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Complete Communication: What's Needed When You're Sexy, Sassy & Starting Over Guest: Karen Solomon

Ep. 104

Left a relationship and wondering about re-entering the dating life?

Getting your courage to date again?

Afraid to step out, or choose wisely?

Need encouragement and inspiration to be self-confident?

Karen Solomon offers some great ideas for Complete Communication that come from the key distinctions between men and women and how some specific, deliberate communication modalities will work for you.


You're starting over in life, leaving a relationship, job, or mindset.

What do you need to think about when starting over in the dating world?

Are you Sexy, Sassy & Starting Over? Or, want to be?


Especially if you are leaving a toxic relationship--a relationship with a #Hijackal--or, you were raised by one, you may be feeling fear, trepidation, and excitement all at once.

Can I do it?

How will I do it?

Is there a good way to prepare to date again?


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • Karen's story of discovery and inspiration after divorce
  • What Complete Communication is and why it's important
  • What the common denominator among sex, money, and relationships is
  • How to know when you're ready for transformation
  • Who are you pleasing and why?
  • Differences in communication style between men and women


GUEST: Karen Solomon


Karen Solomon, author of Sexy, Sassy & Starting Over, teaches keys to confidence from the bedroom to the boardroom and inspires her clients to create their lives congruent with their deepest needs and desires. Her communication style is bold, edgy, and inspires both men and women to be their authentic, unadulterated selves. She integrates a foundation as a credentialed teacher with over two decades providing image makeovers and relationship coaching for men and women. Karen’s passion, insight and genuine desire to serve, combined with being direct, compassionate and relatable, leave audiences and listeners laughing and loving themselves.


Karen’s long term marriage followed by an amicable divorce combined with decades of personal development with a focus on intimacy and communication have prepared her to assist other in navigating life transitions. A grateful breast cancer survivor, Karen advocates for women going through similar journeys.


Her signature seminar Men, Sex & Money, along with her coaching practice combine to offer real solutions for creating an irresistible next chapter filled with clarity and pleasure. Her presentations result in practical tools to upgrade life and relationships.


Karen Solomon has gifts for you.

Find it HERE.


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