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Quitted

A podcast about quitting

Quitted is a podcast about quitting, hosted byHolly WhitakerandEmily McDowell.What happens when you don't want to be who you are anymore?For all of us, there comes a time when in order to thrive (or simply survive!), we
Latest Episode5/12/2022

PART TWO: Martha Beck Quits Lying

Season 1, Ep. 14
PART TWO: Martha Beck Quits LyingAuthor, speaker, teacher, legend, Oprah-endorsed Martha Beck is known for quitting a lot of things: her family of origin, her religion, marriage, heterosexuality, academia, multiple versions of herself…the list is long. But the thing she quit that has had the most profound and rippling effect was lying. And we mean, lying about anything at all. Years ago she made a resolution to not tell one lie—to herself or anyone else, even the pleasant little lies we tell to make other people feel better—for an entire year. It was through this one commitment that Martha conceived that if we all quit lying and told the truth ALL THE TIME we’d meet our most authentic, liberated selves. (We tried it; it’s hard.)In this second episode of a two-part series (if you missed part 1, listen to that first; it aired last week), we continue our conversation about, well… how to be a person. We talk about how the only intention you need is to feel a little better, and how to get there – hint: get out of the mind and into the heart, because our minds are dumb and limited – and the difference between what we want and what we yearn for, and why the things we want won’t actually make us happy (even if what we want is a yacht, and we get it!). Also covered: how to recognize a soul teacher; the idea of abandoning both hope and fear; and the breakthroughs and benefits that come from trying on the opposite of our deepest beliefs. (Martha references “The Work of Byron Katie” here.)The intro ends, and the episode begins, at 00:12:40.Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her newest book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller.Find her at marthabeck.comSupport us:Quitted is listener-supported, made possible by us and by you; you can support this podcast by joining our Patreon community at patreon.com/quittedMusic: Michael Blumenfeld, mikebloomstudio.comSound engineering + edits: Adam Day, https://www.adamdayphotography.com/Producer: Cathleen KisichHost: Holly Whitaker, https://hollywhitaker.substack.com/Host: Emily McDowell, https://emilyonlife.com
5/12/2022

PART TWO: Martha Beck Quits Lying

Season 1, Ep. 14
PART TWO: Martha Beck Quits LyingAuthor, speaker, teacher, legend, Oprah-endorsed Martha Beck is known for quitting a lot of things: her family of origin, her religion, marriage, heterosexuality, academia, multiple versions of herself…the list is long. But the thing she quit that has had the most profound and rippling effect was lying. And we mean, lying about anything at all. Years ago she made a resolution to not tell one lie—to herself or anyone else, even the pleasant little lies we tell to make other people feel better—for an entire year. It was through this one commitment that Martha conceived that if we all quit lying and told the truth ALL THE TIME we’d meet our most authentic, liberated selves. (We tried it; it’s hard.)In this second episode of a two-part series (if you missed part 1, listen to that first; it aired last week), we continue our conversation about, well… how to be a person. We talk about how the only intention you need is to feel a little better, and how to get there – hint: get out of the mind and into the heart, because our minds are dumb and limited – and the difference between what we want and what we yearn for, and why the things we want won’t actually make us happy (even if what we want is a yacht, and we get it!). Also covered: how to recognize a soul teacher; the idea of abandoning both hope and fear; and the breakthroughs and benefits that come from trying on the opposite of our deepest beliefs. (Martha references “The Work of Byron Katie” here.)The intro ends, and the episode begins, at 00:12:40.Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her newest book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller.Find her at marthabeck.comSupport us:Quitted is listener-supported, made possible by us and by you; you can support this podcast by joining our Patreon community at patreon.com/quittedMusic: Michael Blumenfeld, mikebloomstudio.comSound engineering + edits: Adam Day, https://www.adamdayphotography.com/Producer: Cathleen KisichHost: Holly Whitaker, https://hollywhitaker.substack.com/Host: Emily McDowell, https://emilyonlife.com
5/5/2022

Martha Beck Quits Lying

Season 1, Ep. 13
Martha Beck Quits LyingAuthor, speaker, teacher, legend, Oprah-endorsed Martha Beck is known for quitting a lot of things: her family of origin, her religion, marriage, heterosexuality, academia,multiple versions of herself…the list is long. But the thing she quit that has had the most profound and rippling effect was lying. And we mean, lying about anything at all. Years ago she made a resolution to not tell one lie—to herself or anyone else, even the pleasant little lies we tell to make other people feel better—for an entire year. It was through this one commitment that Martha conceived that if we all quit lying and told the truth ALL THE TIME we’d meet our most authentic, liberated selves. (We tried it; it’s hard.)In this first episode of a two-part series, Emily has just quit her job and greeting card company, and tells this to Martha right after Martha—one of Emily’s heroes—tells Emily how in her household they know her as the greeting card goddess. 😩 From there we dive right into burning down versions of ourselves that no longer work (even if we’re goddesses in them), how sometimes we would rather die than face what life is asking of us, how when we tell harmless little people-pleasing lies we become exploding doormats, and how if all of us stopped lying our sexist racist patriarchal society would stop functioning. (!!) It’s a fucking gut punch of an episode we promise will make you want to burn some shit to the ground.Dr. Martha Beck is aNew York Timesbestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her newest book,The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self,was an instant New York Times Best Seller.Find her at marthabeck.comSupport us:Quitted is listener-supported, made possible by us and by you; you can support this podcast by joining our Patreon community at patreon.com/quittedMusic: Michael Blumenfeld, mikebloomstudio.comSound engineering + edits: Adam Day, https://www.adamdayphotography.com/Producer: Cathleen KisichHost: Holly Whitaker, https://hollywhitaker.substack.com/Host: Emily McDowell, https://emilyonlife.com
4/28/2022

