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Expecting Emotional Maturity from a Narcissist? Don't Hold Your Breath!!!

Ep. 341

SOOO frustrating! You hoped for a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child with whom you could communicate, collaborate, and co-operate, but no. You live most of the time with q tiresome toddler or miserable middle schooler, right?


Learn more about recognizing the patterns and altering your expectations now.


HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

  • #Hijackals are emotionally immature.
  • Check your expectations when you approach a narcissist. Expecting equality? Oops!
  • Often feel you're talking to a tiresome toddler or demanding teenager when you try to reason with a Hijackal?
  • Why you need to do your own work to make good decisions about what to do about the Hijackal


I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta


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