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Hi, I'm Nicole Mathieson, counsellor, couple therapist and author of the Beauty Load, how to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.The Beauty Load is what I call the constant stress, anxiety and pressure that most
Latest Episode10/31/2022

8. The scale and heirarchy of privilege serves none of us with Louise O'Reilly

Season 1, Ep. 8
8. The scale and heirarchy of privilege serves none of us with Louise O'ReillyI know for myself that the Beauty Load has kicked my butt. It has been and still is a "journey" let's say, to come to accept my body and beauty. And I also know that this is in the context of my privilege. Today's guest is helping me and all of us get our heads around our privilege, whiteness and this scale, the heirarchy that kicks all of our butts and serves none of us.In this episode we talk about;Louise's work as an inclusivity and diversity coach and what her inspired this work.The politics of appearance and beautyWhy we fear the dismantling of oppressionHow we can be good/better alliesHow more acceptance and less judgement towards ourselves is creating a better world for marginalised peopleAWhat a vision of the world looks like without discriminationMore about Louise O'ReillyLouise offers inclusion, diversity and anti-racism coaching and mentoring for entrepreneurs and business owners who are comfortable being coached through the power of the feminine energy.The oppressive status quo is something Louise refuses to swallow. This mumma-bear won’t stop until she’s changed the world for her babies. With her unique self-expression, heart-centred rebelliousness, and clarity of her vision of the inclusive world we could be enjoying. It’s no wonder Louise is an inclusion, diversity, equity & allyship coach, mentor and course creator for heart-centered & socially-conscious entrepreneurs.  Louise is a Warrwa-Noongar Aboriginal woman who focuses on cultural inclusion, diversity and anti-racism work for entrepreneurs. Offering the Inclusion Creators Collective membership. It’s filled with courses, live trainings, group coaching and more. Website louiseoreilly.com.au/Instagram @louise.oreilly.shieldandconch/Courses louise-oreilly.thinkific.com/About NicoleNicole Mathieson has impacted the lives of thousands of women through her writing,speaking, podcasts and work as a counsellor.In the therapy room, Nicole sees the Beauty Load doing its self-esteem-stealing damage inreal time as she helps her clients grapple with not feeling good enough to love. By sharing her own awkward stories and negative self-talk, Nicole inspires a deep exhaleof recognition from her clients and readers alike, who, for possibly the first time, realise theyare not alone, not crazy and absolutely not inadequate. The Beauty Load is Nicole’s first book.About the BookDo you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, and feeling likeyou don’t measure up?This is the Beauty Load in action, and here’s the thing: it’s not personal, in factit is inevitable in this world obsessed with beauty.Our personal perception of our beauty, or the lack of it, can make us feel anythingfrom numb to anxious, stressed and ashamed, and at worst like we don’t belong andthat we are not worthy of being loved. In the Beauty Load, counsellor Nicole Mathieson exposes the damaging andunrealistic beauty pressures society places on women, and shares how to lighten theload for good through awareness, self-compassion and a realignment with yourdeepest values.Reclaim your freedom, confidence and self-love.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathieson @the.beautyloadBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyload
10/31/2022

