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Am I In A Toxic Relationship With A Hijackal? Beware, Hijackals Are Crafty!

Ep. 159

Yes, it's important to recognize the patterns, traits, cycles, and behaviors of the relentlessly difficult people I call #Hijackals®.


In this episode, another important feature: what kinds of things you FEEL when you're with a Hijackal. That's so important to take note of because almost all those feelings are not good ones, right?


Toxicity is poisonous! In fact, that is part of the very definition of the word, toxicity.


If you're busy rationalizing, justifying, or making excuses for the bad behavior of another person, you may not notice the huge toll it is taking on your own life. Not good!


Take these in and compare them to how you're feeling. Eye-opening!


Big hugs!

Rhoberta


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • Why you can being emotionally poisoned without noticing
  • How the toxicity spreads into unknown corners of your life
  • The subtle effects of life with a #Hijackal
  • How #Hijackals change you to focus on them without realizing their effect on you
  • Hijackals are crafty: they are clever at achieving their aims by indirect and deceitful methods


Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97


CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.


FOLLOW DR. SHALER...

WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com

PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com

FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor

TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler

PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler


YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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