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Masculinity and dementia: Tommy and Andrew’s story

Season 3, Ep. 5

Tommy and Andrew met in a pub in Liverpool to talk about something many men struggle to discuss openly: dementia.


Tommy has young onset Alzheimer's disease and Andrew is a carer for his mum, Ann, who received her vascular dementia diagnosis during Covid.


In this episode, they talk about navigating the emotional ups and downs of living with dementia and how expectations around masculinity have affected their experiences.


Tommy and Andrew’s dementia story challenges stereotypes and opens up an honest conversation about how men experience dementia, whether they’re living with the condition themselves or caring for someone with a dementia diagnosis.


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