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Anxious Meets Avoidant: How We Used to Break Down in Conflict — and What It Took to Heal
Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same argument with your partner, feeling like nothing ever gets resolved? In this solo episode, Sasha shares how the anxious-avoidant dynamic showed up in her marriage and the patterns that kept conflict looping. She opens up about the turning point that helped her and her partner shift from disconnection to repair.
If conflict leaves you feeling overwhelmed, shut down, or afraid of losing love, this episode will offer real tools and relief. Sasha breaks down what’s really happening beneath the surface—and how to navigate conflict with more clarity, calm, and connection.
Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:
- When conflict arises, do you chase, freeze, or shut down?
- What story are you attaching to conflict and where did you learn it from?
- What did you most resonate with about this episode?
In this episode, you will learn the following :
- Childhood experiences shape how we handle conflict as adults.
- Anxious partners pursue; avoidant partners shut down during conflict.
- Taking space is healthy—if it’s used for regulation, not rumination.
- Conflict isn’t the problem; lack of repair is.
- Sasha’s 5 R’s: Recognize, Regulate, Reflect, Reveal, Repair
Ready to release old patterns and renew the way you love? Join the VIP Relationship Reset Retreat—available online or in person—and start rewriting your story with conscious tools and deep healing. Save your spot here: https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com
Heal You Heal Your Relationship – the 11 week inner work course to heal you and your relationships. Dive into the self for healthy lasting love, whether you're in a relationship and seeking your life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to understand yourself, overcome your fears, reprogram your subconscious mind, up-level your love beliefs and finally feel peace, joy and balance in your love life. Through teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts: http://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/HealYouHealYourRelationships
Learn more about Sasha Quince:
For more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationship
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