StephUp Podcast

Author, life coach & motivational speaker, Randy Spelling returns to close out season 2 of the StephUp Podcast as we talk about fame and personal development.Being rich and famous seems glamorous to the rest of us but it isn’t all it seems. Randy talks about some of the good and bad aspects and what it felt like growing up in this environment. His father, Hollywood producer, Aaron Spelling, created some of our favourite shows: “Beverly Hills 90210”, “Melrose Place, “7th Heaven” and more. Randy left Hollywood and is now a life coach and motivational speaker who loves to help people find their own way and success in life.Randy and I discuss the fear of putting yourself out there, why conversations are important (especially when we disagree), why being rich and famous doesn’t make you happy and why personal development is important.“The human experience can be hard and brutal sometimes, so let’s make it more beautiful and more fun while embracing the hard aspects of life, and love each other as best we can.”Check out Randy on the socials on Instagram, Twitter,  Facebook, YouTube and his websiteBuy Randy’s book, “Unlimiting You” on Amazon.comFollow StephUp Podcast on Instagram,  Twitter, and her website at  www.stephanieannwebb.com.Buy Steph's book, “What Should Dragon Do?”Support the podcast: Buy Me A Coffee 

On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast, join me in a lovely and fun chat with my friend, Vanessa Zellmer, as we talk about growing up as fundie evangelicals. Vanessa shares her experiences of what it was like growing up in a strict Pentecostal sect.We discuss what it was like being raised female in the church. The patriarchal ideas that women are less than men, as well as being told that women are emotional while men are the rational, superior thinkers who are called to be the head of the household.One of the theological traditions we were both raised with was called Calvinism and one of its tenets is something called “Total Depravity”, a belief that we are inherently sinful and the only good in us comes from God. This kind of teaching led us to have feelings of worthlessness.Vanessa and I also touched on the black and white thinking that many people are raised with. This leads to dehumanizing and “othering” people which leads to more fear and divisiveness, especially between people of faith and the secular world. Follow StephUp Podcast on Instagram,  Twitter, and my website at  www.stephanieannwebb.com.Buy Steph's book, “What Should Dragon Do?”Support the podcast: Buy Me A Coffee 

On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast, join me in a lovely and fun chat with social worker, behavioural life consultant and coach, Megan McLaren. Megan shares what a day in her life is like working with patients with mental health, chronic disease management as a social worker and then supporting and encouraging people as a life coach. Since there are so many tools and information out there, it can be good but also overwhelming and that is where Megan’s education and social work also helps her life coach clients.I asked Megan about how some personal development teaching can be stressful and damaging. She says some people glamourize the “hustle culture” but true change takes time. It’s important to take out “only” in our wording; celebrate all your accomplishments, no matter how small.Megan advises that it can be difficult to diagnose narcissism. There are different traits (grandiose feelings and infatuation of themselves, think they know everything, having unrealistic expectations, emotionally neglectful, not empathetic, etc). If a person has just a few of the narcissistic traits, they probably aren’t. Narcissists are very manipulative. They can be covert (subtle, passive aggressive) or overt which is more obvious. They are attracted to people with good traits and seek them out. Megan also advises that narcissism is a learnt behaviour. Many times, it comes from trauma. There is no cure for narcissism, but psychotherapy can be a help for narcissists.“A narcissist can sniff out good traits in a person and so they are going to play on all those wonderful traits and exploit those. They are a master in that exploitation.”Megan shares some techniques to stand your ground with a narcissist: 1)    Set boundaries and stand firm with them2)    Don’t engage in arguments3)    Distance yourself4)    Find a good community Check out Megan’s website and follow her on Instagram and FacebookThank you to the amazing German, aka Your Podcast Editor for editing my audio conversation with Megan. Follow him at his website, Instagram and Twitter.Follow StephUp Podcast on Instagram,  Twitter, and her website at  www.stephanieannwebb.com.Buy Steph's book, “What Should Dragon Do?”Support the podcast: Buy Me A Coffee