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  • Stop chasing and start feeling secure within you.

    26:14|
    Chasing harder doesn't bring anyone closer — it just pushes them further away. 💛 This week of Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha is back after a slower, more present summer and diving into something that came up with a client a few nights ago. Sasha's client reached out in the middle of the night, spiraling after a hard conflict with her partner — chasing him for reassurance while he retreated further out of reach. Sasha walks through what she told her client in that moment: why both the chasing and the retreating are survival behaviors, why the stories anxiety tells you aren't facts, and why the real work is learning to feel your own emotions instead of running from them. If you've ever believed that fixing it right now is the only way to feel safe again — this episode is your wake-up call. Real security doesn't come from someone else promising to stay. It comes from what you build within yourself.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why chasing and retreating are both survival behaviors — not signs the relationship is over. How to prioritize regulating yourself before trying to fix the conversation. Why it's not the conflict itself that breaks people apart, but the lack of repair after. Why the stories anxiety tells you in the moment aren't the facts. Why learning to feel your emotions is uncomfortable at first — and gets easier with practice.💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof

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  • Controversial Things About Healthy Relationships I Think But Never Say Until Today

    36:21|
    This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha shares the controversial things about healthy relationships she thinks a lot but doesn’t always say out loud. 🌊From why safety was never your partner’s job, to why “I don’t have time” is never really about time, to why nobody is coming to save you—these are eight truths that might sting, but Sasha believes they’re worth hearing. Healing your relationship starts with turning the lens inward.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What really resonated with you today?What can you acknowledge that you’ve been feeling or going through lately that’s felt really hard and why has it felt hard?What is something you are outsourcing to your partner or even to other relationships in your life that you are not giving to yourself?In this episode, you’ll discover:It is never your partner’s job to make you feel safeWe blame our partners for avoidance because we don’t want to do the inner work to heal our own anxietyYour partner doesn’t make you insecure—it has to already be alive in you to be triggeredWhen we say we don’t have time, we really don’t trust ourselves to follow throughWe don’t have a confidence and communication problem, we have a lack of safety in the nervous systemUnderstanding your nervous system responses is far more valuable than judging your partner’sNobody is coming to save youSecure women take the lens within versus projecting it outward💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof.
  • After mentoring 100s of women — this is the one pattern keeping us stuck and suffering.

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    This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha gets real about the one thing she believes we're all running from—our own emotions—and why handing that job to our partners only deepens the suffering. 🌊Sasha opens up about why sitting with discomfort feels like death to the nervous system, especially if no one modeled emotional safety for us growing up, and how just naming a feeling can soften its grip almost instantly. She shares a personal story about a bathroom mishap with her partner that became a lesson in expressing needs without resentment, plus how she's teaching her own kids to name their feelings instead of acting them out. Healing your relationship starts with becoming your own emotional safety container.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What is an emotion that's been coming up lately for you?Why does it make sense that it's been coming up?Repeat after me: I'm allowed to feel this and I don't have to change anything.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why running from your emotions creates deeper suffering than feeling them The wave-in-the-ocean metaphor: why every emotion will eventually crash if you let it How to read anger and anxiety as information instead of "good" or "bad" feelings Why your thoughts drive your emotions, and your emotions drive your behavior How outsourcing your emotions to your partner sets you up for disappointment How to model emotional language for your kids instead of just teaching it💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof
  • Guest Interview: Healing Your Relationship With the Masculine and Finding Safety Within You

