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  • 70. How to understand our Love Blueprints and find relationship peace with Heidi Louise

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    Join me and my guest Heid Louise as we discuss her book The Love Blueprint.You can find out more about Heid here, and get a copy of her book here, or on audio here.Heidi is a Brisbane based Psychotherapist who works from a holistic and trauma informed framework.  She is an experienced and qualified Psychotherapist, an Accredited Mental Health Social Worker (AMHSW), a Lvl 3 Gottman Couples therapist and a Lvl 2 (IFS) Internal Family Systems Therapist  In our chat we focused on understanding Love Blueprints which is the theme of Heidi's new book. we discuss;the various therapeutic approaches including IFS, Gottman, and Polyvagal theory to provide a comprehensive guide to understanding relationship patterns and personal developmentthe concept of the "Love Blueprint," which refers to our early experiences and how they shape our understanding of love and relationshipsthe challenges couples face when their love blueprints and coping strategies clash, highlighting the role of therapy in providing gentle guidance and support.the importance of understanding and compassion in relationshipsthe concept of triggers as flag posts for deeper healing and understanding in relationshipshow joy can be challenging for individuals due to past experiencesAnd finally, Heidi's definition of secure love which is, after all, what we all are truly craving in relationshipEnjoyNicole MathiesonThis podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a couple of podcasts and is the author of The Beauty Load, How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.Nicole helps men, women and couples get smarter, happier and more connected in their intimate relationships and has various online courses and resources to support people navigating the tricky realm of relationships.

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  • 69. Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationship

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    Join my guest Helen Sheehy and I as we explore neurodiversity in the realm of relationshipsYou can find Helen at neurodivergence.live here and you buy her book Moving Forwards, Working Backwards here too.In this episode we explore:What a strengths based approach to Neurodivergence isWhy Helen has changed the abbreviations from ADHD and ASDWhy being diagnosed can be beneficial - I share my personal experience of thisThe complexity and challenges of ADH /AS combo relationshipsWhy AS and ADH seem to attract each other in intimate relationshipsHelens' top tips for being in ND relationshipsEnjoyNicole MathiesonThis podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a couple of podcasts and is the author of The Beauty Load, How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.Nicole helps men, women and couples get smarter, happier and more connected in their intimate relationships.

  • 68. Same event, different story, Bridging the gap of your different view points

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    Two people can go through the same event and walk away with different stories about what happened.That’s right — same event, different story. And those different interpretations can quietly shape how we feel about each other, how safe we feel in our relationships, and even how much love we’re able to express.In this episode I talk about where we go wrong and what we can do to bridge the gap of disconnect, switch focus, stop arguing about our different versions and come back into connection.In this episode we look at:There’s Truth on Both SidesNowhere Is This More Polarising Than in the BedroomMemory: Is not to be trustedThe 3 Stances That Keep Us StuckHow to Improve Your Relationship — Bridging the GapSeeing Things Differently Can Be a StrengthNicole MathiesonThis podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a couple of podcasts and is the author of The Beauty Load, How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.Nicole helps men, women and couples get smarter, happier and more connected in their intimate relationships.

  • 67. The mistake we make in navigating conflict.

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    How are you in conflict?I hear so many clients ask me how to stop being so intense in their moments of conflict and I always answer that it is a great question, but also it is the wrong question in a way. I think we need to zoom out. Listen in as I take you through my ideas for how to do this.Sign up to my live workshop on June 8th - Keeping your cool, how to naviage conflict with grace.About NicoleNicole Mathieson is a couple therapist and relationship focussed counsellor helping people come back to themselves. Nicole teaches practical experiential skills to ceate more loving, connected and harmonious intimate relationships - with themselves and their partners.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathiesonBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyloadGet the course nicolemathieson.com/courses

  • 66. Why the Patriarchy makes us bitches

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    The Patriarchy does not serve any of us and it most definitely has it's gnarly tendrils in our homes and our relationship dynamics. The way that women respond to the patriarchal influences in our relationships is often quite bitchy. In this episode, I talk about what I mean by the Patriarchy, what I mean by bitchy behaviour and I invite you to my new monthly catch up for 2025 - Bitch Club.To join the Bitch Club mailing list go here - nicolemathieson.com/btch-club/To get in touch email me nicolemathiesontherapy@outlook.comAbout NicoleNicole Mathieson is a couple therapist and relationship focussed counsellor helping people come back to themselves. Nicole teaches practical experiential skills to ceate more loving, connected and harmonious intimate relationships - with themselves and their partners.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathiesonBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyloadGet the course nicolemathieson.com/courses

  • 65. All the pressures on the female libido

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    In this episode I explore a bunch of pressures on female libido that I see over an over and yet are not commonly thought of as desire stoppers.I am hoping that this episode feels hopeful and gives you lots of options for healing and exploration where you otherwise may have been feeling stuck.This episode does come with the trigger warning of the mention of sexual trauma.Listen to the end for my top tips on what to do once you discover these barriers to your libido.To get in touch email me nicolemathiesontherapy@outlook.comAbout NicoleNicole Mathieson is a couple therapist and relationship focussed counsellor helping people come back to themselves. Nicole teaches practical experiential skills to ceate more loving, connected and harmonious intimate relationships - with themselves and their partners.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathiesonBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyloadGet the course nicolemathieson.com/courses

  • 64. 64. Why we don't always love your solutions

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    Solutions are good right? I am just trying to help. Yes, but we actually find it really frustrating when we are sharing an issue and our partner jumps straight to solutions. Why is that? What is going on here? And what do we want and need instead?Listen to this episode as we explore what is going on with not always loving solutions.About NicoleNicole Mathieson is a couple therapist and relationship focussed counsellor helping people come back to themselves. Nicole teaches practical experiential skills to ceate more loving, connected and harmonious intimate relationships - with themselves and their partners.Website nicolemathieson.com/Instagram @nicole.mathiesonBuy the book nicolemathieson.com/thebeautyloadGet the course nicolemathieson.com/courses