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How Having a Hijackal Parent Can Mess With Your Life & Relationships

Ep. 88

When you have a #Hijackal® parent, you tend to model their traits, or be set up to be the unwitting "prey" for other predators like them. Having a #Hijackal parent can turn you into "Hijackal Bait." Hijackals are attracted to you, and you are attracted tot hem.


Why? Because they seem so familiar. You feel somehow comfortably uncomfortable with them...at least for the first while.


Having a Hijackal parent often means that you become the Golden Child in the family, the one who can do no wrong. Or, the Scapegoat, the one who can do nothing right.


It's important to realize the potential pitfalls for life and relationship that having a Hijackal parent set you up to take. It certainly wasn't your fault, and you did not create. It's important, though, to recognize what actually happened to you.


Today's episode gives you some insights into this.


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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • Insights into motives of toxic parents
  • What you may not realize about your upbringing
  • Why #Hijackals must make you wrong
  • Why you might take on too much blame in life


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