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Growing Through Grief

Join Your host, Diana Curtis for a weekly sprinkle of inspiration, grace and personal greatness.Diana knows from personal experience that Grief Matters!After losing her MoM, the ebb and flow of grief was constant in her
Latest Episode5/17/2022

Grieving and Letting Go of Your Children

Ep. 42
To grieve is not only about feeling sadness; it is also the process of letting go. We grieve when someone dies, but we also do it when a relationship dies, when someone stops being part of our life or gets away from it for some time.Today's conversation might be as hard and painful as necessary. Grieving our relationship with our children is not an easy task. I know it by experience, and as we go through it, it will take us to places we don't want to go. Memories will pop up and make us feel excruciating pain.This episode is directed to grieving moms, although dads, siblings, and the other family members can take notes and use this information to grow and heal. We'll delve into one of the hardest things I had to deal with myself, grieving and letting go of our children. Grieving the relationship we had with our kids, the changes, the loss of many things buried in the past.We also talk about the two ways of letting go I use in my own practice, the crucial importance of letting shaming and blaming aside, and the greatest gift we can give to our children. We talk about the true meaning of unconditional love, Kübler-Ross' five stages of grief, and we remind ourselves that growth never stops, and neither should we.In This Episode, You Will Learn:It is not about ending a relationship; it is about redefining how we will navigate the new relationship (2:40)Setting healthy boundaries to protect ourselves (4:31)The two ways of letting go (5:33)The greatest gift we can give to our children (11:36)About the five stages of grief and how we go through them (16:58)The challenging task of allowing our children to be grown-ups (21:36)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief TogetherEmail: diana@coachingtotheheart.org
5/17/2022

Grieving and Letting Go of Your Children

Ep. 42
To grieve is not only about feeling sadness; it is also the process of letting go. We grieve when someone dies, but we also do it when a relationship dies, when someone stops being part of our life or gets away from it for some time.Today's conversation might be as hard and painful as necessary. Grieving our relationship with our children is not an easy task. I know it by experience, and as we go through it, it will take us to places we don't want to go. Memories will pop up and make us feel excruciating pain.This episode is directed to grieving moms, although dads, siblings, and the other family members can take notes and use this information to grow and heal. We'll delve into one of the hardest things I had to deal with myself, grieving and letting go of our children. Grieving the relationship we had with our kids, the changes, the loss of many things buried in the past.We also talk about the two ways of letting go I use in my own practice, the crucial importance of letting shaming and blaming aside, and the greatest gift we can give to our children. We talk about the true meaning of unconditional love, Kübler-Ross' five stages of grief, and we remind ourselves that growth never stops, and neither should we.In This Episode, You Will Learn:It is not about ending a relationship; it is about redefining how we will navigate the new relationship (2:40)Setting healthy boundaries to protect ourselves (4:31)The two ways of letting go (5:33)The greatest gift we can give to our children (11:36)About the five stages of grief and how we go through them (16:58)The challenging task of allowing our children to be grown-ups (21:36)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief TogetherEmail: diana@coachingtotheheart.org
5/10/2022

Diana Curtis | How to Live Live Victoriously

Ep. 41
Do you know where you want to be in your growth journey by the end of the week, the month, or the year? Setting clear expectations is the first step to succeed in any area of life, growth and self-development included. After we know exactly where we are going, we get to define how we'll walk through that path.In today's episode, inspired by the apparition of one of heaven's representatives, we talk about living a victorious life, designing our life book, and connecting with ourselves at the deepest level. We pause for a moment and think about relationships; first, the relationship with ourselves, and then, we reflect on our relationship with others. I share one of the 12 categories in which I've designed my own life book, my 2022 game plan.We also touch on the importance of being ok with feeling uncomfortable, being really clear and intentional about our expectations, and why we must assume total responsibility for our thoughts and actions.In This Episode, You Will Learn:A beautiful white bird on the roof. A conversation with the one that speaks without words (1:51)What does it mean to live a victorious life (5:21)We tend to forget about the power of emotions (8:34)Stop hiding; let the creative you take control (12:10)One of the 12 categories I based my life book in. The power of nurturing our relationships (15:01)We must be crystal clear on what we want to achieve (21:03)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowEp#32 - Choose to Make it Right Inside YourselfLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief TogetherEmail: diana@coachingtotheheart.org
5/3/2022

