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67. Todd Herman: Using Alter Egos To Experience The Life You Want

“An alter ego gives you an amazing tool to tap into the creative imagination to allow you to unfold and see more of what you’re capable of.”

This episode’s guest is an absolute rockstar. I picked up his new book a few weeks back and finished it within 2 days - which should be telling for the greatness that was shared here.

Mr Todd Herman is a peak performance coach and serial entrepreneur who’s been mentoring elite performers in the world of sport and business for over 20 years. Through his treasure box of tools and philosophies, Todd is known for helping people achieve their most ambitious goals.

And in this episode, you’ll discover one of his most powerful techniques - so you can use it for yourself.

The technique I’m referring to is the use of an “alter ego”, which comes from Todd’s new book - The Alter Ego Effect.

Alter egos are the “other you”. They are characters (or identities) you can ‘activate’ to demonstrate the mindsets, beliefs, and practices that enable you to take the actions required to achieve your goals.

In this way, alter egos are a tool that give you enough confidence to overcome resistance and get momentum going.

It’s how they can help you achieve really hard things.

So if you know that there’s more in your tank and you get frustrated because willpower isn’t enough to take you over the threshold, you definitely want to listen to this episode.

Understand the superhero effect of alter egos and you’ll empower yourself to achieve your most ambitious goals.

“An alter ego for many people is often there to help you get past that initial resistance you may be having around pursuing something that’s new.”

In this episode you’ll discover:

  1. What becomes possible for you and your life when you play with your alter egos
  2. How ‘activating’ alter egos connects you with the same creative imagination that makes children believe they can be superman
  3. Why it’s healthier and more advantageous to be able to access multiple ‘selves’ rather than stick with a single identity
  4. How Todd used an alter ego to manage his daughter’s tantrums (this is a must-hear technique for any parent!)
  5. The relationship between your ‘trapped self’ and your ‘heroic self’ (and how your alter egos help you shift from one to the other)

What I loved most about this interview is the notion that the person you want to be is already inside.

Todd explains that you’re not broken and you don’t need to be fixed. Instead, you simply need to chisel away at all the ‘stuff’ that isn’t you. That’s what alter egos will help you achieve and why it’s an essential tool for living an extraordinary life.

So listen in now.

For a deeper dive on this concept - grab yourself a copy of the The Alter Ego Effect too. I’ve read it, it’s incredible, and I’m sure you’ll love it too.

“There is no one definition of who you are. You are the one who gets to decide who and what you are. Most people are simply walking around allowing other people to define who they are.”

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