Share
Finding You: with Dr. Brad Reedy
The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller - Ep 731
Dr. Reedy reviews what he considers to be the most important book written on the subject of child development and mental health. Alice Miller writes in her book, “Experience has taught us that we have only one enduring weapon in our struggle against mental illness: the emotional discovery of the truth about the unique history of our childhood…we must try, in a long process, to discover our own personal touch, a truth that may cause pain before giving us a new sphere of freedom. If we choose instead to content ourselves with intellectual ‘wisdom,’ we will remain in the sphere of illusion and self-deception. The damage done to us during our childhood cannot be undone, since we cannot change anything in our past. We can, however, change ourselves. We can repair ourselves and gain our lost integrity by choosing to look more closely at the knowledge that is stored inside our bodies and bringing this knowledge closer to our awareness. This path, although certainly not easy, is the only route by which we can at last leave behind the cruel, invisible prison of our childhood. We become free by transforming ourselves from unaware victims of the past into responsible individuals in the present, who are aware of our past and are thus able to live with it. Most people do exactly the opposite. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live in their repressed childhood situation, ignoring the fact that it no longer exists.
More episodes
View all episodes
Narcissism and the Wound Beneath - Ep 730
01:05:42|Dr. Reedy explains the diagnosis of NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and the wound that creates it. He explains the connection between this wound, defenses, and gaslighting. He talks about how narcissism isn't too much love or indulgence, but rather objectifying the child.
The Price We Pay for Self-Care (A.M.A.) - Ep 729
01:01:56|Dr. Reedy takes question from the audience on taking care of yourself and setting boundaries with your family to do so. He also talks about how our defense, our need to be good, will often result in gaslighting type behaviors. He takes question on how our children are our teachers and how symptoms can inform us about ourselves and others.
Psychodynamic Therapy: How Freud & Jung Got it Right Pt 1 - Ep 728
01:08:35|Dr. Reedy discusses psychodynamic informed therapy and how many of what we hear today is 100 years old. We just weren't ready to hear it when Freud and Jung were alive. He talks about the core of their work (and what people call "trauma-informed") is based on the idea that symptoms are messengers that we need to listen to rather than get rid of. He explains that the therapeutic relationship is the medicine where the client can re-experience themselves is a safe context.
Faith and Therapy - Ep 727
01:02:53|Dr. Reedy discusses faith in the context of depth psychology. He discusses spiritual bypassing, shame based religions, and how faith is not a search for certainty but a way of holding paradox and the mystery of what it means to be a finite person in an infinite universe. He explains how some versions of faith and religion serve as a defense against the uncertainty of life - how god can get in the way of finding God.
Why Boundaries Are Hard - Ep 726
56:37|Dr. Reedy addresses the barriers we encounter when we set boundaries. He talks about needing to be right vs. being a self. He explains how we try to change other people so we don't have to face changing ourselves.
Describing the Look and Feel of the Work (A.M.A.) - Ep 725
01:00:58|Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the live audience. He addresses the practical look/steps/feel of the work we are engaged in on our therapeutic journey. He talks about loneliness on the journey. And he explains the best way to invite loved ones into the work with you.
Logical Fallacies: Appeal to Authority vs. an Inner-Knowing - Ep 724
57:30|Dr. Reedy discusses the parallels between logical fallacies and addictive thinking, defined in "Addictive Thinking" as an inability to reason with oneself. He defines several fallacies and their psychological and relationship dynamics. He emphasizes the development of an inner-compass, in contrast to other methods for vetting truth. He discusses Kant's idea of the categorical imperative which states that we treat others as an end and not a means to an end, letting go of consequences we use to justify our behavior.
Big T and Small t Trauma - Ep 723
55:02|Dr. Reedy explains the difference between Big and Small T Trauma. He explains that in therapy, even when we are talking about the Big T story, we are still treating the Small t Trauma. He also discusses popular self-help ideas that he disagrees with.