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Breadcrumb Dating: How It's Related to Insecurity & Toxicity GUEST: Tracy Crossley

Ep. 98

Dating? Getting back in the dating scene? Does it scare you these days? All this talk--and experience--of breadcrumb dating, ghosting, insecurity, toxicity, safety in relationships? My guest, Tracy Crossley, specializes in helping you to be aware of unhealthy dating patterns and how to change them. Breadcrumb dating needs to be recognized immediately and shut down. Learn today to save yourself unnecessary pain while dating.


Tracy Crossley cautions, "Sex is not emotional intimacy." Sometimes, you can hope that it is--or, at least, is the beginning of emotional intimacy. It's not! Often, the earlier you have sex in a relationship the more likely it is that you will experience breadcrumb dating. Save yourself that pain!


If you've ever been in a toxic relationship, you are likely to be afraid of dating these days.

Who can I trust?

Can I trust myself to choose a healthy relationship?


Breadcrumb dating is what you likely fear the most because it will mimic the emotional abuse you have already experienced. Do you know what "breadcrumb dating" actually is? An experience you don't want! Today we talk about recognizing these patterns and possibilities just in case you run into them. So then you can run away!


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • What is "breadcrumb dating?"
  • What does breadcrumb dating have to do with attachment styles?
  • Hear Tracy Crossley's story
  • How breadcrumb dating triggers fear of abandonment
  • Why sex is not emotional intimacy
  • How you can stop doing things that make you feel bad
  • Learning to be honest and vulnerable without punishing yourself
  • What is an "insecure attachment" and how does it look in relationship?


GUEST: Tracy Crossley

Tracy is a Behavioral Relationship Expert and Podcast Host who works with individuals to help transform their dating habits by breaking unhealthy cycles of dating. With a background in psychology, an innate emotional intuition, and drawing from her own personal experience, Tracy helps her clients break the patterns that keep them trapped in the repetition of unhealthy singlehood and relationships.


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