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A Mother’s Heart : Dorothy Dersch, mom of 9. Trial, Triumph, and lessons along the way. Part 2

Ep. 18

How do you react when your children make mistakes? And what are your parenting strategies and your end goal?

I believe every mom has experienced her child crying in a grocery store or refusing to eat their food, and we all have our methods to deal with these situations, but do we always find the best solutions to these problems?

In the previous episode, Dorothy shared with us her story of how she became a mom to all her wonderful children, and in today’s episode, we discuss some of the methods that have proven efficient in raising independent, respectful and self-empowering children.

Dorothy Dersch is a mom of eight that has had more face to face time with intentional parenting than many people. She says that if you count each child as a unique relationship, she has accumulated a total of 196 parenting years. Her eight children have five different fathers, yet, she’s been married to her first and only husband for 34 years. Dorothy worked as a Registered Nurse for a decade before staying at home and managing their crew.

Questions I ask:

  • Are there some things that you guys have done as a family to really cultivate the relationship that your kids have with each other? (01:58)
  • Has there been a struggle for you to sit back and let your children make mistakes? (11:05)
  • What are some questions that you ask your teenagers when you know they’ve made a bad choice? (17:03)
  • If there is one message that you would like to share with mothers, what would it be? (23:02)

In this episode, you will learn:

  • What Dorothy did to get her kids to eat their food, and the meaning of a “Thank You” portion. (03:28)
  • How Dorothy found a way to keep her calm, whenever her kids started crying or disagreeing with her. (07:06)
  • Dorothy’s end goal, when she decides how to raise her children. (07:53)
  • Dorothy’s advice on when to give your kid access to a phone or other devices. (19:07)


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