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How to Break Free From the 4 Core Wounds Blocking Lasting Love

Ep. 52

Struggling to find lasting love or stuck in self-sabotage? In this episode, Sasha Quince explores the four emotional wounds that often hinder relationships: fear of rejection, abandonment, unworthiness, and betrayal. Sharing personal insights and tools as a relationship mentor, Sasha helps you identify and heal these wounds. Learn how to break free from limiting beliefs, build self-awareness, and create deeper connections. Tune in for a transformative path to healthier relationships.



Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:


  1. What did you most resonate with about this episode?
  2. Which fear or fears did you most nod your head to?
  3. What do you need to ask yourself to be aware of how you were acting from this wound?



In this episode, you will learn the following :


  • The 4 Core Emotional Wounds in Relationships:

Fear of Rejection

Fear of Abandonment

Fear of Unworthiness

Fear of Betrayal

  • Emotional wounds often begin in childhood and can be generational
  • How each wound shapes how we connect with ourselves and others in relationships.



Heal You Heal Your Relationship - the 11 week inner work course to heal you and your relationships. Dive into the self for healthy lasting love, whether you're in a relationship and seeking your life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to understand yourself, overcome your fears, reprogram your subconscious mind, up-level your love beliefs and finally feel peace, joy and balance in your love life. Through teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts.

http://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/HealYouHealYourRelationships 



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