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    This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha sits down with Sara — feminine expansion coach, women's community founder in Abu Dhabi, and host of the Supernova Podcast — for a conversation that goes places. 💛Sara grew up watching the men in her family get criticized and never quite measuring up and she drank that Kool-Aid without realizing it. She opens up about carrying that lens into her relationships, surviving sexual assault, discovering the warrior goddess Kali while living in India, and how romantasy novels cracked something open in her that years of inner work hadn't quite reached yet. She and Sasha also get into the masculine energy that lives inside all of us, why criticizing your partner often starts with how you treat yourself, and what it looks like to finally see the people in your life without your mother's glasses on.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What has your masculine energy given you? If your relationship was a romance novel, how would you feel about how your character treats the love interest? What is one small way you can appreciate a father, a brother, a husband in your life today?In this episode, you’ll discover:How the relationship dynamic between your parents becomes the blueprint for your own — without you realizing it. Why criticizing your partner and criticizing yourself are usually the same wound showing up twice. What rebuilding trust in the masculine actually looks like after trauma. How your inner masculine supports you — and what happens when you've been at war with it. Why giving yourself what you need shifts the entire energy of your relationship.💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sara Lizzul:InstagramThe Supernova LifeLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof.
  • Do you know what is harder than healing the fear of abandonment?

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    This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha gets into something she sees in almost every woman she works with: the fear of abandonment, and why she thinks people have it backwards about how hard healing actually is. 💛Sasha shares the idea of insourcing versus outsourcing, and digs into the everyday patterns that are quietly harder to live with than the fear itself — the overthinking spiral after a disagreement, the urge to control every outcome so a partner never gets the chance to lead, the needs that get swallowed until they erupt, the standoff of waiting for someone else to reach out first. She also opens up about a recent moment with her own partner to show what it actually looks like to choose connection over ego in real time. If healing has always felt like the harder option, this episode makes the case for the opposite.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What part best resonated with you?What is something you can insource today?Whichever one you chose, say it to yourself right now.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why overthinking is harder than facing the fear underneath it.How controlling outcomes creates a more passive partner.What holding your needs in does to your nervous system.Why waiting for someone else to break the silence keeps you on opposing teams.How insourcing builds a safety no one else can give you.💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof
  • My Dad died 36 years ago and it was a blessing

    31:10|
    Sasha shares on losing her father 36 years ago and the blessings and legacy left from his departure. We look into the core wounds created from childhood, how to self soothe and understand your past is information for your present day struggles.This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha hits record on one of her most personal episodes yet — and it wasn't even planned. 💛Sasha shares why June 5th isn't a day of grief for her anymore, even though it marks 36 years since she lost her dad at seven years old. She opens up about the guilt she carried for decades over something she never actually said, the moment her son turning seven cracked everything open, and the three-part healing journey that took her from chronic dysregulation and dark spiraling to genuine peace. She also gets into why time doesn't heal core wounds — and what it actually takes to soothe them. If you've been quietly carrying something old that keeps showing up in your relationships, this one was made for you.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:What did you most resonate with about this episode?What is something that still stings from your past? What do you think is a belief that is still attached to that?In this episode, you’ll discover:Why the things that broke us early in life can become the very things that build our purpose. How a core wound from childhood quietly shapes every relationship, behavior, and fear that follows. Why time alone doesn't heal trauma — and what doing the actual work looks like. How unresolved grief lives in the body long after the mind thinks it's moved on. Why building safety within yourself is the only real foundation for secure love.💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof.
  • How to handle a tricky person and protect your peace (personal story)

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    You’re going to come across tricky people — and most of us handle it all wrong. 💛In this episode of Heal You: Heal Relationship: Sasha is fresh off a family vacation in Dubai when a simple Instagram unfollow turns into a flood of voice notes, guilt trips, and mean comments from a previous client. Instead of taking the bait, she does something most of us struggle with — she chooses empathy over defense. She’s breaking down exactly what she said, how she handled it, and the mindset that kept her peace intact. If there’s someone in your world right now stealing your energy, this one’s for you.Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week:Who is a tricky, triggering person that you can identify in your life right now?What do you feel is being triggered the most in them? What do you feel gets triggered in you so much?What is a piece of empathy you can have towards this person?In this episode, you’ll discover:Why rupture in a relationship is normal — and necessary.How triggers work like boiling water and what to do when yours spikes.Why “staying single until he’s perfect” is just avoidance in disguise.How to know when a moment calls for ownership versus empathy.Why waiting for your partner to change will never be the answer.💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation ToolLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @sashalivingproof.