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What Do You Do When Your Partner Pulls Away or Shuts Down in Conflict or Communication?
This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha dives into what to do when your partner pulls away during conflict or communication. She shares why triggers are inevitable in relationships, how dysregulation affects both partners, and why turning inward first is the key to creating emotional safety. đ§ââď¸
Sasha walks you through practical ways to respond when you feel anxious, overlooked, or triggeredâfrom identifying your hidden fears and naming your emotions, to self-soothing and regulating your nervous system. â¨
By the end of this episode, youâll see that healing your inner world first not only reduces unnecessary suffering, but also transforms the way you show up in your relationshipsâwith calm, clarity, and confidence. đď¸
Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:
- What patterns, emotional, relational or karmic, do you notice repeating in your own life?
- What moment felt like a turning point that quietly began your own process of healing or transformation?
- What is your own relationship with the unseen or the symbolic?
In this episode, youâll discover:
- Why your partner pulling away is often a sign of their own dysregulationânot a reflection of your worth
- How to step back, self-soothe, and process your emotions before trying to fix the relationship
- Why understanding your triggers can reveal hidden fears that sabotage love
- How regulating yourself first can create a ripple effect of safety and connection in your relationship
- Practical tools to identify, feel, and reframe emotions so you can communicate your needs calmly and effectively
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đGet Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation Tool
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For more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship
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