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10 Root Fears That Hijackals Prey On...Relentlessly

Ep. 233

We all have things we fear, things we may not even be conscious of. Hijackals exploit your deepest root fears to manipulate and control. They make those fears worse and more real. Recognize these fears and how the Hijackal feeds them.


Oxford Languages defines fear as "an unplesasant emotion caused by the believe someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat." There are many roots to your fears: the places things grow from. When you were raised by, lived with, or left a Hijackal, you will have had your fears magnified by the experience, in most cases.


Time to recognize these ten fears (there are many more) and how Hijackals prey on them to keep you scared, small, restricted, confined, and controlled. Nasty!


Once you listen to this episode, you will be empowered to see how Hijackals use your fears and wounds to manipulate, control, and coerce you. With that knowledge, you can recognize the emotional abuse.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • How Hijackals are attracted to people with wounds
  • How your root fears can turn into your beliefs about yourself and others
  • Why Hijackals want to keep you hypervigilant and afraid
  • Reclaiming and regaining your personal power


Want to talk about your relationship? . I'm here to help.

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta


Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97

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