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Isolation: A Nasty Tactic of Coercive Control

Ep. 167

When you are first with a #Hijackal, you are flattered that they want you all to themselves. You're delighted that they want to be with you, and "can't get enough of you." That's the normal joy of a new relationship.


Then, when you're with a toxic person, a #Hijackal, a #narcissist, there comes a moment when you find yourself isolated, alone, and marginalized. You look around and you have been separated from your family and friends.


#Hijackals are happy then. You're not and in this episode, I'm giving you clear insight into how narcissistic people manipulate you into that isolation. It's usually gradual, and you don't realize what the final result will be. You're still trying to compromise and accommodate.


The #Hijackal has another plan, and it involves cutting you off from as much support as possible. Nasty!


Once you clearly see these manipulations, you can begin to put an end to it--one way or another.


Big hugs!

Rhoberta


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • 5 reasons #Hijackals, #narcissists, and other toxic people isolate you
  • The differences they show in public and in private
  • How and why Hijackals try to install themselves between you and the world
  • 11 ways the abuse of isolation shows up
  • Why you need to clearly see these isolation tactics


Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97


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