Koa Beck on Quitting Self-Optimization

Season 1, Ep. 12
Koa Beck on Quitting Self-OptimizationKoa Beck made it to the top of her field: she was the was the editor-in-chief of Jezebel and before that was the executive editor atVogue.comwith many othercoveted roles held along the way, before she left to write a book that guaranteed she'd never be employable by those institutions ever again. But this isn't the story of how Koa managed that transition--it's not her quitting story. It's the story of white feminism and the lie that self-optimization will save us from a system designed to crush us. If we want a different future, there's a lot of things we're going to have to quit individually and collectively; this is a conversation about that.AboutKoa Beck:KOA BECKis the author of the acclaimed nonfiction bookWhite Feminism: From the Suffragettes to Influencers and Who They Leave Behind(Simon & Schuster, January 2021), praised by feminist writers Gloria Steinem and Rebecca Traister. Previously, she was the editor-in-chief of Jezebel, the executive editor ofVogue.com, and the senior features editor atMarieClaire.com. Patrisse Khan-Cullors, the cofounder of Black Lives Matter, describes Koa’s work as “intellectually smart and emotionally intelligent” while theBoston Globehas deemed her “a perceptive cultural critic” and “a visionary.”She is currently working on her second book and lives in Los Angeles with her wife.FindKoaat her website,Koabeck.comor follow her on Instagram@koabeckQuitted is listener-supported, made possible by us and by you; you can support this podcast by joining our Patreon community atpatreon.com/quittedHost: Holly Whitaker,https://hollywhitaker.substack.comHost: Emily McDowell,https://emilyonlife.comProducer: Cathleen KisichSound engineering + edits: Adam Day,https://www.adamdayphotography.com/Music: Michael Blumenfeld,mikebloomstudio.com
4/21/2022

Africa Brooke Part 2: Knowing Who You Are So You Know How To Act

Season 1, Ep. 11
Africa Brooke Part 2: Knowing Who You Are So You Know How To ActWe’re back with the second installment of Africa Brooke. In this episode we dive into how Africa quit self-sabotaging and censoring and found her own voice and the self-confidence to say the things a lot of people are afraid to say. (Hint: it’s sobriety). We go deep on how identifying our values are the key to helping us remember who we are, what we care about, what we stand for, so we can quit trying to stand foreverythingin the news cycle, speaking up about every issue just because everyone else is, and get real with what we personally want to prioritize and put our energy into—so we can all quit self-censoring. Everyone shares their own lists of values, hilarity ensues.About Africa Brooke:Africa Brooke is a globally recognized consultant, coach, speaker, and writer who specializes in helping people move through self-censorship and other forms of self-sabotage. Her work takes a close look at the complexity, mess, and glory that is the human experience, and she makes a strong case for why we need to accept discomfort as an essential part of the growth process. She hosts two podcasts: Beyond the Self & Unfiltered with Africa.Find Africa on Instagram @africabrooke, listen to her podcastBeyond The Selfor at her website,afrciabrooke.comQuitted is listener-supported, made possible by us and by you; you can support this podcast by joining our Patreon community atpatreon.com/quittedHost: Holly Whitaker,https://hollywhitaker.substack.comHost: Emily McDowell,https://emilyonlife.comProducer: Cathleen KisichSound engineering + edits: Adam Day,https://www.adamdayphotography.com/Music: Michael Blumenfeld,mikebloomstudio.com
4/14/2022

Africa Brooke and Quitting Self-Censorship

Season 1, Ep. 10
Africa Brooke and Quitting Self-CensorshipInstagram, and social media, can be an amazing tool for social justice. It can also be an absolute trash fire where nobody listens to each other, everyone is outraged, and there’s an overwhelming pressure to post the right thing at the right time, or have an opinion about everything, and a deep fear of saying the wrong thing by mistake or being misunderstood. This week, we’re talking to Africa Brooke about navigating all this, how to stop self-censoring and self-sabotage (and the relationship between the two), and showing up, both online and in life, in ways that align with our own integrity.This is part one of a two part discussion with Africa Brooke. The intro ends, and the interview begins, at 00:20:22About Africa Brooke:Africa Brooke is a globally recognized consultant, coach, speaker, and writer who specializes in helping people move through self-censorship and other forms of self-sabotage. Her work takes a close look at the complexity, mess, and glory that is the human experience, and she makes a strong case for why we need to accept discomfort as an essential part of the growth process. She hosts two podcasts: Beyond the Self & Unfiltered with Africa.Find her on Instagram: @africabrookeSupport us:Quitted is listener-supported, made possible by us and by you; you can support this podcast by joining our Patreon community atpatreon.com/quittedMusic: Michael Blumenfeld,mikebloomstudio.comSound engineering + edits: Adam Day,https://www.adamdayphotography.com/Producer: Cathleen KisichHost: Holly Whitaker,https://hollywhitaker.substack.com/Host: Emily McDowell,https://emilyonlife.comBecome a Quitted supporter on PatreonSeeacast.com/privacyfor privacy and opt-out information.
4/7/2022

