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2/10/2021

The Spotlight Effect is ruining your chances of happiness

Ep. 127
The Spotlight effect - Thespotlight effectis the phenomenon in which people tend to believe they are being noticed more than they really are. Being that one is constantly in the center of one's own world, anaccurateevaluation of how much one is noticed by others is uncommon. The reason for the spotlight effect is the innate tendency to forget that although one is the center of one's own world, one is not the center of everyone else's. This tendency is especially prominent when one does something atypical.Show sponsor (Use Code FYV10 for 10% off):https://www.healthxcel.co.ukJoe Dispenza Book:https://amzn.to/3dCArR0Episode on Perfectionism:https://shows.acast.com/findyourvoiceEpisode on forgiveness:https://youtu.be/Rq1oDkLYpqkBooks to buy:Buy Outwitting the Devil: https://amzn.to/3c97pGqBuy Principles: https://amzn.to/2ZOk1jsBuy How to stop worrying & start living: https://amzn.to/3esi4h4Buy The 4 hour work week: https://amzn.to/3cuAwnZBuy Essentialism: https://amzn.to/2xHUTiLBuy Mindset by Carol Dweck https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoicePodcast equipment recommended:Rodecaster Pro: https://amzn.to/2M36Lj5Rode podmic: https://amzn.to/36yfYcyRode NT-USB - https://amzn.to/2X7LsDpCameras:Sony DSCHX90 Digital- https://amzn.to/2TCAfIDCanon Powershot SX730 HS- https://amzn.to/2yQkbs6Canon EOS 4000D DSLR Cameraand EF-S 18-55 mm f/3.5-5.6 III Lens -https://amzn.to/2WYtWkTNikon D5300- https://amzn.to/3c825mNLogitech BRIO 4K webcam- https://amzn.to/3enEuA1Sony a6500 mirrorless- https://amzn.to/2ZAOJfWPodcast host (acast):Acast: https://open.acast.com/invite/r/arendeuLinks to me:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/theanxiousinvestorWebsite: https://www.healthxcel.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/findyourvoicepodcast/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhPodcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com/subscribeTranscript:welcome to an episode of find your voice a movement led by yours truly Aaron do a guy who was overcome crippling anxiety adversity and difficulty like so many of you in life whose main goal now is to help you combat your excuses take control of your life write your own story and most importantly find your voice so now without further ado I welcome the host of the show himself Mr Aaron do what's going on a run thank you so so much for tuning in to another episode of finding your voice my name is iron and as always I am the host of the show so today I just want a few minutes of your time just to speak about something that I think is really really important and something that I actually do not it was a natural name for it maybe you don't know either and I think hopefully at least I hope and my fingers are crossed that the end of the next few minutes you're gonna know something that will hopefully change the trajectory of at least twenty twenty one but definitely your life what I want to speak about is the spot light effect now this is a term that's used by social psychologists to refer to the tendency that we won't have to over estimate how much other people notice about us in other words yes we tend to think there was a spotlight on us at all times highlighted all of our mistakes and floors for the world to see now if you happens I eat %HESITATION you over thank then the spotlight effect definitely pays as part of your day and it certainly paid his paw throughout many years of my own life so I'm telling you this well for a few reasons actually the first is that how do I always believe that the spotlight if it was true for myself and that seven billion people in the world we're constantly looking at me wait for me to make mistakes wait for me to start a way for me to say the wrong way it's for example there probably would've got started or anything one thing I hope for well the past lists there's a current listeners and hopefully future listeners as well you may stumble across this episode is that my life really really start to change when I ignore the spotlight effect in fact I just put myself out there and I knew that of course there was a chance that I could get ridiculed there's a chance that somebody could point out a flaw in the way that I am but I also knew and I'm able to improve %HESITATION said you that I'm comfortable at least of tried and one of the things I think many of us often don't do is you don't try is that fear of failure is that fair of what if but I tell you nine if I had to start for your voice they met some of the most incredible I know I mean incredible people in the boat and the podcast hadn't gone global and we had enough thanks to all your reviews and support reach the charts and I would be the person I am today I would be on you cheap shooting videos how can people invest in property become financially free I would be public speaking actually doing quite well as well so it's incredible what happens when you truly put yourself out there what I will say is the spotlight effect may happen one day especially if you hone your craft you become really great at it but by that time you'll be used to it and the spotlight effect will be deserved because you would have put the wicked I love it like I suppose this podcast initially the goal of people hearing especially if they didn't like the way I sound it or they never enjoyed the interviews it scared me it almost paralyzed me from Stein but not yes the occasional imposter syndrome kicks in I'll be completely honest I'm comfortable now I have most certainly already achieved or the goals and dreams I want to put this podcast and I'm so so grateful for that that comes down to a lot of you support the show and this is why in twenty twenty one as a fucking got going again with the podcast I'm gonna try to keep everything the role as possible any mistakes any as any brain fog so I get where you're going to have them unless they just show you guys that the person on the other side of a Mike it's just a normal person to put all the things that I may be at least perceived to be good at trust me there are thousands I'm not great at it to be honest I'm gonna take a guess here and I think I might be right that this so many of you listening today you're more entertaining charismatic funny yeah the myself if you picked up a Mike you would be absolutely incredible or if you picked up a video is start recording you two videos you could be amazing in a few years time and I just hope that the spotlight if it doesn't harm you it is a hobby the person that you could become it doesn't stop me from doing the things that you can do and it really forces you to go out there and yes of course find your voice so that's what I wanted to say today I sincerely from the bottom of my heart I hope you have an incredible twenty twenty one hope is much closer to you than twenty twenty and I truly hope if there is that something in your heart and mind that you're thinking should I or shouldn't I I hope this episode is by you to go and do it so until next time thank you so much for listening and remember this podcast is absolutely free so all we ask in return is for you to share this with a friend and drop us a five star review over on iTunes have an awesome day
2/2/2021

