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Has Swinging Become Too Mainstream?

Ep. 189

Perhaps you see more of it because of the algorithm... Especially if you're in the lifestyle already and tend to search a lot of content on ethical non monogamy. But, swinging does seem to be much more common online and in the public discourse than ever.


Has it become TOO mainstream? We dive into that today.


Also this week, listeners ask if their love of seeing sweaty women at the gym is unusual, loads of questions about grooming in advance of a live seminar Sue is conducting this week about oral sex, and another listener wants to know about swinger burnout.


Sue will also let you in on what she'd include in your summer sex festival survival pack, and on her Sassy Sex Secrets it's the $4 Hardware Store / Drug Store toy that you can't pass up!


Plus, the gang at the Adult Fun Superstore in Ottawa Canada introduce us to the toy their employees chose as this week's staff pick!


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