathdiariespodcast.com.OUTROThis has been the first episode of The Death Diaries Podcast with your host Paul King.Subscribe on iTunes, or wherever you get your podcasts to be notified of future episodes. Let’s talk about death, are you in?https://www.thedeathdiariespodcast.com
Season 3, Ep. 28
Meaningful Trainings is the visionary creation of Blair Jennings and Fell Cadwallader. In partnership for more than a quarter century, Blair and Fell weave a story that includes threads from the mundane to the wondrous, the sublime to the grand. A story not very different from many others, this dynamic distillation of history and experience serves as the basis for each unique and effective learning engagement designed by Meaningful Trainings.That which makes us whole -- our commonalities and differences, individually and collectively -- represents the very heart of all Meaningful Trainings services. We believe the power of our story applies in any setting: that is how accumulated experience, perspective and knowledge are put to work within ourselves and with others.W. Blair Jennings, Wells College 1986, B.A. EnglishBlair has engaged in a variety of occupations and endeavors that read less like a resume and more like a mystery in that she admittedly wonders"what next?" and/or "why?".A seeker at heart, Blair has taken the opportunities presented and crafted them into her life's work: Meaningful Trainings.Blair's professional arc encompasses roles as diverse as medical news producer, Montessori educator and YMCA Executive Director. In the spaces between she's been a spouse, mother, daughter, friend, writer and community advocate. Blair is enthused with an energy and creativity that ignites the motivation, creativity, seeking and practicality each Meaningful Training engagement.Fell Cadwallader, Johnson & Wales University 1985, A.A. Culinary ScienceEmerging from the stainless steel classroom of the culinary arts profession, Fell followed a simple rule:be willing to learn.It continues to guide him in his personal and professional endeavors. Fell has always sought out a teacher who has mastered the talent he has wished to improve. Rather than believe that completion of one's training means he is ready to lead, Fell has always placed "ready to learn" first.Over thirty years, Fell has followed a path stretching from Rhode Island to California and back again, choosing to work among those whose drive and imagination create environments that facilitate growth -- in the individual and the institution. His non-traditional path has imbued Fell's learning and experience with perspectives, lessons and stories that now infuse his training and coaching relationships with the sought after spark many seek and hope to bring to their own endeavors.https://meaningfultrainings.com