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Episode 19Somatic Healing for MenOn Dissociation, Men’s Groups, and Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your BodyGuest: Duncan Rich — musician, somatic coach and founder of MeldEpisode DescriptionDuncan Rich grew up in a household where the rules were strict and the emotional space was narrow. He learned early to dissociate — to cut off from what he was feeling because feeling it wasn’t safe. At 18 he was asked to leave the house. What followed was 15 years on the road as a drummer, touring, self-destructive behaviour, living in his head while his body carried everything he wasn’t able to process.The shift came slowly. He left New York City for the mountains, almost by accident — evicted from his apartment, went for a month, stayed. In the quiet, things started emerging. He found a men’s group, started doing body-based work, and spent a decade showing up every week to practice being present in himself. From that, Meld was born — an organisation building somatic practice and community for men.In this conversation, Duncan explains what dissociation actually is and where it comes from, how the body stores what the mind can’t process, and why understanding your problem doesn’t always solve it. He talks about the gap between knowing something and feeling it — and why that gap is where the real work lives.He also talks about men’s groups — why they work, how they’re different from therapy, what it means to sit in a circle with other men and actually practise being present. And about what he’s building with Meld: programmes, retreats, and a book on how to start your own men’s group using somatic practice.Dom also opens up in this episode about his own experience since the accident last year — a growing intolerance for people who aren’t willing to be genuine, and what Duncan said in response that quietly landed.Timestamps00:00 Ask a Man How He’s Feeling and It’s Like, Good00:47 Note from Dom — Urgent Arm Operation and What It Made Him Think About01:59 Torque Ten — Quickfire Questions with Duncan04:09 What Is Dissociation — Duncan’s Definition05:37 The Body’s Signal — There’s More Here, There’s More Here06:25 It’s a Survival Mechanism We’ve Turned Against Ourselves06:55 The Origin for Duncan — An Overbearing Household08:45 Not Allowed Out After School — The Rules and the Punishment10:10 Teaching Him He’s Unsafe, Not Teaching Him the Skills11:00 Shutting Down the Desire to Have Needs at All14:30 15 Years on the Road as a Drummer — Risky Behaviour and Running17:00 The Slow Down — Leaving New York City for the Mountains19:00 Things Starting to Emerge in the Quiet20:30 The Healing Space Is Very Feminine — Where’s the Stuff for Men?22:00 Finding the Men’s Group and the Somatic Practice24:00 What Happens in the Group — Presence, Breath, Body25:30 Why Children Dissociate — When Caregivers Can’t Handle What’s Happening27:10 It’s Not My Fault, But It Is My Responsibility28:50 Breaking the Cycle — Passing Something Different to His Son30:30 The Gap Between Knowing and Feeling32:00 Understanding Your Problem Doesn’t Always Solve It34:00 Why Men’s Groups Work — What’s Different About Being in a Circle36:30 The Nervous System in a Group Setting — Co-Regulation38:30 Somatic Practice — What It Actually Involves45:00 The CORE Programme — 10 Weeks, Men’s Group, Nervous System Education46:46 Where to Find Duncan and Meld48:09 Dom’s Closing ReflectionYou can find more about MELD @ InstagramAll previous Torque episodes available at Torque - Hosted by Dom FioreSome Episodes to tryFrom Patrol To Podium - Torque | AcastDebunking Sleep Myths - Torque | AcastLessons From A Father's Influence - Torque | AcastDiving Into Olympic Pressure - Torque | AcastOff Screen - Torque | AcastDo You Feel Frozen Out? - Torque | AcastWhat Makes A Man? Part 1 - From Anger to Understanding, A Journey of Growth - Torque | Acast

