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Why Not To Believe The Promise Of Change From A Narcissist - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Ep. 177

People with narcissistic tendencies and traits want to have their way, and want you to do their bidding.

If they really, really, really want something, or, if they are really, really, really afraid of losing something, they sometimes promise to change.


How many promises has a narcissist--a narcissistic #Hijackal--made to you about changing behaviors? How many of those promises were kept? Right! Not many.


Oh, yes, maybe for a hot minute things improved. That is usually to get you to believe that they sincerely mean what they say. The proof, though, is in the long-term, sustained changes. How many of those changes did you see?


Learning more about why change isn't sustained is important. BUT, it doesn't excuse it. Save yourself from further emotional abuse.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • Why admitting a mistake is so difficult for a #narcissist, a #Hijackal
  • 5 reasons #narcissists will give you the impression they are going to change
  • Why #narcissists seldom change and narcissistic abuse prevails
  • Why you get your hopes up when a #Hijackal changes even a little more to the positive
  • Why toxic relationships stay the same
  • How promising to change and not doing it contributes to emotional abuse


Narcissists are abusive. Their very real fear of closeness gives them little ability or willingness to move in your direction. Promising to change but never actually changing is one way this shows up. See it clearly, even when hope tries to get in your way. You and your children need to be in healthy environments where there is no verbal abuse, no emotional abuse, and no other kind of abuse, either.


Big hugs!

Rhoberta


Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97


CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.


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