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Mad, Sad and Bad with Paloma Faith

Paapa Essiedu: Why Grief Shouldn’t Be Feared

Season 1, Ep. 6

Paapa Essiedu is not only an incredible actor, lighting up our screens and London’s stages, he’s also a great friend and probably the most emotionally intelligent man I know.


In this conversation, Paapa opens up about losing both his parents by the age of 20, and what it taught him about love, grief, and how sadness creates the imperfections of our character which allow us to be authentic and unique individuals. We also discuss spirituality, Christian guilt, and how growing up going to church shaped Paapa’s ideas of what it means to be a good person. Paapa also shares his experiences of racial profiling as an actor, and how he’s learned to channel this anger into action.


I deeply admire Paapa and his ability to express himself calmly and eloquently in the face of injustice – I really loved this thought-provoking and inspiring chat and hope you do too!


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Producer: Jemima Rathbone

Assistant Producer: Magda Cassidy

Edit Producer: Pippa Brown

Editor: Shane O'Byrne

Video: Jake Ji & Grisha Nikolsky

Video Editor: Josh Bennett

Original music: BUTCH PIXY

Social Media: Laura Coughlan

Marketing: Eleanore Bamber

Exec Producer: Jemima Rathbone

Exec Producers for Idle Industries: Dave Granger & Will Macdonald

Senior Exec Producer: Holly Newson

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