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Growing Through Grief

Join Your host, Diana Curtis for a weekly sprinkle of inspiration, grace and personal greatness.Diana knows from personal experience that Grief Matters!After losing her MoM, the ebb and flow of grief was constant in her
Latest Episode8/2/2022

Getting to the Heart of Your Desire

Ep. 53
Very often, life gets so busy and noisy that we don't have the time to go after our desires or hear them. We think we need certain things to achieve happiness; we believe we will feel better after putting our hands on tangible material things. That works, sometimes; we feel better, but that kind of joy is not meant to last.In today's episode, we take a step back from our fast-paced life and remain in silence to hear the heart of our desire. We explore the importance of staying connected to ourselves and others and how to use those connections to build a better relationship with our mental and physical health.We also discuss the role of focus and curiosity on our life outcomes and what we attract based on what we decide to focus on. We dive deep into how to redirect that focus, and how curiosity can help us learn more about our relationship with ourselves, our traumas, and the growth we can experience.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Why it's so hard to get curious about the desires that come from the heart (2:54)About the time we waste chasing the wrong things (4:26)The three things I did to connect with the heart of my desire (5:48)Why we must remain curious, even about the painful things (10:28)About being aware of where is our focus and what are the things we attract into our lives (17:38)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief TogetherEmail: diana@coachingtotheheart.org
8/2/2022

Getting to the Heart of Your Desire

Ep. 53
Very often, life gets so busy and noisy that we don't have the time to go after our desires or hear them. We think we need certain things to achieve happiness; we believe we will feel better after putting our hands on tangible material things. That works, sometimes; we feel better, but that kind of joy is not meant to last.In today's episode, we take a step back from our fast-paced life and remain in silence to hear the heart of our desire. We explore the importance of staying connected to ourselves and others and how to use those connections to build a better relationship with our mental and physical health.We also discuss the role of focus and curiosity on our life outcomes and what we attract based on what we decide to focus on. We dive deep into how to redirect that focus, and how curiosity can help us learn more about our relationship with ourselves, our traumas, and the growth we can experience.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Why it's so hard to get curious about the desires that come from the heart (2:54)About the time we waste chasing the wrong things (4:26)The three things I did to connect with the heart of my desire (5:48)Why we must remain curious, even about the painful things (10:28)About being aware of where is our focus and what are the things we attract into our lives (17:38)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief TogetherEmail: diana@coachingtotheheart.org
7/26/2022

Dr. Naeema | The Lie that Led to a Hate Crime, Truth, and Healing

Ep. 52
The inspiring Dr. Naeema Olatunji is visiting us today to talk about the healing process of souls and spirits from racialized trauma.Dr. Naeema Olatunji is a Doctor of Chiropractic, Owner of Elevate Family Chiropractic, host of Elevate NOW! podcast, and author of "Raised as a Lie," a memoir born from a healing process that took her decades to come to terms with. Dr. Naeema was the only Brown person in a white family; her Black heritage was hidden in plain sight and never discussed. She grew up as an outsider, feeling invisible, where her presence wasn't celebrated but tolerated.In this episode, Dr. Naeema kindly shared her story, her upbringing, and the moment her life turned upside down at 18 when her life was threatened by a hate crime, which made her ask questions about her origin.Throughout our conversation, we explore the intricacies of healing from racialized trauma, the importance of being grateful for our losses, and the grief they provoke in us, pushing us to grow and become better versions of ourselves. Dr. Naeema describes her process of discovering herself as a Black woman, the pain and the rejection suffered, and how she freed herself from that prolonged grief.Some Questions I Ask:Why do you feel it is so crucial for you to tell your story? (12:26)Can you unpack the lies you talk about in your book? (21:31)How did you come to embrace the parts you grew up hating about yourself? (32:10)In This Episode, You Will Learn:How becoming a Chiropractor felt like reaching an extension of Dr. Naeema's tribe (5:59)The walls Dr. Naeema built around her heart throughout her life (15:21)Dr. Naeema describes the feeling of hiding so much under the rug until it becomes a mountain (19:43)Attachment vs. authenticity (29:27)Dr. Naeema's experiences at College, embracing her Blackness (36:36)The importance of bringing awareness towards ancestral trauma (45:41)Resources:Elevate Family Chiropractic websiteElevate NOW! podcastBook: Naeema Olatunji - Raised as a LieGrowing Through Grief System - Book NowConnect with Dr. Naeema:LinkedInLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together
7/19/2022

