Making Space with Jen Pillipow

2/11/2022

Season 1: Introduction

Season 1, Ep. 1
Making Space was born out of the idea that our authenticity is"protected" under layers of social conditioning, traumas, and fears.The goal in my work is to help elevate and empowerthrough increasing self-knowledge, self-trust, self-awareness, self-compassion, basically all the"selves".You are the onethat will heal you. AND - the "how" and "when" are out of all of our control.Healing is not linear,it takes its own path and time.I don't believe anyone is "blocked", broken, or needs "fixing".But we like to believe that because it appeals to the victim in us that feels out of control.By making space between the conditioning, trauma, fears, and our authentic selves, we can create a healed response (vs. knee jerk reactions that don't serve) and live in alignment.Where it's easier to surrender to the process AND feel empowered.From here we can really start to build an authentic, aligned life - safely.What Making Space is all about:clearing out old beliefs, old patterns, old thoughtsmaking space for more energy, vitality, connection, and empowermentAs with all my work (and well, most everything), please listen with consideration of context, nuance, and discernment.Craving more authenticity? Check outMaking Space - The ProgramGO AND MAKE SOME SPACE FOR YOURSELFThis podcast is recorded in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan on Treaty 6 Territory the traditional land of the Cree people and the homeland of the Métis Nation. If you’re not sure whose land you’re on I invite you to get curious by visiting native-land.ca.Podcast music by Elliot Middleton "An Exciting Future"
2/11/2022

The People Pleasing Layer

Season 1, Ep. 4
Ooof. People pleasing.I'm not vilifying it completely - sometimes we need to people please for a lot of different reasons - but let's be discerning and aware of our choices.This is important because it keeps us in our own sovereignty, in our own power, and protects us from a victim mentality. A victim mentality feels terrible, like you have no control, life is happening "to you" and not "for you". Subtle but HUGE difference when it comes to living authentically.This takes self-awareness, fails, and practice. So have self-compassion and patience for yourself learning new skills.And by the way, did you know:you have the right to say no without feeling guiltyyou have the right to make mistakes, to course correct, or change your mind (and you don't have to explain yourself)you have a right to your preferences, feelings, and needs (even with they're misunderstood or disagreed with)you have the right to create boundaries that feel good to you (even though the people that benefited from your lack of boundaries will not like it)you have the right to prioritize your self-care and this does not make you selfishHonestly - it took me a long time to realize these things. I didn't know I was "aloud" to make boundaries. I didn't know that a feeling is a good enough reason for any decision. It is.❤️I read somewhere that it's ok to decline invites when you have white space in your calendar. You can be busy watching Netflix, having a bath, or doing nothing. Busy also means unavailable for what you were asked to do. This is OK.As with all my work (and well, most everything), please listen with consideration of context, nuance, and discernment.Craving more authenticity? Check outMaking Space - The ProgramGO AND MAKE SOME SPACE FOR YOURSELFThis podcast is recorded in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan on Treaty 6 Territory the traditional land of the Cree people and the homeland of the Métis Nation. If you’re not sure whose land you’re on I invite you to get curious by visiting native-land.ca.Podcast music by Elliot Middleton "An Exciting Future"
2/11/2022

Season 2: Unlinking Failure & Worthiness

Season 2, Ep. 2
If we fail and make it mean there’s something flawed in our character, or personality, or inherit worth – and we think those things are unchangeable no matter how much effort we expend...then we are linking failure to our worthiness.This of course, is not true. We're inherently worthy. Full stop. Not contingent on anything.Need proof? Are you breathing? You're alive? You're worthy.Many of us have a sordid relationship with failure. We think if we fail, we aren't good enough. If we make a mistake, it means we aren't good enough.Remember, perfectionism wants us to believe in only black and white, and all-or-nothing.Trauma wants us to believe there has to be a trade-off. One or the other. Only two choices.In this episode I offer a perspective shift: give yourself more than two choices, more than all-or-nothing or just black and white.There can be grey, in between. There can be hundreds of choices!It can be "yes-and" (for my improv actors out there).You can: fail AND be worthy; make a mistake AND still be lovable. 🤯Those concepts don't belong together, they are separate. Worthiness doesn't belong to any other concept. It just is.You are worthy. Full stop. Just cuz you're here.Failure is it's own concept. It doesn't have to mean anything other than "more practice required".We can stop beating ourselves up and treating common failures as epic failures.~Season 2 WorksheetsAbout Making Space: The Program~This podcast is recorded in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan on Treaty 6 Territory the traditional land of the Cree people and the homeland of the Métis Nation. If you’re not sure whose land you’re on I invite you to get curious by visiting native-land.ca.The podcast music is called Full Light Up the Stars by Gyom