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10 Signs of a Pathological Liar & How to Respond - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Ep. 96

"I know I'm being lied to, but I want it to be true." I hear that so often from clients. I understand that they are so hooked on hope that the person they fell in love with would never lie to them that they believe the lies.


Often, they are so exhausted from being in a relationship with a #Hijackal that they don't have the energy to deal with the lying.


In today's episode, I'm offering you ten signs of a pathological liar so that you can step back and see if you really have on in your life. That's a good first step.


Then, you can hear my thoughts on why they lie. It is very organic, and fundamental to their nature, to lie bold faced. Pathological liars seldom even think about lying. They need to win or be right in the moment, and they'll do whatever it takes in that minute to achieve it. Sound familiar?


Then, when you catch them saying something different about the same thing they lied about yesterday, learn why it is never productive to point it out. And, learn what you can do differently when you know that you are dealing with a #pathologicalliar.


best regards,

Rhoberta


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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • Difference between white lies and pathological lies
  • 10 reasons pathological liars will not tell the truth
  • Most common lies of #Hijackals and other pathological liars
  • What not to do when being lied to by a #Hijackal or #pathologicalliar
  • What to focus on when you are being lied to
  • How best to respond and how not to respond to a pathological liar


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