The Bald RefThe Referee Standing Up to Abuse and Why Men Need to TalkGuest: Johnny Cartwright — rugby referee, primary school teacher, Loose Heads ambassadorEpisode DescriptionJohnny Cartwright is a primary school teacher, a dad, and a rugby referee operating at RFU National League level in the Manchester area. He is also the Manchester Referee Society Chair of Training and Development and a proud Loose Heads ambassador — an organisation that champions respecting the game and men's mental health beyond rugby.Known in the rugby world as the Bald Ref, Johnny has built a social media presence around calling out the abuse referees face on the pitch — not from the comfort of the touchline, but from the middle of it. In this conversation he talks about the incidents that shaped him: the under-15s coach who tried to get his home address after a game, the time nobody on the touchline spoke up to defend him and the silence that changed the way he operates, and the paradox of being reported for calling out abuse while the abuser walked away.He also talks about Waffle Wednesdays — a weekly voice note routine he built with two close friends to keep the lines of communication open between men who don't always find it easy to say how they're actually doing. And about Loose Heads, the world record attempts, and the goal of putting a mental health ambassador in every rugby club in the world.This is a conversation about standing up, speaking out, and the small habits that keep men connected.Timestamps01:28 Torque Ten — Quickfire Questions with Johnny02:42 Johnny Welcome to Talk02:49 Entry Into Refereeing — From Coaching to the Whistle03:39 The First Match — Nerves and a Ladies Game at a Familiar Club05:44 Women’s vs Men’s Rugby — The Difference in Spirit06:37 The First Time He Was Really Abused — An Under-15s County Cup Game08:40 The Coach Who Pointed, Made Accusations, and Tried to Get His Home Address10:20 Insinuations About Him as a Teacher — Where It Crossed a Line11:30 Nobody Said Anything — The Silence That Changed Him13:00 Becoming an Active Bystander — The Man Who Doesn’t Walk Past14:30 Why He Started Posting About It — The Bald Ref on Social Media16:00 The Paradox — Reported for Calling Out Abuse, the Abuser Walked Away18:00 What the RFU Is Doing — and Where the Gaps Are19:30 Respect the Ref — What Good Looks Like on a Touchline20:45 Waffle Wednesdays — Where It Came From21:38 How It Works — Voice Note, Two Close Friends, Every Week22:00 Why a Voice Note Rather Than a Phone Call23:13 The Beauty of Considered Rather Than Reactive Feedback24:25 What Happens When He Misses a Wednesday25:40 Men and Platitudes — Why We Don’t Say What We Mean27:00 LooseHeadz — What It Is and What It’s Trying to Do29:00 A Mental Health Ambassador in Every Rugby Club in the World30:30 The Personal Loss Behind Why He Does This32:00 Teaching Primary School Children vs Refereeing Adults34:00 Parents at Kids’ Rugby — The Grandma and the Forward Pass40:53 The Guinness World Record Attempt — Longest Game of Sevens Rugby42:09 Dom’s Closing ReflectionYou can find Jonny at https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonathan-cartwright-7401712b?utm_source=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=member_ioshttps://www.instagram.com/the_bald_ref?igsi=cjNoZXFjZXkyd20w&utm_source=qr

Losing Everything and Rebuilding a Life - My Journey with Alcohol and ADHDGuest: Cliff Sewell — mindset coach, ultramarathon runner and authorTrigger WarningThis episode deals with alcoholism, ADHD and suicidal thoughts. Please take care and bear that in mind before listening.Episode DescriptionCliff Sewell grew up in working-class northern England, built a highly successful recruitment business, became a millionaire, and spent years manufacturing every waking moment around one question: can I get to a pub? He was in the pub from 11 in the morning until 11 at night. He was constantly pretending to be somebody else.From the outside, he had everything. Inside, he was searching for something he couldn’t name. The business eventually collapsed. The money went. He found himself on a park bench waiting for the phone call that would tell him whether he’d lost everything he’d built. He reached the darkest point a man can reach.In this conversation, Cliff talks about when he first realised he was an alcoholic, what drove the drinking, the long road to sobriety, the suicidal thoughts that came with losing everything, and what it took to come back from that place. He also talks about a late ADHD diagnosis that reframed much of his story, becoming an ultramarathon runner in his 50s, and the mindset coaching work he now does with individuals and organisations.This is an honest conversation that goes to some dark places. It is also one of genuine hope.Timestamps01:01 Trigger Warning — Alcoholism, ADHD, Suicidal Thoughts01:39 Torque Ten — Quickfire Questions with Cliff04:57 When Did He First Realise He Was an Alcoholic?07:42 Everybody Thought He Had It All09:39 Cash, Success and the Drinking That Came With It10:30 Constantly Pretending to Be Somebody Else13:22 On the Park Bench — Waiting for the Call15:05 Carrying On Drinking After the Business Survived — Then Losing It17:16 When He Wasn’t Rich Anymore17:52 The Sobriety Journey — Where It Began20:14 The Really Dark Place — Suicidal Thoughts21:49 Coming Out the Other Side — Being Cautious About Talking22:52 His Daughter — Living Together Through the Dark Times24:19 Nobody Sets Out for Things to Go Wrong27:07 99% of Days He Doesn’t Think About Drinking28:38 Starting to Run — Typical Cliff, Going All In29:59 The 100K Goal — Getting to 84K32:35 Mindset Coaching — Making It Affordable and Accessible34:16 The Noise of Self-Help and What Actually Works37:11 It’s Not Just One Thing — Building Habits That Last37:31 The Real Benefits Beyond the Physical38:18 Dom’s Closing ReflectionResourcesIf this episode has raised issues for you, the following organisations can help:Samaritans — free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week: 116 123Alcoholics Anonymous UK: 0800 9177 650 — alcoholics-anonymous.org.ukYou can find Cliff atCliff Sewell | High Performance & Success CoachCliff Sewell (@cliff_sewell) • Instagram photos and videosThe Magical Mindset Podcast with Cliff Sewell | Podcast on SpotifySuccess It's Personal: A clear and positive plan around change and achieving success: Amazon.co.uk: Sewell, Mr Cliff: 9798325562792: BooksPREVIOUS EPISODES - Torque - Hosted by Dom Fiore

The Millionaire SkydiverHow Winning the Lottery as an Addict Nearly Cost Me EverythingGuest: Peter John Mather — skydiver, entrepreneur, life coach and founder of Healthy Mindset RebelsTrigger WarningThis episode contains themes of addiction and suicide. Please be aware before listening.Episode DescriptionPeter John Mather won 5.2 million pounds on the lottery with his mum twenty years ago. He was 20 years old, already working in bars, already drinking, already using drugs. The money didn't solve any of that. As Peter says himself: it doesn't solve your problems, it just enhances them.What followed was almost two decades of addiction running alongside an extraordinary life — representing Great Britain at skydiving, building businesses in fireworks and sky sports, living across multiple countries, getting to within days of losing everything. A heart attack at 21. Suicide attempts. A relationship that left the country. Rock bottom in a foreign country, alone, having driven 26 hours through the night with everything he owned in the back of a car.And then — a phone call from a friend who had no idea what was going on. A Tony Robbins audiobook on a drive back from a party. Six words: change your environment, change your life. Five years clean and sober later, Peter is building Healthy Mindset Rebels and helping others find the same way out.This is a long, honest, and at times very dark conversation. It is also one of genuine resilience.Timestamps01:56 Torque Ten — Quickfire Questions with Peter03:05 What Life Looked Like Before the Lottery Win03:18 His Mum's Accident, Giving Up Golf, Going Into Bar Work04:27 Becoming a Cocktail Flair Bartender — When Alcohol Started06:38 Rinse and Repeat — Getting Clean, Falling Back In07:02 May 2005 — The Lottery Win With His Mum07:50 What 5.2 Million Did to a 20-Year-Old Addict08:20 It Didn't Solve the Problems — It Enhanced Them09:20 The People Around Him10:28 The Magaluf Job Offer — and Why the Money Stopped That11:40 The Most Publicised Lottery Winner12:55 The Heart Attack at 2114:30 What Caused It16:00 The Businesses — Fireworks, Skydiving, Seasonal and Unstable17:00 How He Got Into Skydiving21:00 Representing Great Britain — Sponsored, Competing, Still Drinking23:24 Skydiving as a Dopamine Hit — Same as a Line of Cocaine24:32 The Culture of Drink and Drugs in Skydiving26:10 Buying the Drop Zone — Three Days Before COVID Shut Everything Down27:47 From Zero Debt to 1.7 Million Overnight28:45 His Partner Leaving the Country31:35 Very Fortunate Not to Be Locked Up, Dead or Kill Someone32:20 Rock Bottom — Driving 26 Hours to Resolve the Relationship35:00 She Didn't Want to Be With Him — That Was the Real Rock Bottom36:30 The Suicide Attempts38:00 The Phone Call That Saved Him — A Friend Who Had No Idea40:20 Getting a Commitment to Go and Have a Meal With Someone41:00 The Recovery Journey — Bumpy, Non-Linear, Doing It for Her at First43:15 One Slip in the Caribbean — Then the Moment Everything Changed44:30 The Tony Robbins Audiobook on the Drive Home45:18 Change Your Environment, Change Your Life46:00 Moving to America, Starting Again47:00 Tony Robbins in His Life — Senior Leader, UPW Events48:00 Healthy Mindset Rebels — What He's Building Now50:00 Helping People Design a Healthy Lifestyle Around Food and Body51:30 Five Years Clean and Sober52:18 Protecting His Sobriety53:52 What He'd Say to Anyone Who Wants to Change Their Life55:22 Dom's Closing ReflectionYou can find Peter athttps://www.instagram.com/healthymindsetrebels/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61584908998789https://www.instagram.com/peterjohnmather1984/https://www.facebook.com/peterjohnmather1984Peter John Mather | LinkedInResourcesIf this episode has raised issues for you:Samaritans — free, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week: 116 123Alcoholics Anonymous UK: 0800 9177 650 — alcoholics-anonymous.org.ukNarcotics Anonymous UK: 0300 999 1212 — ukna.orgCALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably): 0800 58 58 58Previous EpisodesTorque - Hosted by Dom Fiore

How To Talk To Your ChildrenA Clinical Psychologist's Toolkit for Parents Who Want To ConnectGuest: Dr David Marcus — clinical psychologist, 40 years working with familiesEpisode DescriptionDr David Marcus has spent 40 years working with families under stress. What he sees, consistently, is not bad parents. It's parents making assumptions about their children that stop communication before it starts.In this conversation, David walks through the four assumptions parents make about their children's emotionality — and why, if any one of them is false, you're not going to get a response. He introduces the concept of the soothing presence — what it actually means to be okay when the person in front of you isn't, and how that skill, when a child internalises it, becomes the foundation of their emotional resilience for life.He talks about why asking why did you do that might be the worst question a parent can ask, what to say instead, and the power of the word something as a non-judgmental way into a difficult conversation. About the fairness trap with siblings. About how the history level — the accumulated memory of how conversations have gone before — fills us up before we even begin. About the pressures teenagers face. And about what he'd tell any parent right now who wants to connect more with their children.This is an episode for parents. But as Dom reflects in the takeaway, the skills David describes go well beyond parenting — they apply to every difficult conversation you will ever have.Timestamps01:17 Introducing Dr David Marcus01:36 What Does He Typically Witness in Families Under Stress?02:42 The Four Assumptions Parents Make About Their Children02:42 Assumption 1 — That Children Experience Their Emotions03:46 Assumption 2 — That Children Can Tolerate the Intensity of Their Emotions04:07 Assumption 3 — That Children Have the Language to Express Their Emotions05:11 Assumption 4 — That It's Safe for the Child to Express Their Emotions With This Person05:36 The Soothing Presence — Being OK When the Person in Front of You Isn't06:40 The Temptation to Fix — Why It Doesn't Work07:02 Emptying Out — Why Logic Doesn't Land When Someone Is Filled Up07:50 How Parents Feel About Children Often Reflects How Children Feel About Themselves08:16 Predictability as the Source of Trust09:47 Unpredictable Parents — What It Does to a Child's Sense of Security13:00 