Edy Nathan | How Sexual Trauma and Grief Become Sexual Hunger

Ep. 51
Healing from abuse, especially for women, who understand and feel their bodies as their "queendom," their sacred castle, is extraordinarily challenging and multilayered. That healing process could translate into never letting anyone touch them again or opening themselves to everyone. It could also become an eating disorder, getting a bigger and thicker shell to protect the self.Visiting us today is Edy Nathan to talk about sexual grief or the response to a sexually traumatic event and how to dance with grief instead of rejecting it.Edy is an author, keynote speaker, licensed therapist, and grief expert. She is a certified sex therapist from the American Association of Sex Therapists, a hypnotherapist, and an Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) practitioner with more than 20 years of experience.In this episode, we dive into Edy's grief stories, childhood traumas, and how she got into the grief recovery realm. We talk about the importance of creating our rituals of wisdom, using toys and games to reconnect and develop the self, and the importance of active listening when trying to help others deal with their grief.We also talk about generational trauma and why women must reunite and stop competing with each other. Edy kindly shared a beautiful story, full of golden nuggets of wisdom and bits of her new book, which is soon to be published.Some Questions I Ask:You lived in this multicultural environment and then moved to an all-white one. And those experiences there created some grief experiences. Could you talk a bit about that? (7:47)What things did you do to support yourself during that moment of your life when you felt you didn't belong? (13:31)In This Episode, You Will Learn:Edy talks about her grief experiences in life (9:45)Edy explains how games and playing can help us rebuild ourselves and how playing with clay helped her (13:32)Edy talks about the importance of identifying what kind of hunger we are feeling when we feel the urge to eat (19:08)Edy describes the importance of listening to those suffering and grieving (26:26)Edy and Diana talk about generational trauma (32:13)Edy shares details of her new book (40:37)Resources:Edy Nathan's websiteBook: Edy Nathan - It's Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and LossGrowing Through Grief System - Book NowConnect with Edy:LinkedInInstagramTwitterFacebookYouTubeLet's Connect!FacebookTwitter
7/12/2022

Karla Noland | Start Reparenting Yourself Now!

Ep. 50
Grief is such a complex emotion. It shows up in our lives to teach us about compassion, forgiveness, and growth, and most importantly, it is a reminder that love never dies and is the world's most powerful force.Today, Karla Noland joins us to share her grief story and how she learned to co-exist with this complex emotion during her mother's transition.She is an award-winning Author and Speaker, Certified Personal Development & Executive Coach, and the Founder and CEO of Reveal, Heal, Thrive, LLC. Her latest book, "The Day My Heart Turned Blue," was awarded the 2022 Eric Hoffer Award.In this episode, we delve into Karla's grief experiences, the day her heart turned blue, and the growing process she began when she started grieving for her mother. We discuss the importance of healing childhood traumas and giving ourselves grace for the things we couldn't build in our lives. Karla explains how she dismantled her core beliefs about not being good enough and shares actionable insights to deal with our inner critics.Some Questions I Ask:Could you share with us about that experience of your heart turning blue before your mother transitioned to her new life? (8:44)What did growth look like for you during that whole process? (11:28)Could you talk about the tools you now have to support you in creating happy, healthy relationships? (21:53)In This Episode, You Will Learn:Karla talks about the grueling process of realizing she had no control over what was happening to her mother (9:38)How Karla dealt with her childhood traumas (12:12)How Karla dismantled her inner critic (23:12)How to deal with mothers who are alive but emotionally unavailable (29:34)The self-imposed prison of depression and how Karla managed to get out of it (40:38)Resources:Reveal, Heal, Thrive websiteBook: The Day My Heart Turned Blue: Healing After the Loss of My MotherGrowing Through Grief System - Book NowConnect with Karla:LinkedInInstagramTwitterFacebookYouTubeLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together
7/5/2022

Depressed and Suicidal | Game of Life or Game of Suffering

Ep. 49
Joining us today to talk about parenting, depression, and healing is Ana Lennyr, a Life Strategist and Anti-Depression Expert.Ana overcame suffering from depression and suicidal tendencies and now specializes in helping teenagers and adults build solid and supportive family relationships, teaching them how to get rid of depression and never slip back into it. She is a Psychologist and host of the radio show True Secrets of Life.In this episode, we delve into Ana's life journey and the adversities she faced, the awakening moment of her mother's death, and the lessons she took from every heartbreak in her life. Ana kindly described her transition from being suicidal to becoming a life strategist, why she believes growing through grief is a painful and arduous process, and her unique perspective on collective suffering: the copy-pasted world we live in.Ana also shared her three-step approach to addressing pain, valuable advice for parents in helping their kids avoid and deal with depression, and why we must stop carrying around blame, guilt, and shame.Some Questions I Ask:Could you talk about going from being suicidal to becoming a life strategist? (7:33)You talked about acknowledging and looking at that pain and taking responsibility for it. But you also state that looking at the blame, the shame, and the guilt is also essential. Could you expand on that? (23:07)In This Episode, You Will Learn:Ana explains why she thanked her mother for dying and what that death taught her (4:35)Why it is so hard to learn and grow from grief (6:52)Ana takes us through her healing process and her aha moment after her mother's death (8:51)Why Ana believes overcoming depression is not that hard; the tricky part is suffering from it (11:54)Ana's three-step process to approach pain (15:58)Why Ana believes we live in a copy-pasted world (24:32)Ana talks about CHAOS, Childhood Automatic Operating System (26:42)Ana shares her thoughts on what happens once we have the tools and gain awareness on how to get ourselves out of depression (32:13)Resources:Ana Lennyr website - BETTER ASK ANATrue Secrets of Life with Ana Lennyr radio showGrowing Through Grief System - Book NowConnect with Ana:LinkedInFacebookInstagramYouTubeLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together
6/28/2022

Terry Tucker | The 4 Truths Cancer Taught Me About The Essence of Who I Am - My Mind, Heart, and Soul

Ep. 48
In today's episode, we have an exceptional, inspiring guest, Terry Tucker – a Motivational Speaker, creator of Motivational Check, and Author of "Sustainable Excellence: Ten Principles To Leading Your Uncommon and Extraordinary Life."From a young age, Terry dealt with the heavy duties life imposed on him based on what his parents taught him about family and the meaning of team play. He had a successful career in corporate America and then transitioned to law enforcement, where he acted as an undercover drug investigator and SWAT Team hostage negotiator.Terry is also a cancer warrior, fighting a rare type of melanoma since 2012.Throughout our conversation, Terry shares a bit of his background, the lessons, and the values he learned as a child that he carried through life.We delve into his passion for law enforcement, which made him quit his corporate America career, and he shares valuable insights from his experiences as a hostage negotiator.We also talk about Terry's reaction to being diagnosed with cancer and how he managed to put his head back in place after that. He explains some principles from his book and takes us through the four truths he learned that changed his life.Some Questions I Ask:When you were a teenager, you spent some time helping your mother take care of your father. Please share with us a little bit more about that (4:59)For the past ten years, you have been a cancer warrior. Could you speak about the inner turmoil of realizing you have cancer and how you stay in this positive state of being all the time? (9:47)In This Episode, You Will Learn:The values Terry learned from his parents and how they molded his life (7:04)How understanding life as a team effort prepared Terry to help himself and others (12:31)The power of realizing that suffering is optional (16:02)Terry talks about being unique and being special and how our uniqueness is our primary tool to succeed in life (21:17)Terry shares some of his experiences and the valuable lessons he got from his time with the SWAT Team (24:26)Terry talks about the principles from "Sustainable Excellence" and elaborates on the one he most identifies himself with (32:16)The four truths that helped Terry live his life without ever thinking of giving up (43:06)Resources:Motivational Check websiteBook: Terry Tucker - Sustainable ExcellenceConnect with Terry:LinkedInInstagramLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsite
6/21/2022

Learn How Unimaginable Trauma, Grief, and Suicide Led to Profound Healing

Ep. 47
Mandy Harvey joins us today to talk about trauma healing, mental and physical health, presence, worthiness, and overall wellness.Mandy is a Holistic Worthiness Coach and Functional Nutritional Therapy Practitioner (FNTP), passionate about helping people heal from traumatic experiences, learn how to honor their bodies, and guide them to live their dreams.In this episode, we delve into Mandy's traumatic childhood, the abuse and neglect she suffered as a child, and the dark path she went through that led to a suicide attempt. Mandy describes the process she went through that helped her transform her past trauma into a drive to help others heal; she also explains why trauma healing is so essential and what techniques she uses with her peers to help them recover.We analyze and contextualize why trauma manifests itself as self-doubt, anxiety, stress, and even getting to the point where we feel we can't deal with anything life puts in front of us. Mandy also explains her holistic approach to trauma healing, paying attention to the mental and physical parts, including our nervous system and nutrition.Some Questions I Ask:Could you tell us more about you before we get started? (2:43)How did you get into this work? Why trauma healing? (4:21)Why do you think trauma healing is so important? (16:22)In This Episode, You Will Learn:Mandy explains why we believe we must earn love through doing things and seeking external validation (3:01)Mandy shares the pain and suffering that led to a suicide attempt (5:59)How Mandy transformed the abuse she suffered into a drive to help others to heal (11:19)The healing techniques Mandy uses with her clients (21:05)The importance of taking care of and honoring our bodies (25:03)Mandy explains the Somatic Experiencing Trauma healing method (32:12)Tips on how to heal and show love to our bodies (42:34)Resources:Mandy Harvey websiteGrowing Through Grief System - Book NowConnect with Mandy:LinkedInInstagramLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together