Speaking Our Minds

Welcome to the sex therapy talk you didn't know you needed! In this week's episode, Brittney and our guest Dr. Camden tackle the complex effects of purity culture, a movement that peaked in the 1990s-2000s and used shame and fear to promote abstinence until marriage. We explore the long-lasting consequences of this messaging on peoples' sexuality, faith, and relationships- and share our own stories. This episode underscores the importance of honest conversations about sexuality and encourages us to critically examine the messages we received and seek healing from the lingering effects of purity culture. Including:The definition of purity culture vs a healthy personal sexual ethicHow effective abstinence pledges actually were according to researchThe gendered impact of the purity culture message on women and menMyths and misconceptions of purity culture that often lead to unrealistic expectationsThe need for rebuilding a healthy mind-body connection and reclaiming sexuality as a natural and positive part of life.and much more!This is a conversation for all listeners whether single or married!Dr. Camden is a licensed clinical psychologist with nearly fifteen years of experience as a therapist. She draws on both her personal and professional experience with purity culture recovery—using psychological research, practical exercises, and therapy case studies—to help the hurting reject toxic beliefs, understand trauma and its effects, and break free from shame.Grab her book Recovering from Purity Culture: https://drcamden.com/book/Connect with Dr. Camden:Instagram: @drcamdenWebsite: https://drcamden.com/Connect with us on social media for more:Podcast Instagram: @SpeakingOurMindsPodBrittney Instagram: @brittneymosesRanela Instagram: @lifewithranelaTik Tok: @SpeakingOurMindsPod

We're back! After a much-needed summer break, we’re returning to the mic with fresh perspectives, raw honesty, and real-life stories. Join us as we catch up on our summer—how we've changed, the lessons we’ve learned, and the discoveries we've made about ourselves. This episode is all about personal growth, shedding old patterns, and embracing a more authentic version of ourselves. Including:Summer Reflections – What we’ve been up to and how time away helped us grow. We share the life lessons that hit us this summer and how they’ve shaped us moving forward.Deconstructing Hustle Culture – How we’re unlearning the pressures of always being "on" and embracing balance over burnout.Letting Go of People Pleasing – Why we’re stepping away from seeking external validation, and how this shift is helping us live in alignment with our true selves.Reclaiming a Healthy Relationship with Anger – How anger can be a tool for self-awareness and boundary setting, rather than something to fear or suppress.Living Unapologetically – How shedding the layers of people-pleasing and perfectionism is allowing us to live more honestly and authentically in every aspect of our lives.Join the Conversation:Share your thoughts on this episode! What lessons have you learned about yourself this summer? How are you embracing your true self? We’d love to hear from you.Subscribe:If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an update. Leave us a review and let us know what you think!Connect with us on social media for more:Podcast Instagram: @SpeakingOurMindsPodBrittney Instagram: @brittneymosesRanela Instagram: @lifewithranelaTik Tok: @SpeakingOurMindsPod

In this week's episode, we're talking all about letting go of the socially constructed limits that keep women small and hold them back from authenticity and showing up with fully, including our own personal experiences and psychological insights such as:The societal, religious and cultural factors that keep women in double-bindsThe social construction of beauty standardsGender rolesThe objectification of women's bodies and sexualityCoping with criticism, self-doubt and the opinions of othersand more!Subscribe to the Speaking Our Minds Newsletter to get updates on the latest episodes, upcoming topics, and insider inspo!: https://mailchi.mp/361c1d35da39/pod-newsletter-sign-upConnect with us on social media for more:Podcast Instagram: @SpeakingOurMindsPodBrittney Instagram: @brittneymosesRanela Instagram: @lifewithranelaTik Tok: @SpeakingOurMindsPod

In this week's episode, we're talking all about deconstructing patriarchy and its effects on mental health, including our own personal experiences and psychological insights such as:Defining patriarchy and its historical social constructionHow patriarchy affects mental health on a personal levelWhat healing and changing the internalized messages of patriarchy could look like in the therapy/mental health contextand more!Subscribe to the Speaking Our Minds Newsletter to get updates on the latest episodes, upcoming topics, and insider inspo!: https://mailchi.mp/361c1d35da39/pod-newsletter-sign-upThe Making of Biblical Womanhood by Beth Alison BarrConnect with us on social media for more:Podcast Instagram: @SpeakingOurMindsPodBrittney Instagram: @brittneymosesRanela Instagram: @lifewithranelaTik Tok: @SpeakingOurMindsPod

In this week's Q&A episode, we’re answering your question all about:Anger as a healthy part of processing hurtThe history of patriarchy and its effects on women and society todayIndividuation and differentiation: Being connected to others and in community while still maintaining your authentic sense of selfQ&A Time stamps:[3:46] Anger as a healthy part of processing when feeling disappointment or hurt[16:16] Anger with institutions- political, governmental, religious[18:20] Processing anger and frustration with self toward self-compassion and acceptance[22:33] Deconstructing patriarchy[23:36] The social construct and history of patriarchy in our culture[28:46] How patriarchy creates inequalities in systems of power/hierarchy and affects women today in everyday life[47:10] Defining individuation and differentiation as a healthy part of identity formation[48:18] Being connected to others and in community while still maintaining your sense of self and autonomySubscribe to the Speaking Our Minds Newsletter to get updates on the latest episodes, upcoming topics, and insider inspo!: https://mailchi.mp/361c1d35da39/pod-newsletter-sign-upThe Making of Biblical Womanhood by Beth Alison BarrConnect with us on social media for more:Podcast Instagram: @SpeakingOurMindsPodBrittney Instagram: @brittneymosesRanela Instagram: @lifewithranelaTik Tok: @SpeakingOurMindsPod

In this week's episode, Ranela and our guest Stephanie Stalvey are breaking down the constructs surrounding purity culture and healing from the messages that were rooted in shame and disconnection from our bodies, including:The background of purity culture, particularly circling in religious circles in the United States during the 1980s and 1990sAcknowledging sexuality as a divine and natural part of humanity without objectifying itHaving an alternative healthy ethic of sacred sexuality that isn't rooted in shame or blameNarratives women have to overcome after purity culture to reconnect with their bodiesHow patriarchy affects both men and women in a dehumanizing wayThe Madonna-Whore complex: the psychological double bind that women are trapped in in society when it comes to their sexualityRanela and Stephanie's own personal experiencesand more!Subscribe to the Speaking Our Minds Newsletter to get updates on the latest episodes, upcoming topics, and insider inspo!: https://mailchi.mp/361c1d35da39/pod-newsletter-sign-upConnect with Stephanie:Instagram: @stephanie.stalvey.artistConnect with us on social media for more:Podcast Instagram: @SpeakingOurMindsPodBrittney Instagram: @brittneymosesRanela Instagram: @lifewithranelaTik Tok: @SpeakingOurMindsPod

In this week's episode, we're talking all about the psychology of evolving faith and rebuilding healthy spirituality, including our own personal experiences and psychological insights such as:Defining religious trauma and woundingHow religious trauma this plays a role in people rethinking some of their beliefsHow hierarchy systems of authority that lack accountability contribute to harmPractical steps for reconnecting with and trusting your body/instincts after experiencing religious traumaThe role of purity culture in disconnection from the body and internalized narratives of shameReassurances for someone who wants to take a step away from their community/church after religious trauma/hurt but feel shameReassurances for someone who wants to rejoin or be a part of a faith community/church after religious trauma/hurt but feels skepticaland more!Caitlin Harrison (AMFT #121100) is a therapist who works at Kindman & Co. in Highland Park, CA. She enjoys working with female-identifying folks and couples who want to work through issues around perfectionism, religious trauma, sex, and feeling embodied. She is big on embracing softness and helping her clients feel able to come home to themselves.Subscribe to the Speaking Our Minds Newsletter to get updates on the latest episodes, upcoming topics, and insider inspo!: https://mailchi.mp/361c1d35da39/pod-newsletter-sign-upConnect with Caitlin:Instagram:@caitlin.harrison.therapyConnect with us on social media for more:Podcast Instagram: @SpeakingOurMindsPodBrittney Instagram: @brittneymosesRanela Instagram: @lifewithranelaTik Tok: @SpeakingOurMindsPod

In this week's episode, we're talking all about the psychology of evolving faith and rebuilding healthy spirituality, including our own personal experiences and psychological insights such as:Situations that often lead people into a shifting faithFeeling fear or shame because of your questions or doubtsDealing with friends/family who are becoming upset because of your changing faithRebuilding an authentic faith/spirituality after religious trauma or doubtHow to better support and be there for someone even if you don’t fully understandand more!Amanda is a Faith Deconstruction & Reconstruction Coach + Clinical Social Worker at heyamandawaldron.com. You can find her at the intersection of mental health, social work, and theology. She supports thoughtful Christians and communities who are wrestling through big doubts and questions and hope to stay within the Christian faith while finding more ease and wonder in the process. Her goal is to help people ask different questions and expand the lens of what can be possible in their Christian faith. Follow Amanda on Instagram @heyamandawaldronSubscribe to the Speaking Our Minds Newsletter to get updates on the latest episodes, upcoming topics, and insider inspo!: https://mailchi.mp/361c1d35da39/pod-newsletter-sign-upConnect with us on social media for more:Podcast Instagram: @SpeakingOurMindsPodBrittney Instagram: @brittneymosesRanela Instagram: @lifewithranelaTik Tok: @SpeakingOurMindsPod

In this week's episode, we're talking all about the psychology of evolving faith and rebuilding healthy spirituality, including our own personal experiences and psychological insights such as:The mental health benefits of healthy spiritualityStages of cognitive development and how thinking often expands with ageTactics and red flags of spiritually abusive environmentsWhat's normal to feel when leaving or changing faith communitiesReassurances for seasons of uncertainty and doubtand more!Subscribe to the Speaking Our Minds Newsletter to get updates on the latest episodes, upcoming topics, and insider inspo!: https://mailchi.mp/361c1d35da39/pod-newsletter-sign-upConnect with us on social media for more:Podcast Instagram: @SpeakingOurMindsPodBrittney Instagram: @brittneymosesRanela Instagram: @lifewithranelaTik Tok: @SpeakingOurMindsPod