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What Do You Do When Your Partner Pulls Away or Shuts Down in Conflict or Communication?
This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha dives into what to do when your partner pulls away during conflict or communication. She shares why triggers are inevitable in relationships, how dysregulation affects both partners, and why turning inward first is the key to creating emotional safety. đ§ââď¸
Sasha walks you through practical ways to respond when you feel anxious, overlooked, or triggeredâfrom identifying your hidden fears and naming your emotions, to self-soothing and regulating your nervous system. â¨
By the end of this episode, youâll see that healing your inner world first not only reduces unnecessary suffering, but also transforms the way you show up in your relationshipsâwith calm, clarity, and confidence. đď¸
Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:
- What patterns, emotional, relational or karmic, do you notice repeating in your own life?
- What moment felt like a turning point that quietly began your own process of healing or transformation?
- What is your own relationship with the unseen or the symbolic?
In this episode, youâll discover:
- Why your partner pulling away is often a sign of their own dysregulationânot a reflection of your worth
- How to step back, self-soothe, and process your emotions before trying to fix the relationship
- Why understanding your triggers can reveal hidden fears that sabotage love
- How regulating yourself first can create a ripple effect of safety and connection in your relationship
- Practical tools to identify, feel, and reframe emotions so you can communicate your needs calmly and effectively
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101. How to balance your nervous system in unstable and overwhelming times
40:52||Ep. 101I live in the UAE and our country is currently under attack by Iran, this unstable period hit us one random saturday morning out of the blue, we had no preparation and it was a complete shock to the nervous system. Sharing with you how I balance my internal world when the outer world has lost balance and there is so much out of our control.This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha gets honest about what your body is actually doing when life feels unstable â and why the path back to calm isn't about controlling what's outside of you. đ Sasha opens up about a frightening day in Abu Dhabi: the booms in the sky, a house that wouldn't stop shaking, her kids on edge, her mother stranded at the airport, and the moment she realized that dysregulation doesn't just live in one person â it ripples through an entire household fast. If you've ever snapped at someone you love, walked into a room and forgotten why, or felt your body carrying a fear your mind couldn't explain â this one is for you. This episode is about coming back to yourself when the world outside gives you no reason to feel safe.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What did you most resonate with about this episode?Where can you identify if your nervous system is dysregulated?Out of this episode, out of what you know, out of what you've tried, how do you discharge?In this episode, youâll discover:Why dysregulation is normal â and the signs it's already happening to you. How emotion moves through the body like a wave â and why you have to walk through it, not around it. What the charge, tension, discharge, and relaxation cycle actually looks like in real life. Why crying, sighing, and shaking are some of the healthiest things you can do â and why we judge ourselves for all of them. A simple grounding technique Sasha used with her son that you can try with your own kids. Why resisting your emotions makes them louder â and what to do instead.đJoin Sashaâs mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to FreedomđWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0QvvvđGet Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship
100. What Nobody Is Saying About the Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic That I Will Tell You
31:28||Ep. 100This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha gets honest about what nobody is actually saying when it comes to healing the anxious-avoidant dynamic â and why the answer has nothing to do with your partner. đSasha opens up about her own breaking point in 2018: the sleepless nights, the constant fights, a health scare that stopped her in her tracks, and the moment she finally chose to stop waiting for him to change and started doing the work on herself. If youâve ever felt like youâre the only one trying, like the distance is too far gone, or like youâll never feel truly safe in your relationship â this one is for you. This episode is about coming home to yourself, so love can finally come home to you.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What have you noticed when you don't chase your partner and you just trust? Is there anything you've noticed to be different in their behavior?Where do you think it started for you? And what is it that you need to tell that little version of you so she can feel safe and reassured?How long are you willing to wait for this change that you wish to see in your partner?In this episode, youâll discover:Why your relationship anxiety is never really about your partner â and where it actually comes from.How Sashaâs 2018 health scare cracked her open and changed the course of her marriage.Why healing yourself is the most powerful thing you can do for your relationship â and how your partner often shifts when you do.Why chasing, fixing, and waiting keeps you stuck â and what to do instead.How labels like âanxiousâ and âavoidantâ can box you in â and how to use them as a doorway, not a dead end.How to stop surviving your relationship and start feeling truly safe, chosen, and connected.ââââââââââââââââđJoin Sashaâs mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to FreedomđWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0QvvvđGet Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Carol Glynn:LinkedInInstagramConscious Finance CoachingLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship
99. Guest Episode: Heal Your Relationship with Money with Carol Glynn a financial wellness coach with 20 years in finance and experience
