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What Highly-Sensitive People Need to Know to Escape the Trap of Emotional Abuse GUEST: Debbie Lynn Grace

Ep. 156
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Do you know if you are actually a highly-sensitive person? That's MUCH more than easily having your feelings hurt.

You will be VERY attractive to a person who wants to control you, and that's a devastating combination.


My guest, Debbie Lynn Grace, is an expert who can help you understand the many ways highly-sensitive people are affected by their environment, life, and relationships. We take it further to give you the life-saving insights you need to recognize why you are attractive to #Hijackals--those relentless difficult, toxic people--and why you attract them. Best of all, we talk about WHAT TO DO!


Any chance you would qualify as an "over-giver?" That's exhausting. In this episode, you'll hear the why's and how's to shift to a more balanced view, an empowered stance, and the willingness to take action to save your sanity!


This episode can be the catalyst for changing your life if you are highly-sensitive...and, very insightful even if you're not!


Big hugs,

Rhoberta


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • How to know if you are a highly-sensitive person
  • The energetic difference between a highly-sensitive person and one who is not
  • How the approach to life is different for a highly-sensitive person
  • 3 traits a highly-sensitive person has that makes them susceptible to attracting an emotional abuser
  • What it takes for a highly-sensitive person to stand in their power
  • What a highly-sensitive person can do to make sure they attract a healthy love relationship
  • Tips for handling a toxic relationship



GUEST: DEBBIE LYNN GRACE


Debbie Lynn Grace is a transformational leader, 35 year marketing and business growth expert, author and an international speaker. She is also a gifted energy worker, empath and intuitive. Debbie’s clients include global leaders, influential and high achieving professionals, purpose driven entrepreneurs and people who are ready to step into their own authentic power to take their life to the next level. She shows you how to live in the highest vibration of your authentic power so your work and life are purpose filled and aligned on your soul journey with ease and flow.


"The time you take trying to cover yourself up because you feel ashamed, judged, or unsafe takes away precious moments of your life where you could be discovering more about the brilliance of who you really are and the power you possess." Debbie Lynn Grace


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