8. The scale and heirarchy of privilege serves none of us with Louise O'Reilly

Season 1, Ep. 8
8. The scale and heirarchy of privilege serves none of us with Louise O'ReillyI know for myself that the Beauty Load has kicked my butt. It has been and still is a "journey" let's say, to come to accept my body and beauty. And I also know that this is in the context of my privilege. Today's guest is helping me and all of us get our heads around our privilege, whiteness and this scale, the heirarchy that kicks all of our butts and serves none of us.In this episode we talk about;Louise's work as an inclusivity and diversity coach and what her inspired this work.The politics of appearance and beautyWhy we fear the dismantling of oppressionHow we can be good/better alliesHow more acceptance and less judgement towards ourselves is creating a better world for marginalised peopleAWhat a vision of the world looks like without discriminationMore about Louise O'ReillyLouise offers inclusion, diversity and anti-racism coaching and mentoring for entrepreneurs and business owners who are comfortable being coached through the power of the feminine energy.The oppressive status quo is something Louise refuses to swallow. This mumma-bear won’t stop until she’s changed the world for her babies. With her unique self-expression, heart-centred rebelliousness, and clarity of her vision of the inclusive world we could be enjoying. It’s no wonder Louise is an inclusion, diversity, equity & allyship coach, mentor and course creator for heart-centered & socially-conscious entrepreneurs.  Louise is a Warrwa-Noongar Aboriginal woman who focuses on cultural inclusion, diversity and anti-racism work for entrepreneurs. Offering the Inclusion Creators Collective membership. It’s filled with courses, live trainings, group coaching and more. Website louiseoreilly.com.au/Instagram @louise.oreilly.shieldandconch/Courses louise-oreilly.thinkific.com/About NicoleNicole Mathieson has impacted the lives of thousands of women through her writing,speaking, podcasts and work as a counsellor.In the therapy room, Nicole sees the Beauty Load doing its self-esteem-stealing damage inreal time as she helps her clients grapple with not feeling good enough to love. By sharing her own awkward stories and negative self-talk, Nicole inspires a deep exhaleof recognition from her clients and readers alike, who, for possibly the first time, realise theyare not alone, not crazy and absolutely not inadequate. The Beauty Load is Nicole’s first book.About the BookDo you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, and feeling likeyou don’t measure up?This is the Beauty Load in action, and here’s the thing: it’s not personal, in factit is inevitable in this world obsessed with beauty.Our personal perception of our beauty, or the lack of it, can make us feel anythingfrom numb to anxious, stressed and ashamed, and at worst like we don’t belong andthat we are not worthy of being loved. In the Beauty Load, counsellor Nicole Mathieson exposes the damaging andunrealistic beauty pressures society places on women, and shares how to lighten theload for good through awareness, self-compassion and a realignment with yourdeepest values.Reclaim your freedom, confidence and self-love.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathieson @the.beautyloadBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyload
10/20/2022

7. Love what your body CAN do with disability advocate Lisa Cox

Season 1, Ep. 7
In this episode I chat with disability and inclusion advocate Lisa Cox. At the age of 24, Lisa had a sudden brain haemorrhage in Melbourne airport one morning. Lisa nearly died, nearly had all of her limbs amputated and had to learn to move, speak and eat again. What I love about speaking to Lisa is that this experience has filled her with perspective and fuelled her with passion for life and for her mission to change the way pop culture represents those who do not fit the able and ideal standards portrayed in the media.About LisaLisa Cox is a fierce, passionate disability advocate who wants to disrupt the way disability is represented in popular culture by fusing her professional background in writing, advertising, media, branding and communications with her acquired disabilities. Lisa is a vocal advocate for change with a solutions-focused approach. She has collaborated with peak bodies, national and international groups plus individuals who share her vision for real results. Changing social attitudes, stopping stereotypes and altering the narrative around disability is what fuels Lisa’s mission to muse, educate, challenge convention and create tangible change in the way disability is represented in mainstream popular culture.Where to find Lisawebsite www.lisacox.co/aboutInstagram @lisacox.co About NicoleNicole Mathieson has impacted the lives of thousands of women through her writing,speaking, podcasts and work as a counsellor.In the therapy room, Nicole sees the Beauty Load doing its self-esteem-stealing damage inreal time as she helps her clients grapple with not feeling good enough to love. By sharing her own awkward stories and negative self-talk, Nicole inspires a deep exhaleof recognition from her clients and readers alike, who, for possibly the first time, realise theyare not alone, not crazy and absolutely not inadequate. The Beauty Load is Nicole’s first book.About the BookDo you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, and feeling likeyou don’t measure up?This is the Beauty Load in action, and here’s the thing: it’s not personal, in factit is inevitable in this world obsessed with beauty.Our personal perception of our beauty, or the lack of it, can make us feel anythingfrom numb to anxious, stressed and ashamed, and at worst like we don’t belong andthat we are not worthy of being loved. In the Beauty Load, counsellor Nicole Mathieson exposes the damaging andunrealistic beauty pressures society places on women, and shares how to lighten theload for good through awareness, self-compassion and a realignment with yourdeepest values.Reclaim your freedom, confidence and self-love.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathieson @the.beautyloadBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyload
10/7/2022