Diana Curtis | Learn How to Grieve, You Will Grieve Less

Ep. 40
Since we all will have to go through grief sooner or later, we should learn how to make our grieving processes easier. Learning how to grieve to suffer less is possible; it requires a reasonable effort, and the reward is enormous.In today's episode, we will effectively go through the process that will help us deal with our grief in a less painful and growth-promoting way. We start our journey by identifying the different parts of ourselves, what parts of our behavior are under their control, how they interact between them, and what we should focus on to get the best out of them.We discuss the need to include a divine element into our grieving process, whether we call it God, essence, or spirit. We analyze the attacks suffered by Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson during her Supreme Court confirmation hearings. We look at the darkness, the unresolved pain coming from the Senators, and the light, the humanness glowing from Judge Jackson. In the end, we practice a five minutes meditation that will help you meet with yourself and receive the power of being anchored to the power of spirit.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Grief is a holistic experience (1:57)Self-awareness is a must if we want to learn how to grieve (3:47)The importance of acknowledging our logical and divine self (7:25)How to invite our divinity into our grieving process (12:27)Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson's story (13:43)A meditation session to meet with ourselves (21:32)Let's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief TogetherEmail: diana@coachingtotheheart.org
4/26/2022

Stop Holding Back | Allow the Nature of Who You Are to Grow

Ep. 39
Inspired by the renewal Spring brings to life, I decided to take a pause, reflect, and celebrate the growth and progress I've made over the last months. One of the things I've been committed to during the previous year was being very intentional about my self-awareness, and I've noticed some changes I would like to share today.In this episode, we delve into the three main areas of my self-awareness journey that I've noticed a fantastic evolution in, and I'm sure you will find it very useful in your own growth journey. We explore the importance (and the difficulty) of being present, experiencing a deeper connection with our feelings, and preventing our hearts from traveling back to painful memories or the future into the fields of uncertainty. We touch on the relieving sensation of experiencing more acceptance and surrendering than resisting and the peace of letting our true self reach the surface.In addition, we highlight the importance of actively practicing gratitude to keep us centered and aware of our efforts and their results.In This Episode, You Will Learn:What I've learned about the relationship between my tendency to resist and the importance of acceptance (2:01)The importance of being aware of our two parts, the one that wants to heal and the part that is afraid to heal (4:42)About the importance of letting our true self reach the surface and take control (7:36)The vital importance of being present (despite how hard it might look) (10:53)We must create space to appreciate how far we've come (14:38)We are unstoppable when our mind is quiet (18:32)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief TogetherEmail: diana@coachingtotheheart.org
4/19/2022

Shawn Costley | How to Be Number One in Your Life

Ep. 38
Today, we delve into the second part of my conversation with Shawn Costley.This time, we touch on the need to create and honor a season to mourn and weep in our lives, the importance of taking the time to look inside of ourselves introspectively, aftercare, and the limitations the Black community imposes itself to deal with grief.Shawn, kindly and generously, shared some painful personal experiences, and he described vividly how the power of community helped him navigate the excruciating pain of losing a child. We also talk about the familiar sensation of knowing something is not alright inside us and what we can do to change it. Shawn talked about the solo getaways he makes from time to time to examine himself, check on his thoughts and the stories in his head, and pivot as needed to achieve the goals he committed to.Some Questions I Ask:What does dealing with the living look like for you, Shawn? (4:07)As a minister and a leader in your community, what have you noticed about people that you interact with? (11:08)What would be some examples for you when we know things are not right inside? (24:17)In This Episode, You Will Learn:What does aftercare require, according to Shawn (5:08)About Shawn's grief story and the loss of his son (13:33)How the programming we bring from our childhood affects our grieving abilities (22:34)We have to study ourselves to discover what triggers our pain (26:15)Social media opened the possibility to reconnect with lots of people, and that could not necessarily be a good thing (33:51)The importance of honoring our elders today before it is too late (37:12)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowMadison's Mighty Men of Valor FacebookConnect with Shawn:FacebookLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together
4/12/2022

Shawn Costley | Let the Grief Out

Ep. 37
Modern life is so busy, so full of things, distractive, and immediate. There is little time to enjoy one thing at a time, let alone reflect, analyze, and grieve. The fast-paced society demands our attention and immediate reaction to blend in with harmony. But grief doesn't work like that; we can't do it while we scroll on our phones. We need to set up a time for it, make an appointment with ourselves, and show up.Our guest, Shawn Costley, brings this powerful concept to our discussion, explaining the need and benefits of taking care of ourselves in grief. To ask for a minute if we need to, cry our eyes out if we feel like it, and reach for help if we realize we can't cope with the pain.Shawn Costley is the Director of Huntsville Corporate Housing Solutions and the Founder of Madison's Mighty Men of Valor.In this first part of our interview, Shawn talks about his upbringing, traveling around the world and meeting new cultures, and at the same time, being incapable of lifelong friendships. Shawn shared his thoughts on the harmful effects of COVID on people's lives, the devastating effects of losing loved people back to back during the pandemic, and the importance of taking good care of ourselves before trying to help someone else.Some Questions I Ask:At what point in your life did you decide you wanted to be different? (5:35)Could you share your perspective about all the losses, especially since the pandemic started? Death, job losses, and health losses? (10:39)What would you tell someone who is drowning in pain and grief? (26:14)In This Episode, You Will Learn:Shawn talks about how it was for him growing up constantly moving (4:12)Make an appointment with yourself (14:08)Even Jesus cried, so it is okay to cry (19:31)Repassing the life of the person that we just lost is essential for proper grief recovery (25:01)Breathe first. First-care is everything (32:05)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowConnect with Shawn:FacebookLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together
4/5/2022

The Love Doctor | Ways to Attract and Stay in Your Ideal Relationship

Ep. 36
Today's episode is the second part of our conversation with The Love Doctor, Barry Selby. This time, we include love and joy in relationships into the discussion, and Barry shares his secret sauce for long-lasting relationships.Barry Selby is a Speaker, Bestselling Author, and Expert Facilitator who helps women leaders find balance in love, life, and business. He has been a Ministry Director and Practitioner at the Agape International Spiritual Centertitioner for over 28 years, and he has a Master's Degree in Spiritual Psychology. Barry authored the book "50 Ways to love your lover," which includes powerful principles for passionate relationships filled with deeply fulfilling and juicy romance.We explore the link between grief and relationships and the grief process we go through after a breakup. Barry dives into the influence of our formative years, the things we learn in them have on our adult lives, and how we choose to interact with others. Barry sheds some light on people's behavioral challenges or bad habits they imprint in their relationships and the importance of going through a self-healing journey before trying to heal someone else.Finally, Barry talks about feminine magnificence and what it means to be a masculine man. He kindly offers advice for people thinking of getting their feet into the dating world again.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Sometimes is not about missing the person; it is about missing the possibilities of what could've happened (4:57)We learn about love by watching others (6:30)Stop projecting childhood traumas into your partner (12:34)Never paint over rust. Barry shares some tips to deal with bad habits (15:26)About Barry's background and why he decided to be a champion for the divine feminine (18:43)We must get clear on who we are and what do we want from a relationship before putting ourselves out there (25:16)Resources:Barry Selby websiteBook: Barry Selby - 50 Ways To Love Your LoverGrowing Through Grief System - Book NowBook: Besser van der Kolk - The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of TraumaConnect with Barry:LinkedInInstagramLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together