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BONUS: Low Level + Hight Level Differentiation + our comfort with disagreeing

Season 3, Ep. 10

Assertiveness is a way that you express differences while remaining connected. This is so important for those of us that feel we'll lose connection if we're authentic.


In this episode, we discover the surprising link between people pleasing and struggling to be assertive. So much of our ability to assert what we need comes from self-support and the continual commitment to be who we are - and letting that be enough! 


We also discuss the difference between low-level differentiation and high-level differentiation.


"The ability to be assertive - to clearly and confidently express your feelings, thoughts, needs, and wants when they differ greatly from others who are important to you is essentially an expression of differentiation." (The Assertiveness Guide for Women: see show notes below for author).


Our ability to navigate the tension between our true needs and desire for connection is called differentiation.


Show Notes


The Assertiveness Guide for Women by Julie De Azevedo Hanks


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About the Host

Jen Pillipow is a podcaster, writer, certified clinical hypnotherapist, Reiki practitioner, psychic medium and novice abstract acrylic painter. She is passionate about personal development and helping others reconnect to their inner strength, power, healing, and authenticity.

 

Explore her online workshops, book a session, or get her free video series on how to release limiting beliefs and heal whole.

 

Visit www.jenpillipow.com for more information.

 

About the Guest Co-Host

Jennifer Kelly is a is a professional development trainer and positive psychology coach. You can learn more about her here:

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Twitter Coast2Coast Consulting @CtoCTraining

 

This podcast is recorded in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan on Treaty 6 Territory the traditional land of the Cree people and the homeland of the Metis Nation. If you’re not sure whose land you’re on I invite you to get curious by visiting native-land.ca

 

Podcast music: Light up the Stars (Gyom); An Exciting Future (Elliot Middleton) 

 

Disclaimer:

As with all my work (and well, most everything), please listen with consideration of context, nuance, and discernment.

 

Jen & Jennifer are not therapists, psychiatrists, or medical practitioners of any kind and in sharing their opinions and personal experiences this is a reminder that their words should never be misconstrued as professional advice.

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