6. Intense focus on appearance is a problem with anthropologist Mair Underwood

Season 1, Ep. 6
In this episode I chat with anthropologist, Mair Underwood who specialises in studying the culture of bodies. After this chat, I honestly want to go back to uni and study anthropology! It is just fascinating. Mair tells us about her research into the world of body building and what she experienced in relation to her own body image as a result of 'dipping her toe' into that world. Mair also gives me a lifelong aha / validation moment in regards to women's struggles with femininity and breast size.About MairMair Underwood is an anthropologist of the body and lecturer in the School of Social Science at the University of Queensland. She is passionate about understanding body practices and the relationships people have with their bodies. Her research has focussed on body-self relations at different ages, tattooing, and bodybuilding. In recent years she has been focussed on bodybuilding and image and performance enhancing drug use, which led to interests in performances of masculinity, and muscle dysmorphia.Where to find MairContactEmail: thinkingaboutbodies@gmail.comYouTube: Body of thoughts About NicoleNicole Mathieson has impacted the lives of thousands of women through her writing,speaking, podcasts and work as a counsellor.In the therapy room, Nicole sees the Beauty Load doing its self-esteem-stealing damage inreal time as she helps her clients grapple with not feeling good enough to love. By sharing her own awkward stories and negative self-talk, Nicole inspires a deep exhaleof recognition from her clients and readers alike, who, for possibly the first time, realise theyare not alone, not crazy and absolutely not inadequate. The Beauty Load is Nicole’s first book.About the BookDo you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, and feeling likeyou don’t measure up?This is the Beauty Load in action, and here’s the thing: it’s not personal, in factit is inevitable in this world obsessed with beauty.Our personal perception of our beauty, or the lack of it, can make us feel anythingfrom numb to anxious, stressed and ashamed, and at worst like we don’t belong andthat we are not worthy of being loved. In the Beauty Load, counsellor Nicole Mathieson exposes the damaging andunrealistic beauty pressures society places on women, and shares how to lighten theload for good through awareness, self-compassion and a realignment with yourdeepest values.Reclaim your freedom, confidence and self-love.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathieson @the.beautyloadBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyload
9/30/2022

5. Accepting our mama bodies with Amy Taylor-Kabbaz

Season 1, Ep. 5
There are few moments in a woman's life in which her relationship with her body is catalysed into change more potent than the journey into motherhood. The media and instagram tell us of women bouncing back to their pre baby body, but is this real and is it necessary? In this episode I speak to matrescence expert, leader and activist Amy Taylor-Kabbaz about the pressures of matrescence and where it overlaps with the pressure to always look good, aka the Beauty Load. Amy shares some of the struggles she has observed and some beautiful rituals and tools she has shared with the women in her communities. Amy is passionate, fired up and a wealth of knowledge in this area and we dive deep into this topic. About Amy Amy Taylor-Kabbaz is a Best-Selling Author, Speaker, Journalist, Matrescence Activist and  Mama of three. After more than a decade covering breaking news and current affairs for the ABC around the country, her 'traditional' career took an unexpected turn when she found herself lost, overwhelmed and diagnosed with a thyroid condition after the birth of her first daughter. 14 years - and two more babies - later, she is now the best-selling Hay House author of Mama Rising, the host of the ‘The Happy Mama Movement’ podcast (with more than 400,000 downloads), an internationally awarded Life Coach and runs numerous online programs for mothers all over the world, expert contributor to media outlets around the globe.Where to find Amywebsite - amytaylorkabbaz.comHappy Mama podcast with Nicole as guest- amytaylorkabbaz.com/captivate-podcast/211Instagram - instagram.com/amytaylorkabbazAbout NicoleNicole Mathieson has impacted the lives of thousands of women through her writing,speaking, podcasts and work as a counsellor.In the therapy room, Nicole sees the Beauty Load doing its self-esteem-stealing damage inreal time as she helps her clients grapple with not feeling good enough to love. By sharing her own awkward stories and negative self-talk, Nicole inspires a deep exhaleof recognition from her clients and readers alike, who, for possibly the first time, realise theyare not alone, not crazy and absolutely not inadequate. The Beauty Load is Nicole’s first book.About the BookDo you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, and feeling likeyou don’t measure up?This is the Beauty Load in action, and here’s the thing: it’s not personal, in factit is inevitable in this world obsessed with beauty.Our personal perception of our beauty, or the lack of it, can make us feel anythingfrom numb to anxious, stressed and ashamed, and at worst like we don’t belong andthat we are not worthy of being loved. In the Beauty Load, counsellor Nicole Mathieson exposes the damaging andunrealistic beauty pressures society places on women, and shares how to lighten theload for good through awareness, self-compassion and a realignment with yourdeepest values.Reclaim your freedom, confidence and self-love.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathieson @the.beautyloadBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyload
9/22/2022

