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How to Flourish in a World that Wears us Down with Corey Keyes

Season 2, Ep. 4

Corey Keyes is a sociologist, professor emeritus at Emory University, and author of “Languishing: How to Feel Alive Again in a World That Wears Us Down” who studies what makes life worth living. In this episode, Corey shares how he emerged from a horrific childhood to a possibility-filled life of challenging the status quo. We dive into how ‘the way things are’ often contributes to our feelings of languishing and why action is the antidote. Corey invites us to challenge the ideas of success, burnout, and mental illness — providing a roadmap for anyone to flourish.

We talk about:

What it was like to be the first to study mental HEALTH — not illness

How to tell if you’re “languishing” — and exactly what to do about it

The one thing you can do today to flourish in your life

What it means to live an ethical life beyond the context of religion

How to get off autopilot and feel re-engaged in your career

The difference between burnout and demoralization

The fascinating relationship between stress and flourishing

Two questions to ask yourself if you want to find more purpose in your work

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