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Practicing Self-Compassion, Overcoming People-Pleasing, and Saying ‘No’ to Build A Career Beyond Your Wildest Dreams with Arielle Patrick

Season 2, Ep. 11
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As the Chief Communications Officer of a $14.9 billion global asset management firm and board member of multiple charities such as Yellowstone National Park, Arielle Patrick knows a thing or two about building a big career. Frequently lauded as one of the most powerful people in PR, Arielle attributes her massive success at a young age (did we mention she’s only 35?) to something unusual for folks in her position: self-compassion, intuition, and making space for others to win alongside her.

In this episode, Arielle breaks down the exact practices, principles, and thought processes that have led to her exceptional career. Arielle provides advice for anyone to take better care of themselves, their businesses, and their people — while also tending to the bottom line. From a tried-and-true formula to tackle DE&I to why Arielle records compliments on her phone, this episode is packed with actionable tips from one of the most brilliant minds in modern business.


We talk about:


  • The confidence exercise from Arielle’s therapist we should all be doing
  • A script to say ‘no’ in a way that actually empowers your team
  • How Arielle overcame people-pleasing as she rose through the ranks in business
  • The surprising trait to which Arielle attributes her massive success at such a young age
  • Exactly how Arielle started a self-compassion practice — and why it’s been a critical component of her success
  • A data-driven approach to strengthening your intuition as you grow in your career
  • The best visualization to prioritize where to spend your time
  • Arielle’s can’t-miss message to anyone who wants to quit their job but feels indebted to their boss
  • The 3-part framework Arielle uses to address DE&I in a way that’s impactful to your people *and* positively impacts your bottom line


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