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The Silent Pressure We Place On Ourselves To Do It All (Personal Story)

Ep. 51

Are you feeling overwhelmed by the pressures of life and struggling to prioritize your own needs? In this episode, Sasha Quince talks about the importance of self-care and setting boundaries to restore balance in your life. Drawing from her personal journey of healing and growth, Sasha shares her insights on how to navigate feelings of burnout and the silent pressures we place on ourselves. Learn how to recognize the signs of self-sabotage, embrace your worthiness, and cultivate a nurturing relationship with yourself. Join Sasha as she empowers you to put yourself first and create a life filled with joy, peace, and authentic connections.



Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:


  1. How can you restore balance to your life today?
  2. What do you need to be okay today?
  3. What about this episode most resonated with you?



In this episode, you will learn the following :


  • Learn how to identify and release the pressure you place on yourself.
  • Discover the impact of ancestral patterns on self-worth and people-pleasing behaviors.
  • Embrace the concept that healing is not linear and involves ups and downs.
  • Utilize tools like AVP (Acknowledge, Validate, Permit) to process emotions.
  • Understand that feeling guilt is a natural part of setting boundaries.
  • Explore the significance of rest and personal time for emotional well-being.
  • Realize that you are enough without needing to meet high standards or expectations.


Heal You Heal Your Relationship - the 11 week inner work course to heal you and your relationships. Dive into the self for healthy lasting love, whether you're in a relationship and seeking your life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to understand yourself, overcome your fears, reprogram your subconscious mind, up-level your love beliefs and finally feel peace, joy and balance in your love life. Through teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts.

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