4. How can we be more encouraging to our teens

How can we be more encouraging to our teens when they are struggling through the difficult Beauty Load terrain of adolescence? I spoke to Amanda Rootsey, a youth mentor, to get her ideas about how to support and encourage our teens and I have to say, she made me feel a whole lot less worried. In this episode I chat to Amanda about her work as a teen and youth mentor, her journey with the life and body image changing experience of cancer and her time as an international model. I found Amanda to be so calm and centred, that by the end of this chat, even though we discussed big and hard things, the world felt less scary and daunting especially for our teens. About AmandaAmanda Rootsey is the author of Shine from Within; a teen girl’s guide to life (Hay House), a youth mentor and a certified life and business coach. Through her holistic training school in Australia, Shine From Within, Amanda has helped thousands of teens and tweens to develop their confidence and now trains adult around the world to be inspiring youth mentors through the award-winning online Youth Mentor Training. Amanda has appeared on The Today Show (Channel 9), been interviewed on morning radio and many podcasts and has been mentioned as a ‘game-changer’ in The Collective magazine, an ‘all round advocate for Mother Earth’ by Peppermint Magazine and has appeared in countless other publications including CLEO, Vogue Australia, Nature & Health and Wellbeing Magazine. It was a 2-year battle with cancer in her mid-twenties that changed Amanda’s perspective on life and inspired her to go vegan, simplify (living off-the-grid in a shipping container for over a year), start meditating, enjoy each moment and encourage youth to shine from within. You can find her at:www.shinefromwithin.com.auINSTAGRAM:@shinefromwithinhq@amandarootseyAbout NicoleNicole Mathieson has impacted the lives of thousands of women through her writing,speaking, podcasts and work as a counsellor.In the therapy room, Nicole sees the Beauty Load doing its self-esteem-stealing damage inreal time as she helps her clients grapple with not feeling good enough to love. By sharing her own awkward stories and negative self-talk, Nicole inspires a deep exhaleof recognition from her clients and readers alike, who, for possibly the first time, realise theyare not alone, not crazy and absolutely not inadequate. The Beauty Load is Nicole’s first book.About the BookDo you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, and feeling likeyou don’t measure up?This is the Beauty Load in action, and here’s the thing: it’s not personal, in factit is inevitable in this world obsessed with beauty.Our personal perception of our beauty, or the lack of it, can make us feel anythingfrom numb to anxious, stressed and ashamed, and at worst like we don’t belong andthat we are not worthy of being loved. In the Beauty Load, counsellor Nicole Mathieson exposes the damaging andunrealistic beauty pressures society places on women, and shares how to lighten theload for good through awareness, self-compassion and a realignment with yourdeepest values.Reclaim your freedom, confidence and self-love.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathieson @the.beautyloadBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyload
9/15/2022

