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Our Autistic World - Amanda, The Autistic Educator
Season 4, Ep. 3
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Meet Amanda McGuinness, an incredible women and mother to 4 children - daughter Hayley and three autistic boys Conor, Jack and Max.
The arrival of Conor, Amanda's first son has taken her on an an exceptional 11 year journey from struggling to reach a diagnosis for her little baby to herself being diagnosed as autistic as an adult and now has become one of the leading autistic advocates in Ireland supporting thousands of families through littlepuddins.ie and the autistic educator.
Here with our host Sinead O'Moore she talks about those early signs, the judgements of others, how incredibly important finding a support system was for her and how her boys have transformed her life as she now understands and loves who she is.
*Trigger Warning
This journey is transformative and full of positivity and pride, but it also came with terribly low mental health days as Amanda describes the suicidal thoughts she experienced at the height of a period of depression which may effect listeners.
We want to thank Amanda for her honesty in discussing this with us as talking more openly really is the solution. If you need to talk about the issues raised in this episode please reach out to:
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