Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Share

Beware of Introjection & Projection!

Ep. 225

You may not know these terms but you know the undercutting feeling one produces, and the scramble the other does! Very important to recognize and say no to! Listen in.


Hijackals--people with narcissistic, borderline, passive-aggressive, anti-social traits--play to win. Only to win. They cannot and will not tolerate blame or shame to touch them and they work hard at being two or three steps ahead of either of those at all times. This episode sheds light on two sad, and important, ways that they try to make you take responsibility for their deficits. As I said, sad!


You may be familiar with projection. That's when the Hijackal projects their feelings or characteristics onto you, usually things they are afraid are true about themselves. Much more on that to hear.


You may not be familiar with introjection. That;s when you unconsciously internalize and incorporate the characteristics, ideas and attitudes of other people into your own thoughts and behaviors, usualy to reduce your anxiety or fear of loss.


Now, you can imagine what havoc these two things can create within you...but, only if you don't realize what's going on. This episode will help you clearly understand what these terms mean and how they play out. (p.s. NOT WELL!) It's important to know these distinctions so you'll be able to take charge when you see them!


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • What projection is, and its purpose
  • What introjection is
  • How introjection can be used positively AND negatively to shape you without your awareness
  • How Hijackals use projection to protect themselves
  • How you might use introjection to misguidedly try to get a Hijackal to like you and treat you well (p.s. That won't happen.)


Do you know you need to learn to turn on the teflon and avoid the projection?  I'm here to help.


Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta


Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97


CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.


FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler

CLUBHOUSE: @drshaler


YOUTUBEhttps://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

-------------------------------------------------------------

I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!

If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,

join my Community Circle now.

Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!

WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 


#projection #introjection #hownarcissistsuseprojection #beawareofintrojection #takechargeofyourself #dontsuckuptonarcissists #dontbelikethem

#codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered

#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest

More Episodes

11/23/2021

Recognizing Relationship Trauma - Past & Present

Ep. 232
Everyone experiences trauma differently. Frequently, folks don't recognize or acknowledge their trauma, either. This episode will help you understand how you may--or may not--have processed trauma, and why you may be recreating it, too.You cannot separate the mind from the body. They are constantly interacting and informing one another. When you have experienced trauma, both your mind and body are affected. And, you may not have realized what happened to you.Dr. Gabor Mate said, "Trauma is a psychic wound that hardens you psychologically that then interferes with your ability to grow and develop. It pains you and now you're acting out of pain. It induces fear and now you're acting out of fear. Trauma is not what happens to you, it's what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you."When you see that clearly, and you relate it to your experience, you can choose a healing and recovering journey. Vital to recognize if you'd like to change your life!HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:The body/mind connection when trauma is experienced3 immediate responses most people have to trauma whether they recognize them or not3 additional stages of trauma and their symptomsHow trauma creates a habitual dis-ease that can be healed.Want to talk about your relationship? .I'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and supportfrom me? We can talk:Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE:https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST:http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK:https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER:https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN:https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM:https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST:https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE:https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If youwant to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now.Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community#recognizingtrauma #traumaresponses #yourbodyrememberstrauma #drgabormate #drpeterlevine#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
11/9/2021

Why You Feel So Frozen, Stuck and Powerless With A Hijackal

Ep. 231
The energetics of relationships with Hijackals can shut you down emotionally, and even physically. Understanding what happens within yourself and why can help you thaw, move, and take action in your own best interests. You need to hear this to empower yourself and get unstuck!You are not powerless, although you may be feeling that way. You may be so worn down and torn down that you are overwhelmed by the negative energy that is always being sent your way.We are energetic beings. We need to be balancing the positive and negative energy, the heightened and depressed energy, and therefore, we need to recognize when we are receiving or feeling too much charge, or the opposite: feeling depleted and exhausted. And, we need to know what's causing it. In this episode, I talk about the energetic interchanges of relationships with Hijackal--narcissists and anti-social folks, too.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Energy exchanges can be damagingHow Hijackals are constantly sending "high charge: in your directionThe energetics of relationshipsWhat happens when you cannot safely discharge energyWant to talk about your relationship? .I'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and supportfrom me? We can talk:Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE:https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST:http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK:https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER:https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN:https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM:https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST:https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE:https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If youwant to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now.Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community#energeticsofrelationship #whyIfeelsostuck #feelingpowerlessinrelationship #dischargingnarcissism #energychargefromnarcissists #dysfunctionalenergy#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
11/2/2021

What Healthy Love Is

Ep. 230
Knowing what healthy love is allows you to examine your own relationship more accurately. Don't settle for crumbs. Wait for the full meal.Did you see healthy love growing up? Did you experience it? Did you feel it?Did it make you feel safe and loved for who you were as you grew? If you didn't experience this when you were young, you may be settling for less than is healthy now. Find out today!Dr. Shaler's definition of "healthy love:""Healthy love has an equitable balance between autonomy and intimacy, demonstrates equality, reciprocity, and mutuality and operates with honesty, safety, trust, respect, and reliability. Then, it is a partnership, greater than the sum of its parts."Is this what you're experiencing in your primary romantic relationship? Make it your goal. Don't settle for less.HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Where we get our contexts for healthy loveThe necessary balance between autonomy and intimacyA definition of healthy loveThe 3 must-haves of a healthy adult relationshipCreating healthy partnershipWant to talk about your relationship? .I'm here to help.Let's talk soon.RhobertaWant clarity, insights, strategies, and supportfrom me? We can talk:Introductory session for new clients, $97FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...WEBSITE:https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST:http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK:https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER:https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN:https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM:https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST:https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerCLUBHOUSE: @drshalerYOUTUBE:https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If youwant to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Community Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!WOW! Join now.Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community#healthylove #whathealthyloveis #ismyrelationshiphealthy #dontsettleforless #healthypartnership#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse