We Need To Talk… with Dr. Darcy Sterling

Most of us think we’d know how to help if someone we loved was struggling with their mental health.But here’s the truth: Mental health crises rarely look the way we expect. They don’t come with warning sirens or dramatic breakdowns. They come with canceled plans. Short texts. “I’m just tired.” A fake smile and a quick change of subject.In this episode of We Need to Talk, I sat down with Dr. Joseph Donnelly and Elena Saldutti—two experts in Mental Health First Aid—to talk about the signs we miss, the instincts we get wrong, and the simple ways we can all learn to show up better for the people we love.Whether you’ve been on the receiving end of well-meaning but misguided support—or you’ve stayed silent, unsure of what to say—this will change the way you think about helping someone in crisis.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why most of us hesitate to speak up (and how to get past that fear).How to recognize the early signs of emotional distress.What not to say to someone who’s struggling.How Mental Health First Aid works—and why it’s as essential as CPR.Xxoo DarcyREFERENCES / RESOURCESMental Health First Aid: mentalhealthfirstaid.orgNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Dial 988Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741Mental Health First Aid CitationBridging the Gap: Empowering Teachers and Supporting Students with Mental Health First Aid. Social Emotional Learning CitationEnhancing Health Education: The Role of Social Emotional Learning in PreK-12 Students' Well-being. Social Media CitationPublic Health Implications of Social Media on Adolescent Health Behaviors: Upstream Approaches to Prevention Strategies. CREDITS“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.  DISCLAIMERInstagram:@drdarcysterling Facebook:Dr.Darcy SterlingTik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  X:@DrDarcySterling   YouTube:@DarcySterling   Threads:@drdarcysterlingWatch this episode here on YouTube. 

Most people are going to want to skip this episode.I get it—grief is uncomfortable. It’s messy. It brings up stuff we’d rather avoid.But if you want to develop strong relationship skills—if you want to be the kind of person who shows up when it matters—this is mandatory listening.We don’t talk about grief until we have to. And even then, most of us don’t know what to do. Do we check in? Give space? Bring up the loss—or avoid it altogether?In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Mary-Frances O’Connor, author of The Grieving Brain and The Grieving Body. She’s one of the world’s leading grief researchers, and she’s here to help us understand what actually helps when someone we love is hurting.We talk about what grief does to the brain and body, why so many of us disappear during someone else’s grief, and how to show up better—even when you don’t know what to say.This conversation might challenge you—but it’ll make you a better partner, friend, and human. Xxoo DarcyREFERENCESMindful CareFinding The Words Colin CampbellThe Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and LossThe Grieving Body: How the Stress of Loss Can Be an Opportunity for HealingCREDITS“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robin Jaenchen. DISCLAIMERInstagram:@drdarcysterling Facebook:Dr.Darcy SterlingTik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  X:@DrDarcySterling  YouTube:@DarcySterling   Threads:@drdarcysterlingWatch this episode here on YouTube. 

Trying to find the right therapist can feel like a job—especially when every Psychology Today bio starts sounding the same. And in a world where therapists market themselves on Instagram, it’s harder than ever to tell who’s actually good… and who just has a good aesthetic.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sarah Coe-Odess—a licensed clinical psychologist and therapist-matching expert—to break down the most common mistakes people make when choosing a therapist. From red flags to look out for, to how to find affordable options that actually help, this conversation gives you the tools you need to stop guessing and start healing.Whether you're starting therapy for the first time or wondering if it's time to move on from your current therapist, this episode will help you make the right call.In this episode, you’ll learn:The biggest mistakes people make when choosing a therapist.How to tell the difference between productive discomfort in therapy vs. actual harm.Red flags in therapist bios, social media, and first sessions.How to find high-quality therapy when you’re dealing with budget constraints or bad insurance.Xxoo DarcyRESOURCESMindful CarePsychological Treatmentshttps://www.instagram.com/the_sarahpist/https://sarahpist.com/#contacthttps://form.typeform.com/to/Smv62wG3CREDITS“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.  DISCLAIMERInstagram:@drdarcysterling Facebook:Dr.Darcy SterlingTik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  X:@DrDarcySterling   YouTube:@DarcySterling   Threads:@drdarcysterlingWatch this episode here on YouTube. 

