You & I

In honour of the first anniversary of You & I, we hosted a LIVE episode on YouTube and Instagram where we answered some of the question submissions we haven’t yet explored. We took audience questions LIVE with one of my closest friends and people I go to regularly for advice, Caroline Boquist, who is the co-owner of Walrus in Vancouver, BC.Question 1: I'm married with kids. I love my husband and my kids but at the same time I'm not fulfilled by my relationship. I've started to develop strong feelings for someone else. It hasn't gone beyond a meeting for coffee and messaging. I don't know what to do. Please help?Question 2: How do you find balance between “life is too short” and still achieve goals and get through your daily routine?Question 3: I left my drug addict, in all ways abusive, partner after eight years about eight months ago. I was bold, convicted and finally strong enough to leave. But after almost a year, I am more wounded, battered and stuck in my trauma than ever before. Talk therapy is just talk for my mind to get in some words and for my heart to be emotional. But my body is stuck, frozen-filled with stress, trauma, cortisol, paralyzed with PTSD and all things in between. My question to you is, how do I thaw myself and help my body release all of this ‘stuff’?Question 4: How do you let go of personal guilt? Guilt is an overpowering emotion that takes up way too much space in my life. The bigger problem is, all my guilt is self-imposed and the person I feel most guilty about is…me. Most of my days are spent thinking about what or how I SHOULD be doing something, even when those around me encourage me or remind me I am doing so many great things. How do I let go of this guilt?This anniversary episode will be my last for a little while. In order to create the space needed to write my book, To You Who Wonders, You & I will be on hiatus. I love all the learning that has come from exploring your questions and I can’t wait to do this LIVE with you. We hope that you get something helpful out of this conversation. If anything, know that you’re not alone. You see, we all struggle, mourn, yearn, question, laugh and cry. No matter our age, background, or titles, at our core, we are all not so different, You & I. It needs to be said, I am not a professional, just someone with some personal experience to share. I do hope this is helpful, but as always, take the advice that resonates and ignore what doesn't. Don’t hesitate to seek out professional help through a trusted source. Resources on finding trusted professional help can be found here.Episode Resources:Jackie Kai Ellis: Website / InstagramCaroline Boquist: InstagramWalrus: Website / InstagramIndian Residential School Survivors Society: Website / 24-hr Crisis Line 1-800-721-0066You & I Podcast: Website / Instagram

To create space for Jackie to write her upcoming book, To You Who Wonders – an advice column meets memoir – she will be reading from her past column, Ask JKE, for Virtuvi's Natural Habitat Magazine.This week, she is answering the question "How would you handle an employer doubting your ability to manage projects when you know it stems from internalized racism and unconscious bias?" She reflects on the answer she wrote so many years ago and shares her reflections, what has evolved since, what she would have written differently or what she was experiencing at the time she wrote it.----We hope that you get something helpful out of this conversation. If anything, know that you’re not alone. You see, we all struggle, mourn, yearn, question, laugh and cry. No matter our age, background, or titles, at our core, we are all not so different, You & I.Episode Resources:Jackie Kai Ellis: Website / InstagramVitruvi's Natural Habitat Magazine: Website / InstagramYou & I Podcast: WebsiteResources on finding trusted professional help can be found here.

To create space for Jackie to write her upcoming book, To You Who Wonders – an advice column meets memoir – she will be reading from her past column, Ask JKE, for Virtuvi's Natural Habitat Magazine.This week, she is answering the question "How do I forgive myself for the way I acted at the height of my depression? How do I forgive myself for the pain I caused the ones I love? How do I forgive myself for losing myself...losing my spark? All the consequences of dealing with depression? How do I stay kind to myself when I know I am not showing up as my best self while still navigating emotional wounds and pain?" She reflects on the answer she wrote so many years ago and shares her reflections, what has evolved since, what she would have written differently or what she was experiencing at the time she wrote it.----We hope that you get something helpful out of this conversation. If anything, know that you’re not alone. You see, we all struggle, mourn, yearn, question, laugh and cry. No matter our age, background, or titles, at our core, we are all not so different, You & I.Episode Resources:Jackie Kai Ellis: Website / InstagramVitruvi's Natural Habitat Magazine: Website / InstagramYou & I Podcast: WebsiteResources on finding trusted professional help can be found here.

To create space for Jackie to write her upcoming book, To You Who Wonders – an advice column meets memoir – she will be reading from her past column, Ask JKE, for Virtuvi's Natural Habitat Magazine.This week, she is answering the question "When did you know you wanted to work for yourself? How did you decide? When did you know you were ready? How did you prepare to jump?" She reflects on the answer she wrote so many years ago and shares her reflections, what has evolved since, what she would have written differently or what she was experiencing at the time she wrote it. ----We hope that you get something helpful out of this conversation. If anything, know that you’re not alone. You see, we all struggle, mourn, yearn, question, laugh and cry. No matter our age, background, or titles, at our core, we are all not so different, You & I.Episode Resources:Jackie Kai Ellis: Website / InstagramVitruvi's Natural Habitat Magazine: Website / InstagramYou & I Podcast: WebsiteResources on finding trusted professional help can be found here.

Jackie will be exploring the listener question, "You give your all, you burn out, you resign, and your boss could care less. How do you restart fresh?"Tune in she and guest Kim Budziak dive into burnout, its roots in self-worth, how to heal from the emotional loss that comes from career and how to start new.----We hope that you get something helpful out of this conversation. If anything, know that you’re not alone. You see, we all struggle, mourn, yearn, question, laugh and cry. No matter our age, background, or titles, at our core, we are all not so different, You & I.Episode Resources:Jackie Kai Ellis: Website / InstagramKim Budziak: InstagramNorthwest Immigrant Rights Project: Website / InstagramYou & I Podcast: WebsiteResources on finding trusted professional help can be found here.

Tune in as Jackie explores her own identity and the ambiguity of who she is apart from who she is as a sister, a daughter, a mother, a wife, a business person and "multi-hyphenate." She delves into her own struggle and shares, not the wisdom of hindsight, but a perspective from inside the confusion.----We hope that you get something helpful out of this exploration. If anything, know that you’re not alone. You see, we all struggle, mourn, yearn, question, laugh and cry. No matter our age, background, or titles, at our core, we are all not so different, You & I.Make sure to listen until the end to hear the question we will be diving into on the next episode. And if you feel inspired to respond to this asker and are interested in being a guest of this episode, or if you have a short word of wisdom for them, write to us on the contact page on youandipodcast.com or DM us on Instagram at @youandi.podcast.Episode Resources:Jackie Kai Ellis: Website / InstagramYou & I Podcast: Website / InstagramResources on finding trusted professional help can be found here.

Jackie will be exploring the listener question, "How do I overcome imposter syndrome?" with guest, Ruchika Tulshyan. She is the best-selling author of Inclusion on Purpose: An Intersectional Approach to Creating a Culture of Belonging at Work and a regular contributor to The New York Times and Harvard Business Review for which she co-wrote the article, "Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome."Tune in as they dive into the roots of imposter syndrome, how it disproportionately affects women of colour, and how systemic bias and exclusion exacerbate and pathologize insecurity.----We hope that you get something helpful out of this conversation. If anything, know that you’re not alone. You see, we all struggle, mourn, yearn, question, laugh and cry. No matter our age, background, or titles, at our core, we are all not so different, You & I.Episode Resources:Jackie Kai Ellis: Website / InstagramRuchika Tulshyan: Website / InstagramNo Kid Hungry: Website / InstagramYou & I Podcast: Website Resources on finding trusted professional help can be found here.

For today’s mini episode, Jackie will explore two very similar questions that our listeners sent in..They write:Can I ask a very personal question? How old are you? I am 40 and trying to get pregnant and having trouble and, at the end of the day, wondering if I’m too old to have the energy to be a mom. You look very happy with your choice to be a mom.And another listener wrote:I’d love it if Jackie could talk about what it’s like becoming a mom later in life if that’s not too personal to share. I’m in my late 30s and am looking into my options of becoming a mom soon. Tune in to hear Jackie explore the topic of becoming a mom "later in life" in the most vulnerable and truest of ways. And make sure to listen until the end to hear the question we will be diving into on the next episode. And if you feel inspired to respond to this asker and are interested in being a guest of this episode, OR if you have a short word of wisdom for them, write to us on the contact page on youandipodcast.com or DM us on instagram at @youandi.podcast.This podcast is produced by More Good Media. Episode Resources:Jackie Kai Ellis: Website / InstagramYou & I Podcast: WebsiteResources on finding trusted professional help can be found here.