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Saying No to "Shoulds" & Toxic Shame

Ep. 255

Who has told you what to do and how to do it? Who told you who you are and what you're worth? Did it include "shoulds" and shame? So important to recognize because it may be still playing a part in your life. Also, others can still tap into it, especially Hijackals.


So many ways that narcissists and other Hijackals want to exert power over you, and do it by continuously shaming you, making you wrong, small, guilt-ridden, and diminished! Toxic shaming is one of those ways. See it clearly so you can reject it!


HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:

  • Why you may not realize how many times you've been told you "should"
  • Why "shoulding on yourself" is toxic
  • The myth of perfectionism
  • What toxic shame is
  • How toxic shame is perpetrated
  • Internalizing toxic shame


I'm here to help.

Let's talk soon.

Rhoberta


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