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How to break the bystander effect with Julie Lalonde

Season 1, Ep. 6

Last fall, a woman was sexually assaulted on public transit in Philadelphia. And there was a ton of social media disbelief – how could other passengers just sit there and not do anything? 

That’s why I reached out to Julie Lalonde for my podcast. Julie is a women’s rights advocate and public educator, and she’s been teaching bystander intervention for over 10 years.

In this episode, Julie gives us life-changing tools for how to react when we witness harmful behaviour, whether it’s violence, hate crimes, catcalling, or online abuse. Ultimately, her tools are about creating safe communities and once I learned them, it changed the way I saw everything. 

This episode references sexual assault and gender-based violence. Please listen with care. 



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