Growing Through Grief


Bringing Attention to Inherited Family Trauma

Ep. 65

Whether or not we are aware of it, trauma is a massive transformative force. It molds the way we think and also how we see, react to, and accept reality. In other words, we are a byproduct of our traumatic experiences and the mechanisms we developed to deal with them. 

However, that doesn't mean there is nothing we can do about it. 

In this episode, I invite you to bring conscious attention to your inherited family trauma. We learn how to look at it with compassion and curiosity, recognize our responses, and modify our reactions to it. We think of inherited family trauma as a group responsibility and not an individual experience. 

Plus, we learn mechanisms to accept and embrace painful memories, to allow them to go through us, and, more importantly, how to let them go. We also learn to accept our truth, and I share three points to consider when bringing attention to inherited trauma.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • What does it mean to bring attention to inherited trauma? (3:58)
  • Addictions are evidence of family dynamics (8:31)
  • You can let go of most of the things you are carrying (12:15)
  • What if you accept that traumatic experience you endured as a child? (20:29)
  • Three points to remember when thinking of your inherited family trauma (22:06)
  • Your job is to remember the best is yet to come (26:35)


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