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Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto
60: How We Failed As New Parents with Steph and Alex.
Season 2, Ep. 60
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Today, we're pulling back the curtain on our parenting - and let’s just say, it wasn’t all sunshine and Instagram-worthy moments.
This is a bunch of things we wish we knew when we first became parents...
With Alex's childhood blueprint and programming the *polar opposite* of mine, we had a lot to unlearn (and re-learn) when it came to navigating the chaos of parenthood together.
We talk about: - How giving each other space saved us from spiralling arguments. - Why you should never take your kids’ words, or your partner’s emotions, personally. - Alex’s journey to taking accountability and breaking the cycle of reactive behaviour. - My struggle to ask for help and express my feelings (spoiler: it wasn’t pretty). - The power of understanding emotional hijacks and knowing when to step out of the situation- How to “strike when the iron is cold.” to prevent shame, blame and basically more conflict.
We’ll also explore how his upbringing (where emotions basically didn't exist) impacted our dynamic and how we’ve worked to defuse problems before they explode into snapping and snowballing.
It’s real, raw, and maybe even a little uncomfortable—but if you’ve ever felt like you’re failing as a parent or partner, trust us, you’re not alone. Tune in for honest lessons, practical tips, and a whole lot of heart.
Hope you guys enjoy.
(Please ask us questions! Send us your feedback! We need more content 😉)
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My new podcast is Emotionally Intelligent Parenting, check it out now at: https://www.stephaniepinto.com/podcast (or just search on your fav app).
Follow me on Insta @emotionally.intelligent.parent
Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 130,000+ parents in the community! 🎉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids
Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!
Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
💡 Head to https://www.stephaniepinto.com/ Or stalk me on the socials...Insta: https://www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent/FB: fb.com/stephpintoFB Business: fb.com/stephaniepintoeqcoach
This is a bunch of things we wish we knew when we first became parents...
With Alex's childhood blueprint and programming the *polar opposite* of mine, we had a lot to unlearn (and re-learn) when it came to navigating the chaos of parenthood together.
We talk about: - How giving each other space saved us from spiralling arguments. - Why you should never take your kids’ words, or your partner’s emotions, personally. - Alex’s journey to taking accountability and breaking the cycle of reactive behaviour. - My struggle to ask for help and express my feelings (spoiler: it wasn’t pretty). - The power of understanding emotional hijacks and knowing when to step out of the situation- How to “strike when the iron is cold.” to prevent shame, blame and basically more conflict.
We’ll also explore how his upbringing (where emotions basically didn't exist) impacted our dynamic and how we’ve worked to defuse problems before they explode into snapping and snowballing.
It’s real, raw, and maybe even a little uncomfortable—but if you’ve ever felt like you’re failing as a parent or partner, trust us, you’re not alone. Tune in for honest lessons, practical tips, and a whole lot of heart.
Hope you guys enjoy.
(Please ask us questions! Send us your feedback! We need more content 😉)
_________________________________________________________________________________
My new podcast is Emotionally Intelligent Parenting, check it out now at: https://www.stephaniepinto.com/podcast (or just search on your fav app).
Follow me on Insta @emotionally.intelligent.parent
Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 130,000+ parents in the community! 🎉 https://www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids
Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!
Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
💡 Head to https://www.stephaniepinto.com/ Or stalk me on the socials...Insta: https://www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent/FB: fb.com/stephpintoFB Business: fb.com/stephaniepintoeqcoach
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