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Growing Through Grief

What to Do When Loneliness is Sucking the Life Out of You?

Ep. 76

This episode of the Growing Through Grief Podcast delves into the impact of loneliness on individuals, communities, and the world at large.


Loneliness knows no boundaries and affects us all.  The moment has come for us to pay attention to its impact and confront it directly.


In this episode, I will:


  • Discuss the four types of loneliness: emotional, social or relational loneliness, collective loneliness, and existence loneliness. 
  • Take you on a journey of uncovering the impact of isolation, individually and within communities. 
  • Provide tools and skills that are easy to apply in your life.
  • Offer an encouragement of truth and knowing that you are never alone.


I warmly invite each and every one of you to join me on an extraordinary expedition. Tune in to the captivating "Growing Through Grief" podcast and embark on a transformative voyage towards genuine connection and a deep sense of belonging within a vibrant community. Together, let us take that crucial first step towards a brighter and more fulfilling future.



In This Episode, you will learn:

  • The four types of loneliness: emotional, social/relational, collective, and existence loneliness (00:51 - 19:11)


  • How to squash the stigma around loneliness (00:15 - 02:0)


  • The negative consequences of long-term loneliness and ways to ease back into society and life (15:19 - 16:30)


  • Importance of a healthy support system for addressing emotional loneliness (00:13:59 - 13:21)


  • About creating a community to transition from isolation to connection and community (22:20 - 23:29)


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