In today’s world, sharing an opinion can feel like stepping onto a battlefield. We fear being judged, misunderstood, or canceled—so we stay silent. Or worse, we speak at each other instead of with each other. But real connection isn’t about having the perfect words. It’s about showing up with curiosity, intention, and presence—even when it’s uncomfortable.In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by legendary therapists and relationship experts Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, creators of Imago Therapy and authors of the new book How to Talk With Anyone About Anything. We unpack the deeper purpose of conversation, how to reconnect during moments of conflict, and why our differences might actually be the gateway to deeper intimacy.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why differences don’t mean you’re incompatible—and how they can lead to greater intimacy.The #1 most effective tool to stay grounded and present in uncomfortable conversations.The one thing that must be present in every relationship if you want it to be healthy.PLUS: I bring Harville one of my most triggering real-life scenarios—and ask him to walk me through it. And he does not disappoint. Xxoo DarcyREFERENCESMindful CareGetting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: Third EditionHow to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe ConversationsKeeping the Love You Find: A Personal GuideDoing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space-Between: A Clinician's GuideThe Space Between: The Point of ConnectionMaking Marriage Simple: Ten Relationship-Saving TruthsCREDITS“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.  DISCLAIMERInstagram:@drdarcysterling Facebook:Dr.Darcy SterlingTik Tok:@doctordarcysterling X:@DrDarcySterling   YouTube:@DarcySterling   Threads:@drdarcysterlingWatch this episode here on YouTube. 

Do you keep ending up with the same type of partner—different face, same red flags?Are your relationships lopsided—with one of you craving emotional intimacy, and the other can’t (or won’t) go there?Do you find yourself thinking, “Why does this keep happening to me?”If so, this episode is for you.At some point, we all have to stop pointing fingers and ask the harder question: What’s my role in this?Not to take all the blame. Not to spiral into shame.But because real change in your love life starts with the one thing you can control—you.This week, Ashtyn’s back—and I’m the one in the hot seat, answering the questions.If you’re brave enough to look in the mirror, I promise to be right there with you, making it okay (and even a little bit funny).In this episode, you’ll learn:The most common reason people fail to see their part in relationship patterns.The key questions to ask yourself when your relationships feel like déjà vu.What to do when you realize you are contributing to the problem.This episode is packed with humor, honesty, and our own stories—so you don’t have to feel alone while doing the work. You can be the hero in your own love story. Xxoo DarcyREFERENCESMindful CareCREDITS“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.  DISCLAIMERInstagram:@drdarcysterling Facebook:Dr.Darcy SterlingTik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  X:@DrDarcySterling   YouTube:@DarcySterling   Threads:@drdarcysterlingWatch this episode here on YouTube. 

Anxiety is the most common mental health issue in the U.S., affecting over 40 million adults each year. And yet, despite how familiar it is, we still get so much wrong about it.We’re taught to treat anxiety like something to conquer, suppress, or “fix.” But what if that mindset is actually making things worse?If you've ever spiraled over a future that hasn’t happened—or replayed a conversation on loop, dissecting every word you said—this episode is for you.Joining me is licensed therapist Alison Seponara, creator of The Anxiety Healer, and one of Instagram’s most trusted voices on mental health. Together, we unpack what anxiety really is, why it’s so hard to manage, and how to stop unintentionally feeding the very thing we’re trying to escape.In this episode, you'll learn:The one anxiety tool no one’s talking about—but everyone should be usingWhy you actually don’t want to get rid of your anxiety completelyHow early life experiences can shape our relationship with anxietyA personal story from Alison about the well-intentioned act that triggered her worst panic attackIf anxiety is part of your story, this episode is a must.Xxoo DarcyREFERENCESMindful CareTheAnxietyHealer.comThe Anxiety Healer's Guide: Coping Strategies and Mindfulness Techniques to Calm the Mind and BodyCREDITS“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani.  DISCLAIMER#Dating #DatingTips #RelationshipGoals #DatingAdvice #Relationships #RelationshipPodcast #RelationshipPodcasts #RelationshipAdvice #MentalHealthAwareness #AnxietySupport #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthEducation #AnxietyTools#AnxietyHelp #AnxietyRelief #HealingAnxiety #AnxietyRecovery #RelationshipExperts #RelationshipIssues #RelationshipHelp #PodcastLove #WeNeedToTalkWithDrDarcy #Therapy #CouplesCounseling #CouplesTherapy #DrDarcySterling #DoctorDarcySterling#DrDarcy #HighFunctioningAnxiety #AnxiousMind #TheAnxietyHealer #AlisonSeponaraInstagram:@drdarcysterling Facebook:Dr.Darcy SterlingTik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  X:@DrDarcySterling   YouTube:@DarcySterling   Threads:@drdarcysterlingWatch this episode here on YouTube.