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072: The Fawn Trauma Response Explained: Breaking Free From Chronic People Pleasing with Kobe Campbell
In this episode with Kobe Campbell, we talk about:
- What is the fawn trauma response?
- When chronic childhood trauma leads to shrinking & people pleasing in the future
- The harm of overcommitting & over-sacrificing out of fear of unacceptance
- Fear versus freedom-based faith
- How certain faith language can enable the fawn response
- How to begin recovering from the fawn response to show up as your true self
Kobe Campbell is an award-winning licensed trauma therapist, Christian counselor, writer media expert, and speaker. She helps people find the truest versions of themselves under the pain that they’ve endured through therapy, support groups, speaking, retreats, and organizational training. Kobe is the owner of The Healing Circle Therapy & Wellness Center in Charlotte North Carolina and hosts one of Apple's Top 100 Mental Health Podcasts, The Healing Circle Podcast.
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