Growing Through Grief


Karla Noland | Start Reparenting Yourself Now!

Ep. 50

Grief is such a complex emotion. It shows up in our lives to teach us about compassion, forgiveness, and growth, and most importantly, it is a reminder that love never dies and is the world's most powerful force. 

Today, Karla Noland joins us to share her grief story and how she learned to co-exist with this complex emotion during her mother's transition. She is an award-winning Author and Speaker, Certified Personal Development & Executive Coach, and the Founder and CEO of Reveal, Heal, Thrive, LLC. Her latest book, "The Day My Heart Turned Blue," was awarded the 2022 Eric Hoffer Award. 

In this episode, we delve into Karla's grief experiences, the day her heart turned blue, and the growing process she began when she started grieving for her mother. We discuss the importance of healing childhood traumas and giving ourselves grace for the things we couldn't build in our lives. Karla explains how she dismantled her core beliefs about not being good enough and shares actionable insights to deal with our inner critics.

Some Questions I Ask:

Could you share with us about that experience of your heart turning blue before your mother transitioned to her new life? (8:44)

What did growth look like for you during that whole process? (11:28)

Could you talk about the tools you now have to support you in creating happy, healthy relationships? (21:53)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Karla talks about the grueling process of realizing she had no control over what was happening to her mother (9:38)

How Karla dealt with her childhood traumas (12:12)

How Karla dismantled her inner critic (23:12)

How to deal with mothers who are alive but emotionally unavailable (29:34)

The self-imposed prison of depression and how Karla managed to get out of it (40:38)


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