Making Space with Jen Pillipow

In this episode I explore some of the obstacles and barriers to revealing our authenticity, which mainly stem from not feeling safe.Our subconscious minds mistakenly believe that our authentic selves aren't good enough, acceptable, or allowable. It then "protects" us by creating personality layers like perfectionism and people pleasing, which help us fit in but cause a lot of emotional turmoil. We forget we aren't meant to "fit in". We're meant to be different and share our unique perspectives and voice.Craving more authenticity?Website Online WorkshopsSeason 2 WorksheetsGO AND MAKE SOME SPACE FOR YOURSELFAs with all my work (and well, most everything), please listen with consideration of context, nuance, and discernment. This podcast is recorded in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan on Treaty 6 Territory the traditional land of the Cree people and the homeland of the Métis Nation. If you’re not sure whose land you’re on I invite you to get curious by visiting native-land.ca. Podcast music by Elliot Middleton "An Exciting Future"

A lot of clients I worked with had perfectionistic qualities but didn't identify with that title. In this episode I break down the some of the common limiting beliefs that come from a perfectionistic mindset: having a harsh inner critic, unrealistic expectations, fear of failure, being hard on yourself, and having an "all-or-nothing" attitude.The root limiting belief around this? Those traits are what create success.No!Being hard on yourself typically creates fear, keeps you small, and the failure (which, is part of every goal process) is crippling.Having self-compassion, setting realistic goals, seeing failure as opportunity, and giving yourself more than two choices (not just all, or nothing) are what actually support you in reaching your authentic goals.Do you feel like you may have some perfectionistic tendencies? Check out this blog post I wrote: 10 Signs You're A Perfectionist.Craving more authenticity?Website Online WorkshopsSeason 2 Worksheets GO AND MAKE SOME SPACE FOR YOURSELFAs with all my work (and well, most everything), please listen with consideration of context, nuance, and discernment.  This podcast is recorded in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan on Treaty 6 Territory the traditional land of the Cree people and the homeland of the Métis Nation. If you’re not sure whose land you’re on I invite you to get curious by visiting native-land.ca. Podcast music by Elliot Middleton "An Exciting Future"

Ooof. People pleasing. I'm not vilifying it completely - sometimes we need to people please for a lot of different reasons - but let's be discerning and aware of our choices.This is important because it keeps us in our own sovereignty, in our own power, and protects us from a victim mentality. A victim mentality feels terrible, like you have no control, life is happening "to you" and not "for you". Subtle but HUGE difference when it comes to living authentically.This takes self-awareness, fails, and practice. So have self-compassion and patience for yourself learning new skills.And by the way, did you know: you have the right to say no without feeling guiltyyou have the right to make mistakes, to course correct, or change your mind (and you don't have to explain yourself)you have a right to your preferences, feelings, and needs (even with they're misunderstood or disagreed with)you have the right to create boundaries that feel good to you (even though the people that benefited from your lack of boundaries will not like it)you have the right to prioritize your self-care and this does not make you selfishHonestly - it took me a long time to realize these things. I didn't know I was "aloud" to make boundaries. I didn't know that a feeling is a good enough reason for any decision. It is. ❤️I read somewhere that it's ok to decline invites when you have white space in your calendar. You can be busy watching Netflix, having a bath, or doing nothing. Busy also means unavailable for what you were asked to do. This is OK.Also - Season 3 of the podcast is ALL about people pleasing :) Craving more authenticity?Website Online WorkshopsSeason 2 Worksheets GO AND MAKE SOME SPACE FOR YOURSELFAs with all my work (and well, most everything), please listen with consideration of context, nuance, and discernment. This podcast is recorded in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan on Treaty 6 Territory the traditional land of the Cree people and the homeland of the Métis Nation. If you’re not sure whose land you’re on I invite you to get curious by visiting native-land.ca.  Podcast music by Elliot Middleton "An Exciting Future"