From witnessing his fathers murder to building his own legacy Sirtaj Rahman shares his incredible story

Ep. 126
PLEASE CHECK OUT OUR NEW SPONSOR!https://www.healthxcel.co.uk - Use Code FYV10 for 10% off"Never look back" By Sirtaj RahmanA husband, a father and a professional athlete who shines his bright across his followers with his humour, candour, empathy and transparency, Sirtaj Rahman is a someone out there building his own legacy. Riddled with adversity growing up through the loss of his father which he witnessed as a ten-year-old child. Using the lessons he had learnt from his father and mother who raised him and his family, Sirtaj spends each moment trying to live without regrets and ensure his legacy is one not only would his father have been proud of, but also one that will be spoken of for many years to come.I urge you all to follow his journey as he is growing in influence and I hope you all have the best year ahead! It feels great to be back!Links to me:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/findyourvoicepodcastWebsite: https://www.healthxcel.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/findyourvoicepodcast/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhPodcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com/subscribeShow sponsor (Use Code FYV10 for 10% off): https://www.healthxcel.co.ukLinks to Sirtaj:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sirtajrahman83/?hl=enTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sirtajrahman07?source=h5_mYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK8hkwQTQnEvHpsCseHmIhw?
11/25/2020

How to write your own story with Bhavik Patel

Ep. 125
Show sponsor (Use Code FYV10 for 10% off):https://www.healthxcel.co.uk"Thinking it real" By Bhavik PatelA fascinating conversation from someone who has now started to find his way in life, or should I say found his voice. Recognising he has always been, and still is in control of his own destiny Bhavik has made bold decisions across his life to pivot towards a life he truly wants. A life worth living and one he can be proud of, and I personally couldn't be happier to see him in such a happier place than he once was.Very honest in his ups and downs, Bhavik has hit the lows, to now completely having a different perspective and outcome on what it truly means to be living a fulfilled life and one that is successful in his own mind. I am so confident this will resonate with the majority of you listening today, because sometimes we have to truly sit with ourselves and understand what makes us tick and what we truly want to get out of this world.Please follow him in the links below and show your support and more importantly, start today to write your own story and live life on your own terms.Useful timestamps:03:00 Bhaviks 1st entrepreneurial start with £50014:25 Tips to start a business today 26:00 Entrepreneur life realities34:55 Broken part of his life47:50 Don't have an opinion about things58:40 Words of wisdom to a younger selfLinks to me:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/findyourvoicepodcastWebsite: https://www.healthxcel.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/findyourvoicepodcast/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhPodcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com/subscribeShow sponsor (Use Code FYV10 for 10% off):https://www.healthxcel.co.ukLinks to Bhavik:LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bhavik-patel-7866251b/Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/bigger-than-the-hustle/id1515089244
11/20/2020

How to move on after losing your spouse & finding happiness again

Ep. 124
"Live without regret" by Rammi JanackA story about living without regret, embracing lifes ups as well as lifes downs and finding happiness and embracing it.Rammi shares a rather taboo subject, across many cultures and parts of the world, but one which must warrant some attention in today's society. Suffering the loss of the love of her life, Rammi lost her partner to Cancer which completely disrupted her life. Having needing to navigate the dynamics of the relationship change, to understanding that she was experiencing loss, even before the loss came about, Rammi went on a journey that really forced her to grow through life.With many of us, finding happiness is not always achievable, but Rammi was given a second chance, when she then met her partner today, with whom they have a lovely family together with. A taboo scenario, often wrongly judged by people without real context, Rammi found the second love of her life. Happening quite soon after in terms of months, the truth is, there was a lot more to understand about Rammis transition from being a widow into her second family and this story will in so many ways, teach us to be grateful, happier, shift our perspectives and more importantly never judge others for wanting to be happy.I sincerely hope you get a chance to listen all the way through as this episode has helped me personally understand a lot about grief and i wish nothing but love and success to Rammi and her family today, and my thoughts and prayers go out to Ty, may god rest his soul.Links to Rammi: https://instagram.com/rammi_682?igshid=zrvv92ndgl93Links to me:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/findyourvoicepodcastWebsite: https://www.healthxcel.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/findyourvoicepodcast/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhPodcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com/subscribeShow sponsor (Use Code FYV10 for 10% off):https://www.healthxcel.co.uk
11/7/2020

5 Ways to Avoid Panic Attacks #123

Ep. 123
5 Ways to Avoid Panic AttacksTRANSCRIPT FROM SHOW:So for anyone listening in the UK we are now undergoing a second lockdown, one which I know will have adverse effects on peoples mental and physical wellbeing, but sadly we are unable to do change the situation we are in.Therefore, it is essential we all try to at least make the best of the situation and I sincerely hope you all come out of this lockdown, whenever that may be happier, more fulfilled and most importantly healthier too.Now of course that may seem a stretch, but I am certain we can use this time to reflect, heal or even just active with walks and runs to really allow ourselves to realign and focus for hopefully a nice Christmas or a much better 2021.But anyways, I thought I would do some solo episodes over this period for which I hope you will find value from.And todays episode will be around Panic Attacks.The term panic attack has been getting misused a LOT recently. People tend to use it loosely — but a panic attack is a very specific kind of experience. This is when you suddenly feel an overwhelming amount of stress. It may come from the mind, but it can cause intense physical reactions such as chills or hot flashes, nausea, numbness, shakes, dizziness or in the worst of cases, a temporary loss of consciousness.Full Video version:https://youtu.be/0XMl3gZGC84Frequent panic attacks can become a hindrance in your daily life. But there are ways to control them, too. Here are 5 ways To Prevent Panic Attacks:1. Deep breathsBreathing is the way our bodies get oxygen. When you’re starting to get anxious, one of the first things that happen is that your breathing gets irregular, shorter, even if you don’t realise it. This limits the amount of oxygen that makes it to your brain — triggering a stress response that can fling you into a panic attack.When you begin to feel anxious, the first thing you should do is do some breathing exercises. This is one that doesn’t require remembering anything, you just need to listen to your body,Breathe in slowly through your nose, until you take a full belly breath.Breathe out just as slowly through your mouth,You’ll feel tingles in your chest and ears, that’s the anxiety leaving with each breath.Repeat until you feel better (it can take a few minutes, keep at it, you’ll get there)2. Catch it early onIt’s easier to stop a panic attack at it’s earlier stages. If you’ve struggled with anxiety and panic attacks for a while, chances are you know the early signs of one. These signs are different for everybody. Some experience an irregular heart rate as their first sign, some have trouble breathing, others experience dizziness that slowly gets worse until they pass out.If you can figure out where your panic attack begins, you can immediately jump into breathing exercises and calm yourself down before it gets to an actual panic attack. With time, you can learn how to avoid them before the first signs even show up!3. Close your eyesIf you’re in a very busy environment with too much going on, the stimulation from the environment can make your panic attack come on a lot faster. Since this is usually in public places you can’t exactly resort to someplace that feels safe like your bedroom, the next best thing is to close your eyes and take yourself “out” of the environment.Then, you’re only dealing with the noise, inside and outside of your head. Here, you revert back to simple breathing exercises, slowly relax your shoulder, unclench your hands and try to make your mind and body relax.Try to envision the anxiety travelling from your mind, down through your shoulder, making its way out of your body through your feet. This will stop a panic attack right in its tracks.4. Go to your happy placePanic attacks can be brought on by a lot of things. Often, it’s because you just have too many things in your mind. When you feel overwhelmed to the point that you can feel your thoughts getting jumbled up, try to get away from this “place” in your head.Think of a place that calms you, feels safe. This is different for everyone, it doesn’t have to be the thought of a beach or a vacation, it can be something as simple as your bedroom or your favourite corner of your home. Picture yourself being in this place. Then, breathe. You’ll start to calm down soon enough.5. H.A.L.THALT is an acronym for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired. The feeling you get when you’re experiencing any one of these 4 things can amplify and cause your body to go into a panic. If you feel yourself suddenly going into a panic attack without anything triggering it, it can be helpful to ask yourself “Am I hungry, angry, lonely or tired?”And so with that, I hope these truly help you and more importantly do not hesitate to reach out IF you ever just need a soundboard, a chat or someone to listen to you.Thanks for tuning in.Joe Dispenza Book:https://amzn.to/3dCArR0Episode on Perfectionism:https://shows.acast.com/findyourvoiceEpisode on forgiveness:https://youtu.be/Rq1oDkLYpqkBooks to buy:Buy Outwitting the Devil: https://amzn.to/3c97pGqBuy Principles: https://amzn.to/2ZOk1jsBuy How to stop worrying & start living: https://amzn.to/3esi4h4Buy The 4 hour work week: https://amzn.to/3cuAwnZBuy Essentialism: https://amzn.to/2xHUTiLBuy Mindset by Carol Dweck https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoicePodcast equipment recommended:Rodecaster Pro: https://amzn.to/2M36Lj5Rode podmic: https://amzn.to/36yfYcyRode NT-USB - https://amzn.to/2X7LsDpCameras:Sony DSCHX90 Digital- https://amzn.to/2TCAfIDCanon Powershot SX730 HS- https://amzn.to/2yQkbs6Canon EOS 4000D DSLR Cameraand EF-S 18-55 mm f/3.5-5.6 III Lens -https://amzn.to/2WYtWkTNikon D5300- https://amzn.to/3c825mNLogitech BRIO 4K webcam- https://amzn.to/3enEuA1Sony a6500 mirrorless- https://amzn.to/2ZAOJfWPodcast host (acast):Acast: https://open.acast.com/invite/r/arendeuLinks to me:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/findyourvoicepodcastWebsite: https://www.healthxcel.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/findyourvoicepodcast/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhPodcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com/subscribeShow sponsor (Use Code FYV10 for 10% off):https://www.healthxcel.co.uk
11/2/2020

Living with Aspergers & cerebral palsy - An unfiltered mind #122

Ep. 122
Telling people to choose themselves and be themselves in a world that often has our attention diverted whilst indirectly persuading us to conform, is tough. But for Daniel, he is blessed with an unfiltered mind to live life on his own terms. Well and truly, Daniel has found his own voice and also writes his only story every single day, without any concerns about the opinions of others.This conversation was also incredibly insightful due to Daniel, openly speaking about his lowered levels of empathy and the way he views and sees the world. His genuine happiness in how he lives for the days and moments is a gift for us all to take note off, regardless of whether it is down to him living with aspergers.A fascinating mind and one which hopefully helps give you all the perspective of life through someone elses eyes.PLEASE CHECK OUT OUR NEW SPONSOR: http://bit.ly/HealthXcelI urge you to follow his journey and I thank you once more for tuning in:)Joe Dispenza Book:https://amzn.to/3dCArR0Episode on Perfectionism:https://shows.acast.com/findyourvoiceEpisode on forgiveness:https://youtu.be/Rq1oDkLYpqkBooks to buy:Buy Outwitting the Devil: https://amzn.to/3c97pGqBuy Principles: https://amzn.to/2ZOk1jsBuy How to stop worrying & start living: https://amzn.to/3esi4h4Buy The 4 hour work week: https://amzn.to/3cuAwnZBuy Essentialism: https://amzn.to/2xHUTiLBuy Mindset by Carol Dweck https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoicePodcast equipment recommended:Rodecaster Pro: https://amzn.to/2M36Lj5Rode podmic: https://amzn.to/36yfYcyRode NT-USB - https://amzn.to/2X7LsDpCameras:Sony DSCHX90 Digital- https://amzn.to/2TCAfIDCanon Powershot SX730 HS- https://amzn.to/2yQkbs6Canon EOS 4000D DSLR Cameraand EF-S 18-55 mm f/3.5-5.6 III Lens -https://amzn.to/2WYtWkTNikon D5300- https://amzn.to/3c825mNLogitech BRIO 4K webcam- https://amzn.to/3enEuA1Sony a6500 mirrorless- https://amzn.to/2ZAOJfWPodcast host (acast):Acast: https://open.acast.com/invite/r/arendeuLinks to me:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/findyourvoicepodcastWebsite: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-...Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com/subscribeLinks to guest:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniel.laing.503The video to this will be out here soon: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbLhwrC1mwkMzOM2XyMIpEQr A channel I need to invest some time into, to share the visuals of such powerful stories.