3. Deep self acceptance with Dr Kirsty Seward

Season 1, Ep. 3
How much of our worth and identity is attached to our beauty, our body and our appearance?In this episode I chat with body image coach and behaviour scientist, Dr Kirsty Seward. I have to say that our work is so deeply aligned, that talking to Kirsty was just such a thrill. Kirsty's work is all about getting her clients back to a deep, loving acceptance of who they are. Kirsty talks about beauty being the goodness that radiates from us when we accept who we are, which is exactly what I am saying in my book!In this episode we talk about Kirsty's breast implant and then explant surgery, about the shred, 10 week challenge world and about the problems Kirsty sees her clients struggle with.About KirstyDr Kirsty Seward is a behavior scientist (PhD), dietitian and body image coach with over a decade of coaching experience in the health and wellness industry. Kirsty has supported over 10,000 clients to break free from diet culture, discover their purpose, values and identity – outside of ‘superficial beauty ideals’, overcome body shame, shift out the ‘all or nothing’ mentality and honour their body from a place of acceptance and radical self-love. Kirsty combines her decade of coaching experience with her own lived experience of body image concerns and explant surgery, to offer impactful 1:1 & group coaching programs, plus her signature 'RADIANCE' online course and community. Website: drkirstyseward.com.auInstagram: @drkirstysewardAbout NicoleNicole Mathieson has impacted the lives of thousands of women through her writing,speaking, podcasts and work as a counsellor.In the therapy room, Nicole sees the Beauty Load doing its self-esteem-stealing damage inreal time as she helps her clients grapple with not feeling good enough to love. By sharing her own awkward stories and negative self-talk, Nicole inspires a deep exhaleof recognition from her clients and readers alike, who, for possibly the first time, realise theyare not alone, not crazy and absolutely not inadequate. The Beauty Load is Nicole’s first book.About the BookDo you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, and feeling likeyou don’t measure up?This is the Beauty Load in action, and here’s the thing: it’s not personal, in factit is inevitable in this world obsessed with beauty.Our personal perception of our beauty, or the lack of it, can make us feel anythingfrom numb to anxious, stressed and ashamed, and at worst like we don’t belong andthat we are not worthy of being loved. In the Beauty Load, counsellor Nicole Mathieson exposes the damaging andunrealistic beauty pressures society places on women, and shares how to lighten theload for good through awareness, self-compassion and a realignment with yourdeepest values.Reclaim your freedom, confidence and self-love.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathieson @the.beautyloadBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyload
9/9/2022

2. We don't feel good enough

Season 1, Ep. 2
In this episode of the Beauty Load podcast, I am reading the chapter of my book The Beauty Load, called 'We don't feel good enough'. This is chapter 11 in the 2nd part of my book, the part that is all about what the Beauty Load does to us. In this chapter we explore how the Beauty Load makes us feel insecure. This is how the chapter starts;The story of ‘I am not attractive’ was so deeply entrenched in my psyche that it became the filter through which I saw myself in the world. I seemed to always find more evidence that my story was true. Even the slightest negative reaction would be notched up as evidence for my story. If a man turned away from me, made a comment about my hair colour (“Ginger- nut!”), or just did not notice me at all, I saw it and added the experience to my list of evidence that I was not attractive. When I look at photos of my younger self now, it seems ridiculous. Now, I see a beautiful young woman in her physical prime and it feels like such a shame that I couldn’t enjoy it. About NicoleNicole Mathieson has impacted the lives of thousands of women through her writing,speaking, podcasts and work as a counsellor.In the therapy room, Nicole sees the Beauty Load doing its self-esteem-stealing damage inreal time as she helps her clients grapple with not feeling good enough to love. By sharing her own awkward stories and negative self-talk, Nicole inspires a deep exhaleof recognition from her clients and readers alike, who, for possibly the first time, realise theyare not alone, not crazy and absolutely not inadequate. The Beauty Load is Nicole’s first book.About the BookDo you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, and feeling likeyou don’t measure up?This is the Beauty Load in action, and here’s the thing: it’s not personal, in factit is inevitable in this world obsessed with beauty.Our personal perception of our beauty, or the lack of it, can make us feel anythingfrom numb to anxious, stressed and ashamed, and at worst like we don’t belong andthat we are not worthy of being loved. In the Beauty Load, counsellor Nicole Mathieson exposes the damaging andunrealistic beauty pressures society places on women, and shares how to lighten theload for good through awareness, self-compassion and a realignment with yourdeepest values.Reclaim your freedom, confidence and self-love.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathieson @the.beautyloadBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyload