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Living With Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) | EP28

Ep. 28

In this episode, we discuss living with pathological demand avoidance (PDA), a condition that is not officially recognized by most authorities. We share personal experiences and examples of how demand avoidance affects our daily lives, including struggles with completing tasks, seeking medical help, and pursuing hobbies. We reflect on the impact of demand avoidance on mental health and relationships, the lack of recognition and understanding of the condition, and how it can both help and hinder us in different aspects of our lives.


Takeaways


  • Living with demand avoidance can have a significant impact on various aspects of life, including work, relationships, and personal well-being.
  • Demand avoidance is not laziness or procrastination due to anxiety, but a genuine struggle to overcome barriers in the mind.
  • The lack of official recognition and understanding of demand avoidance can lead to frustration and a lack of support from others.
  • It is important to listen to and validate the experiences of individuals with demand avoidance, as their struggles are real and valid. Neurodivergent individuals often face challenges in receiving support and understanding for their mental health needs.
  • The lack of recognition and misdiagnosis of neurodivergent conditions can have a negative impact on individuals' well-being.


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