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How to Set Boundaries for Happier Holidays

Season 3, Ep. 2

Summary:

In this episode of the Room to Bloom podcast, Dr. Mark A. Hicks discusses how to navigate the holiday season with healthier boundaries. He emphasizes the importance of managing expectations, understanding family dynamics, and setting personal boundaries to create a happier holiday experience. The conversation also touches on the Christian perspective of boundaries, the balance between compassion and accountability, and the significance of preparation and counseling. Listeners are encouraged to recognize that they are not alone in their struggles and to seek support when needed.


Takeaways:

-The idealized 'Hallmark holiday' is often unrealistic.

-Managing expectations is key to enjoying the holidays.

-Everyone has family members who can be challenging.

-Setting boundaries is essential for personal well-being.

-Boundaries are not mean; they are a form of self-care.

-It's important to communicate boundaries clearly.

-Upholding boundaries requires a plan and follow-through.

-Difficult decisions about family dynamics may be necessary.

-Counseling can provide valuable support and strategies.

-You are not alone in facing family challenges during the holidays.


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Disclaimer:

This podcast represents the opinions of Julie Rebboah and her guests, which are subject to change. The content of this Podcast is for inspirational and informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for advice or diagnosis from a medical or mental health professional. Certain topics may trigger listeners. You are advised to refrain from listening if you are likely to become offended or adversely impacted by sensitive topics that may include: abuse, addictions, alcoholism, childhood trauma, family dysfunction, faith, mental health disorders, sex, suicide, neglect, or violence. Use of information or materials linked from this Podcast is solely at the user's own risk. Julie Rebboah and her guests are not responsible for any direct or indirect losses or damages in connection with the use of this Podcast, or inability to access it. Listening to this Podcast does not form a practitioner/client relationship between the listener and Julie Rebboah, or her guests. Listeners are advised to immediately seek local professional advice and care before taking any action.

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