Screen Time — The Soothing Presence Problem of Modern Parenting14:00 David's Pillow Story — When the Clinical Psychologist Got Mad16:00 Why Children Need a Predictable Time When You Are Really There18:00 The Dinner Table Conversation — Tell Me About Your Day20:32 Why Did You Do That — The Worst Question You Can Ask20:47 Something Made That Happen — A Better Way In21:01 The Power of the Word Something — Non-Judgmental and Open22:10 Mirroring Back — Emptying the Child Out23:14 No Wonder You Did What You Did — Validating Without Approving23:28 Productive Discipline and Building Resilience25:03 Siblings — The Fairness Trap26:53 The Emptying Out Process — What It Actually Means29:01 The History Level — Getting Filled Up Before You Even Begin32:00 Walls That Build Up Between People — How Communication Breaks Down33:47 A Different Definition of Support35:20 Teenagers Under Pressure — The Cost of Meeting Everyone Else's Expectations36:58 David as a Parent — His Own Pitfalls41:26 The Key Thing — Be OK Yourself First42:44 Dom's Closing ReflectionYou can find Dr David Marcus atParentRX - Dr. David Marcus Ph. D.All Previous Episodeshttps://shows.acast.com/torque

Just the BeginningWhat 13 Conversations About Men’s Mental Health Taught MeA solo episode with Dom FioreEpisode DescriptionThis episode wasn’t planned. A guest asked Dom to hold their episode back at short notice — for good reason — and rather than fill the gap with something formulaic, Dom used it to reflect on what thirteen conversations with men about pressure, identity and connection have actually taught him.It’s also almost exactly a year since Dom had an accident that resulted in a brain injury — the event that led directly to this podcast existing. This episode is the first time he talks about it publicly.Dom reflects on the thread that runs through every conversation so far: the gap between the version of ourselves we show the world and the version we actually are. Where that gap shows up. What it costs. And what it takes to begin to close it.He also talks about David ‘Jacko’ Jackson — a former professional rugby player who sustained a brain injury and is currently running 100 consecutive ultra marathons for Headway, the brain injury charity — and what Jacko’s challenge says about the human capacity to find purpose in the hardest circumstances.The episode ends with a direct message to the listener: you have the power and the agency to write your own story. This is just the beginning.Timestamps00:00 Why This Episode Is Different — A Guest Asked to Hold Their Episode Back00:53 What It Means — A Chance to Reflect on 13 Conversations01:00 13 Episodes, 13 Conversations With Men About Life Under Pressure01:25 Why This Show Exists — The Brain Injury Anniversary01:39 What the Brain Injury Changed — Physically, Cognitively, and How Dom Connects02:03 Talk Came Out of the Accident, Not in Spite of It02:37 David ‘Jacko’ Jackson — 100 Ultra Marathons for Headway03:17 What Jacko’s Challenge Says About Finding Purpose in Hard Circumstances03:29 The Thread — The Gap Between the Version We Show and the Version We Are03:50 How the Gap Shows Up Differently Across Every Episode04:26 What the Men in These Conversations Have in Common04:43 Reflection 1 — Most Men Are Carrying Something They Haven’t Named05:26 Reflection 2 — The Gap Between the Outside and the Inside05:53 Freddie at the Olympics Feeling Like a Fraud. Jason Feeling Invisible.06:01 Connection Is the Answer — Not Therapy or a Programme or a Book06:18 The Moment Things Usually Change — Feeling Heard for the First Time06:33 The Well Actually There Is Something Moment06:51 Identity — Who Are You When the Job, the Sport, the Title Disappears?07:11 What Every Guest Has Had in Common — Willing to Find Out What’s on the Other Side07:21 This Has Been a Journey of Discovery and It’s Far From Over07:31 The Brain Injury — What It’s Taken Away and What It’s Given07:53 Lower Tolerance for the Superficial Version of Connection08:00 Here’s How to Connect Properly08:13 I’m Not Willing to Let the Accident Be the End of My Story08:25 You Have the Power and the Agency to Write Your Own Story08:36 The Pressure Men Feel — Real, But Not Fixed08:48 It Shifts When We Talk. It Shifts When We Listen.09:05 Thank You — 48 Countries, 13 Episodes, Just the BeginningAbout JackoDavid ‘Jacko’ Jackson sustained a brain injury during his career as a professional rugby player. He is currently running 100 consecutive ultra marathons to raise money for Headway, the brain injury charity. He is also a running coach. Find him on InstagramHeadway is the UK’s leading brain injury charity: Headway - the brain injury association | Headway

Episode 12Happiness at Work: The Five Things You Need To Feel Happy in Your Job - Richard Clarke, the Entrepreneur with one KPIGuest: Richard Clarke — keynote speaker, consultant and former tech company founderEpisode DescriptionRichard Clarke spent four years teaching water skiing in Turkey, sailing in the Caribbean, traveling through Australia and Asia — all in pursuit of a single question: what actually makes me happy? When the answer turned out to be making other people happy, he came home, became a teacher, moved to Gran Canaria, and in 2014 became founder of a tech company with an unusual KPI. Not revenue. Not growth. Team happiness.For the next ten years he experimented as an entrepreneur on his own team, testing everything from meeting design to what food to serve at breakfast, to no-meeting Fridays, to flexible working, to turning down clients who weren’t a good fit for the culture. When he sent out an engagement survey two years in and 50% of his team said they wanted to leave, it taught him something important: you can’t replace good management with free stuff.Last year, Richard sold the company. He describes handing it over as feeling like putting his daughter on a plane to Peru — the same loss of something he’d built and loved that he couldn’t control anymore.In this conversation, Richard talks about the five things every workplace needs to make people genuinely happy — safety, community, autonomy, learning and purpose — and why they aren’t just workplace needs. He talks about job crafting, about the difference between British and Spanish working culture, about what Gen Z are getting right that previous generations were too scared to ask for, and about what Richard would tell you to do if you’re not happy at work right now.Timestamps02:37 Torque Ten — Quickfire Questions with Richard03:44 What Led Him to Put Happiness at the Core of His Business03:58 The Careers Advisor Who Changed Everything — Just Do Something That Makes You Happy06:01 The Morning on the Beach in Thailand When He Knew It Was Over08:03 2014: Founding a Tech Company with Happiness as the KPI08:23 Nobody Believed Him — The Theory Nobody Would Fund09:18 The Engagement Survey Two Years In — 50% Wanted to Leave10:44 What He Did Wrong12:17 What He Did Right15:20 Spanish vs British Working Culture17:00 Was He Happy While Running a Happiness Company?18:28 Why He Sold20:31 How the Team Reacted22:14 Setting Red Lines Before the Sale25:18 How He Dealt with the Loss — Talking to People26:14 The One Thing Happiness Couldn’t Fix28:12 Happiness as KPI Alongside Profit, Not Instead Of30:00 Did Men and Women Need Different Things?30:37 The Five Things — Safety, Community, Autonomy, Learning, Purpose31:14 Age as the Bigger Differentiator — Young Parents Needed Flexibility31:51 What Individuals Can Do for Themselves — The 50 Words Exercise33:04 Job Crafting — Adapting Your Role Around Your Needs35:04 What Schools in Africa Taught Him About Purpose37:10 What Richard Would Tell You If You’re Not Happy at Work38:30 What Good Management Actually Looks Like40:10 Autonomy — Trust People or Lose Them41:27 Gen Z — Not Different, Just Braver at Asking42:44 What a Good Day Looks Like for Richard43:05 Dom’s Closing ReflectionYou can find Richard on LinkedIn atRichard Clarke | LinkedInPREVIOUS EPISODES - From Patrol To Podium - Torque | AcastDebunking Sleep Myths - Torque | AcastLessons From A Father's Influence - Torque | AcastDiving Into Olympic Pressure - Torque | AcastOff Screen - Torque | AcastDo You Feel Frozen Out? - Torque | AcastWhat Makes A Man? Part 1 - From Anger to Understanding, A Journey of Growth - Torque | AcastWhat Makes A Man? Part 2 - Raising Awareness on Coercive Control and Challenging Misogyny - Torque | AcastMan Rebuilt - Torque | AcastRegaining a Zest for Life and coming back from Burnout - Torque | AcastNo Risk, No Story - the Life of AI Entrepreneur and zally Founder, Patrick Smith - Torque | Acast

Episode 11No Risk, No StoryThe Life of AI Entrepreneur and zally Founder, Patrick SmithGuest: Patrick Smith — entrepreneur, AI specialist and founder of zallyEpisode DescriptionPatrick Smith started his first two businesses at the age of ten — a website-building operation for his dad’s friends and a DJ booking agency, with his mum driving the equipment to school discos in the back of the car. By 13 he was being paid professionally as a DJ and lying about his age to get the gigs. By 25 he had built and lost eleven ventures. He took full ownership of every one of them and saw each failure as training.Born in Oslo to a family with entrepreneurship in its DNA — his great-grandfather built 40 bespoke tailoring businesses across Europe before the war stripped them away — Patrick has since built and exited multiple companies, moved to London knowing nobody, then Manchester, and is now based between Manchester and San Francisco building zally, a behavioural AI company working on what he describes as giving technology the one thing it lacks: intuition.In this conversation, Patrick talks about what it actually costs to be a founder — on your family, your friendships, your mental health. About the sacrifices his wife and children make so he can build. About the eleven failures before 25, and what each one taught him. About stopping drinking four years ago, treating himself like an athlete, and counting bad days rather than good ones. About the personal story behind zally — his mother’s death from cancer, his father’s dementia, and a problem with passwords that became a business.And about why, when you ask a billionaire in San Francisco why they’re doing it again, they always give you the same answer: I don’t know anything else.Timestamps00:33 Introducing Patrick Smith — zally Founder, AI Entrepreneur02:00 Torque Ten — Quickfire Questions with Patrick04:08 What Drove Him — Intrinsic or External?04:14 Born in Oslo, Born an Entrepreneur05:22 Building Websites at Ten — HTML for Dummies on Holiday05:51 Where Did It Come From?07:38 Would He Let His Own Daughter Do the Same?08:53 Eleven Failures Before 25 — What Did He Learn?09:45 The Biggest Lesson — Bring People In Earlier, Ask for Help11:14 How Do You Deal with Failure Personally?11:40 The UK vs US Attitude to Failure12:25 The More Chaos Around Him, the Calmer He Becomes14:07 What Is the Personal Cost of Founder Life?14:52 No Time for Friends, Family Sacrifice — What Are They Giving Up?15:29 30 Mortgages Depending on Him Every Month16:00 Balance Doesn’t Exist — You Need Harmony17:28 The No Risk, No Story Tattoo18:52 Landed in London Knowing Nobody, Then Manchester, Now San Francisco19:02 Who Do You Turn to When Things Are Tough?20:43 Stopping Drinking, Treating Himself Like an Athlete22:00 What Does a Bad Day Look Like?23:06 Learn to Dance in the Rain23:51 Building a Startup Is Like Jumping From a Mountain24:34 In San Francisco, Money Isn’t the Motivator25:47 Money Doesn’t Solve Your Purpose26:47 AI and the Fear of Job Losses — His View28:46 Humans in the Loop — Why That Matters30:45 What Future Does He Want for His Children?32:57 Lost His Thursday, Friday and Saturday Nights at 1337:49 The Personal Story Behind zally — His Mother’s Death and His Father’s Dementia38:28 Passwords, Dementia, and a Better Way to Authenticate Users39:21 How zally Works in Practice40:39 Dom’s Closing ReflectionYou can find Patrick and zally atPatrick Smith | LinkedInBehavioral AI LabInstagramPREVIOUS EPISODES - From Patrol To Podium - Torque | AcastDebunking Sleep Myths - Torque | AcastLessons From A Father's Influence - Torque | AcastDiving Into Olympic Pressure - Torque | AcastOff Screen - Torque | AcastDo You Feel Frozen Out? - Torque | AcastWhat Makes A Man? Part 1 - From Anger to Understanding, A Journey of Growth - Torque | AcastWhat Makes A Man? Part 2 - Raising Awareness on Coercive Control and Challenging Misogyny - Torque | AcastMan Rebuilt - Torque | AcastRegaining a Zest for Life and coming back from Burnout - Torque | Acast