57:57||Ep. 99This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha welcomes Carol Glynn, founder of Conscious Finance Coaching and Chartered Accountant with over 20 years of international financial leadership experience â including 16 years in the Middle East. This conversation explores a relationship we often overlook: the one we have with money. đ¸Â Carol opens up about childhood money wounds, generational conditioning, and why the money languages men and women speak quietly divide even the closest couples. If you've ever fought about finances, avoided a spreadsheet, or talked yourself out of investing in yourself â this one's for you. This episode is about awareness, intention, and learning to use money as a tool before it starts using you.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What does money mean to me?How is that underpinning how I behave with money, with my earning and my spending?If I was to release that belief around money and align my money with my value system, how would I behave differently with money?In this episode, youâll discover:Why couples fight about money â and why it's rarely actually about the money. How childhood money beliefs quietly shape your self-worth and relationship patterns. The money languages men and women speak â and how understanding them builds real connection. Why financially independent women sometimes unconsciously attract partners who can't provide. How your money mindset shapes the kind of love you seek and accept. Why investing in yourself is never indulgent â and what it costs you not to.đJoin Sashaâs mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to FreedomđWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0QvvvđGet Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Carol Glynn:LinkedInInstagramConscious Finance CoachingLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship
98. How Our Anxious-Avoidant Cycle Almost Ended Us
37:01||Ep. 98This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, in this special milestone episode, Sasha gets vulnerable and personal, breaking down the five things that nearly destroyed her own relationshipâand what she did to turn it all around. đšShe gets real about how fear of abandonment quietly runs the show in so many relationships, why a dysregulated nervous system keeps you stuck in cycles of reaction and resentment, and how expecting your partner to read your mind is setting you both up to fail. Sasha shares how she went from threatening to leave during every big argument to building a relationship rooted in security, open communication, and equal effortâand exactly what shifted to make that possible. If you've ever felt like you're the one doing all the work while your relationship keeps falling apart, this episode will show you why you are also the one holding the power to change it. đSoulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:Which pattern is silently destroying your love life?What is one thing you can do today to highlight that thing to bring it to your awareness?What is one thing you can tell your future self about this pattern?In this episode, youâll discover:Why fear of abandonment hides in your behavior long before you recognize itHow a dysregulated nervous system keeps you reactive and emotionally distant Why expressing your needs is queen energyâand waiting for him to guess is not How not resting silently fuels burnout and resentmentWhy overgiving creates exhaustion, not connection How healing yourself creates a ripple effect that shifts the whole relationshipđSign up for my FREE LIVE Q&A - heal your relationship patterns and through live mentoring on March 15th, 2026 with a 24 hour replay - Sacred HeartđJoin Sashaâs mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to FreedomđWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0QvvvđGet Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship
97. 5 things I wish more people knew about healing their love mindset
33:22||Ep. 97This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha breaks down the five things she wishes every woman knew about her love mindsetâand why the relationship you have with yourself is the one that changes everything. đ She gets real about why no partner can fix what your inner child still believes about love, how your nervous system keeps you stuck in self-sabotage, and why the security you're searching for outside of you is already yours to create. Sasha shares her go-to "two things are true" reframe to break black-and-white thinking, plus why emotional safety isn't something someone gives youâit's a state you learn to live in. If you've ever felt like love is something that happens to you, this episode will shift that. đŞSoulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What is one thing that you learned today about your own love mindset that you didn't know before?What is a self-loving thought you can start to tell yourself?How do you self-sabotage?In this episode, youâll discover:Why your partner cannot fix what your inner child still believes about love How your nervous system determines how much love and intimacy you can hold without sabotaging it Why self-love is an energetic standard you live inânot just a mindset How anxious patterns and fear of abandonment block emotional safety Why love is a feeling you generate from withinâand how to stop chasing itđSign up for my FREE LIVE Q&A - heal your relationship patterns and through live mentoring on March 15th, 2026 with a 24 hour replay - Sacred HeartđJoin Sashaâs mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to FreedomđWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0QvvvđGet Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship
96. How to Stop Abandoning Yourself & Set Those Boundaries
37:45||Ep. 96This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha dives deep into why setting boundaries feels so damn hardâand what really needs to happen before you can advocate for yourself without guilt or fear. She opens up about a recent client session and gets real about the childhood conditioning that makes us abandon ourselves to avoid disappointing others. đĄď¸Â Sasha breaks down why you keep attracting people who cross your boundaries, how anger shows you where you've abandoned yourself, and why "protecting your peace" is empty without addressing the resentment underneath. She shares the "I promised myself" phrase that changed everything, how to distinguish between requests and boundaries, and why forgiving yourself when you mess up is essential. By the end, you'll see that boundary-setting isn't the first stepâit's the last, and the real work starts with building your self-worth. đŞSoulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What or who are you afraid to lose if you say the thing you want to say?What is your deepest fear if you express your true needs and you set the boundary?What is safe to believe about boundaries and about guilt, boundaries and connection?In this episode, youâll discover:Why you attract people who cross your boundaries How anger signals where you've abandoned yourself The difference between requests and boundaries How to use "I promised myself" to say no Why guilt comes with boundariesâand how to build toleranceđJoin Sashaâs mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to FreedomđWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0QvvvđGet Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship
95. Generational Cycle Breaking Through Relationships & Motherhood
31:41||Ep. 95This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha gets vulnerable and shares the story she's never fully toldâthe arrival of her firstborn and the messy, painful, beautiful journey of motherhood that followed. She opens up about an unplanned pregnancy, a devastating betrayal revealed just 48 hours after birth, and the five years of anger and disconnection that nearly defined her relationship with her son. đ Sasha breaks down how fear of loss kept her from bonding, why guilt kept her stuck, and the moment she realized she had to repair the small-T trauma she'd unknowingly passed on. She shares the cycles she's broken and the tools that changed everything. By the end, you'll see that it's never too late to repair, to heal, and to become the parent (and partner) you're meant to be. â¨Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What is one thing that you learned about cycle breaking from this episode?What is one thing that you can forgive yourself for from the past and finally free yourself by simply deciding to say I forgive this and I release it?Who is someone in your life that you think has chosen you to be on this journey, is helping you break these cycles, is helping you do your healing work?In this episode, youâll discover:Why fear of loss can block bonding with your childâand how to break through it The signs your child absorbed small-T trauma and how to repair it at any age Why you must regulate yourself before you can regulate your child How "connect before the ask" transforms relationships (especially at bedtime) How to set firm boundaries with kindness instead of angerđJoin Sashaâs mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to FreedomđWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0QvvvđGet Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship
94. Guest Episode: An Honest Conversation on Self-Love with Sara Salhab
01:02:42||Ep. 94Sara Salhab is a champion of women's growth and leadership and the founder of The Sophia Collective, a transformative platform designed to help women entrepreneurs unlock their potential and navigate their way through the entrepreneurial ecosystem. This episode she is sharing a unique and inspiring story and take on creating space for self love and getting real on being compassionate to you regardless of what life throws you.This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha welcomes Sara Salhab, founder of the Sophia Collective and champion of women's growth and leadership. Released just before Valentine's Day, this conversation explores what it truly means to love yourselfâbeyond the clichĂŠs. đ Sara shares her journey from 22 years in the corporate world to creating spaces where women can share their stories, be vulnerable, and grow together. From starting with banana bread and mindfulness in her neighborhood to building a transformative community, Sara opens up about brain surgery, abandonment, anger, and the evolution of self-compassion. This episode is about gentleness, boundaries, and learning to name your emotions so you can heal them.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:When was the last time you truly listened to yourself, your body, your emotions, your needs?If you were given a magic mirror and you can observe yourself 20 years older, what would you do today to fully like what you see then?What part of your healing are you ready to take gentle responsibility for?In this episode, youâll discover:Learning to name your feelings as the first step toward true healing.Identifying your pattern within the disappointment-abandonment-rejection cycle.Why anger isn't the enemy, but a constructive tool for your boundaries.Meeting your own needs by speaking your love language to yourself.The magic of the Sophia Collective: How storytelling builds a compassionate community.Escaping the victimization trap through the power of gentle responsibility.Why slowing down your pace allows you to finally breathe and respond with truth.đJoin Sashaâs mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to FreedomđWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0QvvvđGet Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sara Salhab:LinkedInSophia CollectiveInstagramInstagramLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship
93. How to stop over-thinking your whole life
28:16||Ep. 93Description: As a worst case scenario A grade over over thinker Sasha is sharing in this short inspiring episode how we are literally working against our brain programming to decrease overthinking and how we can make progress towards the peace, pleasure and safety we deserve in us and our relationships. Heal your overthinking by digging into this episode where you will receive tangible tools to apply and feel calmer in your head.This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha talks about overthinkingâhow it drains your energy, keeps you stuck in worst-case scenarios, and why you can't just "think positive" your way out of it. đ§  Sasha shares her journey with overthinking, from waiting by the window as a kid to waking up from anxious dreams as an adult. She explains why you can't flip from negative to positive thoughts without regulating your nervous system first, and shares practical tools like the "I am safe" reset and the two-things-are-true reframe. Healing overthinking isn't about thinking betterâit's about feeling safer first.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:Where is one area in your life you're overthinking and causing yourself more pain? What two things can be true about that area? What did you learn about your brilliant brain today when it comes to why you overthink or how you get more emotional versus logical?In this episode, youâll discover:Why your brain is wired to scan for danger (not happiness) and predict pain Why overthinking is a behavior that shows up when you're dysregulated The "I am safe" nervous system reset technique How to recognize everyday signs of dysregulationThe "two things are true" reframe for getting unstuck How to go from worst-case to best-case scenario thinkingđJoin Sashaâs mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to FreedomđWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0QvvvđGet Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship