Growing Through Grief


Ellen Newhouse | What to Do When Dad Hurts Mom and Me

Ep. 6

Although our mind tends to block and forget traumatic experiences from our childhood, our body remembers; and most of the time, our body speaks louder than our mind. 

When she was a child, Ellen found out harshly that certain things, like domestic abuse, were topics she wasn't supposed to talk about - and so she didn't. Her mind forgot about it, but her body kept remembering. She taught herself to be quiet and smile, until one day, her body decided, "That's it, I won't do this anymore." She developed a severe respiratory condition, the doctors didn't know the reason, but they offered a solution: an oxygen tank. She was 26.

Joining me today is Ellen Newhouse; she is an Acupuncturist, Sound Healer, Intuitive Coach, and the author of the best-selling book "Nothing Ever Goes on Here." She is also the Founder and CEO of Ellen Newhouse Healing Services, where she empowers people to live from their heart's truth the life they have always dreamed of. 

We had a wonderful conversation about Ellen's journey through the darkness of growing up in a house where domestic violence was a constant and a secret. She kindly shared her story of transformation, growth, and healing. We talked about our body's memory and how our tissues remember even when our minds seem to forget anything traumatic. 

Tune in and listen to episode 6 of Growing Through Grief, and listen to some of Ellen's most impactful discoveries about herself, her father, and the things she wasn't talking about.

Some Questions I Ask:

  • Could you share with our listeners one of your most compelling grief stores? (3:29)
  • What did the domestic violence in a Jewish community look like for you? (10:07)
  • Tell us a bit about your healing journey. (15:38)
  • At the time of your healing journey, were there other things going on in your life? (19:04)
  • Once you realized your father wasn't right, what was the turning point? You pivoted into what? (24:17)

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • When the body had enough. Ellen talks about the time she woke up and couldn't breathe (4:23)
  • Unless we go through the darkness, we can't reach the light. Ellen shares the moment she decided to dig in her past to heal (7:44)
  • The impact of growing up in a house under domestic violence (10:17)
  • An oxygen tank. Ellen remembers the solution specialists offered to deal with her breathing issues (15:49)
  • Losing friendships. Ellen talks about how hard it was to be the first person in her family to get a divorce (19:11)


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