Growing Through Grief

Everything is about growth.   Just like roses stop growing when they are not watered or given sunlight, so does life.  In this episode, we are closing out another season of the Growing Through Grief Podcast and moving into a new season.  But before we do, let’s travel down memory lane with a few excerpts of the most listened to episodes of the  season.  We discuss spiritual practices, growth, relationships, mistrust, truth, asking for support, triggers, living in the past and the beauty of life! Take a listen to how you can start growing on purpose and not get stuck in the past.  In This Episode, You Will Learn to::Take responsibility for the role you play in relationships (4:44)Create space for empathy and forgiveness for others (5:14) Take action when you no longer want to grow with another person (5:27)That the ego can’t handle the future so it brings up the past (6:53)Turn your deepest pain into your greatest growth (7:36)Surrender to the truth and not allow mistrust to take control of your mind (11:00) Release old  beliefs that no longer work  for you and replace with new beliefs (13:45)Practice gratitude which opens the door for more in life to celebrate (14:44)Allow your soul to flow more freely (17:39)Compassionate Heart Community  - Contact Me NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together

Whether or not we are aware of it, trauma is a massive transformative force. It molds the way we think and also how we see, react to, and accept reality. In other words, we are a byproduct of our traumatic experiences and the mechanisms we developed to deal with them. However, that doesn't mean there is nothing we can do about it. In this episode, I invite you to bring conscious attention to your inherited family trauma. We learn how to look at it with compassion and curiosity, recognize our responses, and modify our reactions to it. We think of inherited family trauma as a group responsibility and not an individual experience. Plus, we learn mechanisms to accept and embrace painful memories, to allow them to go through us, and, more importantly, how to let them go. We also learn to accept our truth, and I share three points to consider when bringing attention to inherited trauma.In This Episode, You Will Learn:What does it mean to bring attention to inherited trauma? (3:58)Addictions are evidence of family dynamics (8:31)You can let go of most of the things you are carrying (12:15)What if you accept that traumatic experience you endured as a child? (20:29)Three points to remember when thinking of your inherited family trauma (22:06)Your job is to remember the best is yet to come (26:35)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together

We make a conscious effort to learn how to grieve a loved one. We are aware of the challenges we might be forced to face, the pain we must endure, and the growth we should seek. But what about our own transition? How prepared are we to talk about it? In this episode, Jane Duncan Rogers visits us to encourage the conversation that no one likes to think about, yet everyone should. Jane is the Founder of Before I Go Solutions, a non-profit dedicated to creating end-of-life plans. She is an Author and Facilitator specializing in conversations about dying, death, grief, bereavement, and end-of-life planning, and was the first person to lead You Can Heal Your Life® study groups in the UK, inspired by the book of the same name by Louise Hay. Throughout our conversation, Jane shared the story of how one of the chapters of her book, Gifted by Grief, originated a discussion about end-of-life conversations. We go through Jane's grief journey, her emotions after losing her husband, and how she dealt with them. We also talk about front door/back door feelings, normalizing feeling angry, creating a living will, advanced healthcare directives, and so much more. Some Questions I Ask:I heard you say you and your husband went through cancer together. Would you share a little bit about that? (5:55)Could you talk a little bit about the work you started decades ago, about healing yourself? (15:28)In This Episode, You Will Learn:About Jane's book, Gifted by Grief, and what people loved about it (3:51)There's nothing like facing the end to see things more clearly (7:13)What you feel, you can heal (15:41)Anger is not necessarily a bad thing (18:21)Some of the things we should take care of while we are still here (25:34)Never judge yourself for the feelings you have (40:12)Resources:websiteYouTubeFacebookTwitterBook: Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss, and RebirthBook: Before I Go: The Essential Guide to Creating a Good End-of-Life PlanGrowing Through Grief System - Book NowConnect with Jane:LinkedInLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together

Although the mind is a known, familiar, and predictable space where we spend a lot of our time, it is not always a safe place. The mind guides our lives, whether we are aware of it or not, but it does not always lead our life in the direction we would like. So, is it possible to control where our mind is taking us, to change what is floating there? In this episode, we unravel the best-kept secret to healing a broken heart. We learn how to deal with the shadows that reside in our minds and blur the paths we would like our minds to follow. We talk about love, not in a conventional way, but in a way you might not have heard before. We learn how to cleanse our hearts, center ourselves, and be surrounded by nothing but love. We also explore the law of reciprocity, learn how it really works, the best way to get the best out of it for us and those we love, and so much more.  In This Episode, You Will Learn:A clear mind creates a clear heart (3:52)How do you allow goodness to come into your life? (5:39)What happens in your life once you can BE with your emotions (8:07)The law of reciprocity. How to embrace it? (14:13)How to fill your heart with an abundance of empathy, love, and understanding (17:27)Why you should choose to move to the next level of your life (24:47)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together

Today, as I was celebrating the culmination of a very intense, compassionate, and loving year-long process, a warming phone call helped me realize that growth is all that matters. Regardless of how we choose to do it, keeping on growing is the perfect way to free ourselves from past trauma, enjoy being present, and be filled with peace. In this episode, we learn how to open our hearts even when it hurts. We explore why some past experiences we don't remember clearly or aren't consciously aware of come to haunt us, what we can do about them, and how to set ourselves free from them. We understand why some of our personal relationships with those we love might change during our growth process, how to deal with that, and what is the only relationship we can't neglect. We also go through an interesting analogy between mountains and challenges that will help you understand why a new difficulty arises after every victory. In This Episode, You Will Learn:Life is about growth, growth, and more growth (1:45)Climbing through challenges becomes easier with practice (2:41)Growth processes aren't cookies and cream all the time (4:19)Why it is so hard to understand how we feel (10:27)How to process and release the things that put us down (16:04)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together

Generally, the urgent receives more attention than the important, and there is nothing particularly wrong with that; we must take care of what's bothering us right now. Still, there is always something else beyond the current issue. It is a fact that every unwanted habit or pattern is rooted in childhood trauma, and to find the way back to ourselves, we must revisit what hurt us in the past and find a way to make peace with it. The inspiration for today's episode came from a totally unexpected source; someone asked me a question that triggered a whole new way of looking at disconnection with the self and the feeling of losing track of who we are. I invite you to search and explore the origin of your pain and the past experiences that trigger the behaviors or habits you want to get rid of. I offer some of the golden nuggets my mentor shared with me about pain and its origin and the best way to get rid of it. We also learn how to deal with trauma using the SURE acronym, my approach to finding the way back to ourselves, and the three questions that will make that challenging task more accessible. In This Episode, You Will Learn:Are you chasing yourself? What does that mean anyway? (2:21)What you can do to stop feeling the pain from childhood traumas (7:39)The past is always paying you a visit (9:21)The SURE acronym and how it can help you (11:51)What you can do to find a way back to yourself (13:51)Three questions that will help you get back on track towards who you are (16:43)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together