It's Quitting Season with Lindsay Crouse

Season 1, Ep. 9
It’s Quitting Season with Lindsay Crouse“When the system doesn't historically stand for you, why sacrifice yourself to uphold it?” Today’s guest, Lindsay Crouse, is as close as it gets to a “quitting expert” in her role as writer and producer at The New York Times, and in this episode, we’re talking about some key things she’s learned and observed through her award-winning coverage. When female athletes at the top of their game like Simone Biles and Naomi Osaka start saying no, what larger truth does that indicate, and what does it mean for the rest of us? What is the sunk cost fallacy, and how does it make us justify staying in situations we want to leave? What happens when you become a martyr to grit? Why do we celebrate endurance, especially as women, when quitting can actually be self-protection?The intro ends, and the interview begins, at 00:16:15.About Lindsay Crouse:Lindsay Crouse is a writer and producer in the Opinion section of The New York Times. Drawing on her own experiences as a competitive marathoner, she has spearheaded coverage of women athletes at The Times; the Emmy-nominated video series she produced in 2019, Equal Play, broke news by centering female athletes’ untold experiences and led to widespread reform in women’s sports. Now the Co-Executive Producer of Op-Docs, The Times’s series of short documentaries by independent filmmakers, she has produced more than 300 films, winning four Emmy awards (15 nominations), five Oscar nominations, and two Peabody awards—including the 2022 Oscar nominee “The Queen of Basketball.” She is the author of the forthcoming book“The Case for Quitting.”Support us:Quitted is listener-supported, made possible by us and by you; you can support this podcast by joining our Patreon community at patreon.com/quittedMusic: Michael Blumenfeld, mikebloomstudio.comSound engineering + edits: Adam Day, https://www.adamdayphotography.com/Producer: Cathleen KisichHost: Holly Whitaker, https://hollywhitaker.substack.com/Host: Emily McDowell, https://emilyonlife.com
3/31/2022

Dr. Nathalie Dougé Quits Doctoring in the Middle of COVID

Season 1, Ep. 8
Dr. Nathalie Dougé Quits Doctoring in the Middle of COVIDNathalie Dougé always knew she wanted to be a doctor: to help people; to make her family proud; and to advocate for people who looked like her: a first-generation Haitian-American woman from the Bronx. When Covid hit, she was working as a hospitalist in Queens: the epicenter of the pandemic. In this episode, Dr. Nathalie Dougé tells us her story: what it took to become a doctor; what it was like to treat the sickest patients in the early days of Covid; how George Floyd’s murder intersected with what she was going through at work; and, ultimately, the messy, uncertain process of walking away from her calling, her training, and her identity as a physician.Dr. Dougé was a participant in the award-winning documentary The First Wave, which follows a group of New York City doctors, nurses, and patients for the first four months of the pandemic, as they try desperately to navigate the unknown. You don’t need to have seen The First Wave to listen to this episode, but it’s free on Hulu, and everyone should watch it. We discuss the film in the intro.The intro ends, and the interview begins, at 00:10:11.More about The First Wave here: https://films.nationalgeographic.com/the-first-waveWatch The First Wave on Hulu here: https://www.hulu.com/movie/the-first-wave-5e708670-e586-4a8b-a98c-f5338c4b865aAbout Nathalie Dougé, MD:Nathalie Dougé, MD is a board-certified physician in internal medicine. During the first wave of the COVID-19 pandemic in New York City, she served as a hospitalist and assistant professor at a tertiary academic center in Queens, NY.She is one of the participant's in the critically acclaimed 2021 National Geographic documentary film, The First Wave. She has been interviewed and appeared in media outlets, such as Esquire magazine, ABC's Good Morning America and Nightline, Forbes magazine, Amanour & Company on PBS, and MSNBC Politics Nation. She is a board member of the Dr. Lorna Breen Heroes Foundation. She lives in Queens, NY and is a doting dog mom to her rescue Mars. She is on IG @ndougemd.Support us:Quitted is listener supported, made possible by us and by you; you can support this podcast by joining our Patreon community at patreon.com/quittedMusic: Michael Blumenfeld, mikebloomstudio.comSound engineering + edits: Adam Day, https://www.adamdayphotography.com/Producer: Cathleen KisichHost: Holly Whitaker, https://hollywhitaker.substack.com/Host: Emily McDowell, https://emilyonlife.com